Have you ever had a crush while you were married?

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Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

I'm getting married in July so not married yet but in a very settled relationship.

For along time whilst in the relationship I didn't find other men attractive but then we moved to his town were everyone is super good looking and friendly so it become hard not to get a little bit of a crush on certain people but it was only getting serious once and we both decided to distance ourselves from each other for the sake of both are relationships.

I think its okay to find another person attractive we are all human and have eyes as long as you don't act on it and stay loyal there shouldn't be a issue.

Obviously if my man was being a complete creep over a girl I'd have a issue but if it's innocent I might be jealous but it's something I'd have to get over and same goes for me.

I'm always 100000% honest with my partner and whenever we see someone fit well usually be like to each other "fucking hell she's/ he's fit"

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

not really married but i was in a long term relationship. i had a crush on a gut who is a look-alike of an actor in my country John Lloyd Cruz. he is seated in front of me at my review center. i cannot focus tbh because he really looks like JLC and he keep tirning around because his friend is seated beside me all the more i cannot focus. but then i feel like i'm committing a sin against my boyfriend at that time so i transfer at the very back on which i cannot see what's written on the chalkboard i have to but eyeglasses for it.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

It’s natural to feel attracted to other people but it becomes a problem if you seriously are considering acting on it.

I always noticed other women suddenly became available at the worst possible time when I was in a long term relationship. Some very attractive too. This happens to men often because:

We are usually more relaxed around other woman because we are already taken. We are actively looking to get someone else (most of the time)
Many women (not all but too many in my opinion) find taken men more attractive. All because he is tested by another woman and “in demand”.

I know that strays from your question. But it’s not a serious deal if you feel attracted to other people just as long as you got the respect not to act on it.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Just because you get a bit of paper , this does not stop you lusting after others , and wanting others all the time , and others wanting you , its no different whatever your circumstance , the easiest women to get sexually are married , as they are all bored shtless , so the pretense of the question is illusion complete and utter .

The answer is Yes , Yes and Yes..

Plus I just worked it out the other day , I have had sex with 11 married women ( when I was single , and considered " safe " , which I was ) , so never ever think that marriage changes a dam thing , thats fiction , especially after 10 years plus.

V_Injector · Answer

Sexual attraction doesn't stop happening just because of some other factor. So you already know my answer is yes.  My wife knows I will bang her when I find the chance

OlderAndWiser · Answer

While I was married, I have met a few girls who I would have pursued if I had been single. I did nothing to pursue them - not even "harmless" flirting - and did not dwell upon them.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes a few times but I never acted on it , even though at times i wish I did , if I knew then on how my marriage was going to turn out lol

bjork · Answer

Feeling a crush while you’re married can be a real rollercoaster of emotions. It’s confusing, for starters. Here you are, committed to your spouse, and suddenly you find yourself attracted to someone else. This can bring on some guilt, as you might wonder if it says something about your happiness or satisfaction with your current relationship.

At the same time, there’s an undeniable excitement that comes with new affection or attraction. It’s natural to feel a bit energized by these feelings, even if they’re unexpected.

These feelings are pretty common and don’t have to be a red flag for your relationship. The key thing is how you handle these feelings—acknowledging them and dealing with them thoughtfully is important to keep your marriage strong and healthy.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Human nature to have passing attraction. It's chemical. But happy people don't process signals past the initial awareness. For me it's a hard no. Very happy here.

Anonymous · Answer

I would imagine this is common. Because you don't die when you marry and there may be temptation. But you do have responsibilities, do have a value system and priorities and hopefully remember why you married and where your long term interests and goals are. And stay on mission.

Trutention · Answer

Yes. My best friend’s brother is my crush before I met my husband and her brother is still my crush now. Now I am married but also sleeping with my best friend’s brother.

avery58 · Answer

I'm not married but yuck, no, I don't think I will... Cause I'll cut off making any male friends, I have my priorities straight

Wausguy85 · Answer

Most people would have a crush whether they in a marriage or long term relationship a "crush" could range from someone you know from the day to day or a celebrity on tv, movies or music so I'd say it's only natural would you act on it 25% of people will, the rest won't act on it although some would still fantasize about acting on it.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I'm sure it does happen. Most happily married people would never act on them though. They'd just have it as a crush and keep it as that.

bobalife · Answer

Can’t relate to anyone who normalize this, too loyal af to even consider someone else once I’m with someone. That’s what commitment means.

Anonymous · Answer

Not married yet but in a long term relationship. I personally can still find other people attractive but I don’t develop crushes anymore. My heart belongs to my man. Not sure if I can say the same about him tho lol

genericname85 · Answer

i was never married but i would assume that the point of "loyalty" isn't to never have any feelings for anyone else. but to stay with your partner despite them.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Being married doesn’t make one immune to finding other people attractive.

JacobJordan · Answer

Nope. Only way that could happen is if I spent enough time with a woman to develop an emotional connection. And I only spend time with my wife

PreferNot2Say · Answer

We need a billion more women like you. Your husband hit the jackpot with you.

sheikalana · Answer

Nope and I doubt that's ever going to happen.

JayBones2469 · Answer

I had a 6 year affair with my best friend of 25 years. Dumb bitch went ghost when I suggested I divorce my wife for her.

Anonymous · Answer

Being married doesn't mean I stop being attracted to other women, it just means I don't act on the attraction.

Iron_Man · Answer

I’ve never been married and there’s no sense of having a crush once you’re married

CindyRuns · Answer

Definitely yes - Acted on it... definitely not !!!

IslaTheWitch · Answer

no, I'm focused on my partner

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

I have wanted to take my share of women to bed but didn't.

DishLady · Answer

Nope. Kept both eyes on my guy.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Nope. That would be unwise to even consider!

Mr_twoface · Answer

No, not yet. Been married two years!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Crushes are for teenagers.

slatyb · Answer

Of course, but I don't pursue them.

YourLatinLover · Answer

Oh definitely jaja

DonVitoCorleone · Answer

Many times 🇮🇹🇮🇹🇮🇹🇷🇺

jahaims · Answer

No, I'm not trash

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes, crush is liking

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