Why do young women marry older men?

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bowenw · Accepted Answer

Some women are looking for maturity in a partner that they cannot find in someone their own age.

Amur8711 · Accepted Answer

Women want a man that has his priorities straight, young men often don't.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

After a break up with my ex fiancé who was young, I got more attracted to older men. I would never imagine that.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well I would hope it would be because they love them they feel safe and secure around them and their best friends I would hope

Summeroflove · Answer

Not all of them do. Just some who have superficial dating standards and it hardly ever works.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, it’s not common, but it’s usually for financial reasons.

RavVid · Answer

I've known young women to express admiration for silver foxes. As men age they acquire more of sense of authority and command. I hope I do!

I imagine if such a man has respect then the status he has is attractive to women. His status protects her and women like to feel protected. Plus he is likely to have more resources.

Back in the stone age, the woman of an elder of the tribe would have elevated status and get more of the food resources as would her children.

We know women have a preference for men to be older from marriage stats and 10% of marriages have a 10 year + age gap. So it is not common but is not unusual.

imtiaz45 · Answer

Young women may marry older men for various reasons, often depending on individual preferences and circumstances. Some are attracted to the maturity, stability, and life experience that older men can offer, which may contrast with the perceived uncertainty of younger relationships. Older men may be more established in their careers, financially secure, and emotionally grounded, qualities that can appeal to younger women seeking stability.

Additionally, some may feel a deeper emotional connection or shared values with older partners, while others are drawn to the sense of security or mentorship that such relationships can bring. However, these dynamics vary from couple to couple, and relationships thrive when based on mutual respect and understanding.

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blueonblack22 · Answer

9 out of 10 times it’s because the older man is likely more established and can provide for her (money).

But it can also about viewing the older man as more mature and compatible. In general women mature emotionally much faster than young men do. Especially at your age. Most teenage girls are way ahead of teenage boys when it comes to this. But this is a generality and there always be exceptions.

Also I do not believe this is “socially created”. This is due to thousands of years for evolution. That doesn’t make it right or wrong. That just makes it is what it is.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's nature. Females are physically weaker and less aggressive and therefore less able to provide for and protect themselves and their children so they are looking for someone who can provide and protect. Older men are more able to do that because they have more wisdom and more means.

The "means" part is why it is often said that the younger women are looking for money. And it's true because they're looking for someone who can provide and protect. And the more wealth the man has and more capable he is of doing that.

Nonamez · Answer

Most common reason is money , other then that could be because they met too many immature men , who treated them not the best way , so more likely older men will be more loyal , taking care , for some females that gives feeling of safety and trust , obviously older man more likely to take care of a younger lady , because they consider them lucky , older men who has plenty of money , they only "buy" younger woman and merry them , it is just another contract in them life , just a usual business 😳🤔👀

Anonymous · Answer

It's because they manipulate them and control young women who are in a weaker position in life financially with their male privilege and money. It's creepy old predatory like P. Diddy, Harvey Weinstein, Jay Z, Jeffery Epstein, and Donald Trump that go for young women and girls because they are ugly and would have no success with women if they didn't have power and control over businesses and careers.

Jay Z at age 27 said he was just friends with Aaliyah who was 15 years old at the time. Why would a 27 year old man want just to be friends with a 15 year old girl? They don't have anything in common. He just wants groom her and use her naivety to take advantage of her and use her for sex.

Sometimes they may just be an older man and the women is of age, but it's still similar the woman is in a weak position in life so a grown man shows her money and then he takes advantage of her.

They promise a good life at first, but then they abuse the women later on

hahahmm · Answer

Surveys find that women are more attracted to traditional masculinity than the new version where you have dudes guzzling soy milk and acting more like females. As the number of traditional males shrinks in western society the numbers of young women getting with older dudes will increase. And no, I personally am not looking for that, just saying.

Gwendoline · Answer

Well my husband is older. Not too old. I guess because they are more mature than boys my age, further along in their lives and more ready to settle down. In my opinion a guy might be older than you but less mature, guys really only start coming into their own as men until maybe 28 or 29.

mstbooblover · Answer

Young women marrying older men has probably to do with a very old instinct, at least if not forced by local customs. Let me explain by telling about many wild animals, where older males have plainly proven their ability to survive, and thus may be more able to provide protection and food.

In humans, there may also be the Oedipus thing and the father figure.

Anonymous · Answer

well a lot of young women complain about young men being "allergic" to commitment and supposedly being "immature" because of video games, porn, partying, hanging out with mates etc.

then as both men and women get older, those same women are complaining that men don't want them and want younger women

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Feet, nose, and penis are the three body parts that get continually larger throughout a person's life.

A typical fifty year old man's penis is fourteen inches long, and nine inchess around. A typical eighty year old man's penis is twenty-seven inches long, and weighs about thirty pounds.

A lot of women can't resist that.

Kelley1 · Answer

They marry older men for money and status. Otherwise, very few young women marry men more than several years older.

SuckOnThisOpinion · Answer

Somewhere around the age of 60, men can experience their first introspective thoughts and some of them even learn how to use the washing machine.

Rachey1986 · Answer

I can't speak for everyone, but for me it was attraction. Someone who was more mature, worldly and knew what he wanted. And he was damn good looking.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

They probably experienced something inappropriate with their uncles which gave them the delusion that it’s totally normal to be into someone who’s old enough to be your grandparent

rienna888 · Answer

I guess cause older men are believed to have their life together. Also can provide for the young woman. They also see the younger women as trophy so will value her more than young men who have more options and want to experience

rachel776 · Answer

if i marry Boyfriend then the older part's built-in 🤷‍♀️

strateguy632 · Answer

They don't.  Unless he has money to buy her stuff. In the old days they had a name for that exchange.

Miristheiss · Answer

Wealth, confidence, maturity, resources, their kids will be taken care of, power, prestige, she may have father issues.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Depends on what (if anything) they have in common, as well as how young he looks, and whether or not he's rich and if she's a gold digger or not.

Tomisworthless · Answer

theyre financially stable and sexually up to par with the women. Most girls have sex at young age so theyre much more 'mature' than men their age as most men have no pull on women. Source 30yr old virgin

FreyaRed · Answer

It's not their rancid dick or their faded look, that's for sure.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Security, stability... they feel loved and safe to make their life.

SiegmundWalsung · Answer

Safety. The whole difference in maturity thing is just because women can't voice why they want older men for some stupid reason.

TurtlePoop · Answer

Only thing that comes to mind is dirty joke. LOL

Open-minded99 · Answer

They love us. More mature and we know what we want. They like being submissive to us

jshm2 · Answer

Anything from security to status.  But I doubt many do it for the love alone.

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s how the world works. It’s attraction it’s being on the same page biologically and having more things in common

am1237 · Answer

well because older men give them a sense of protection. they are mature unlike some young men but hey you can still find a older men who is not so mature and a younger man who is mature and has his priorities straight

Fireguy17 · Answer

Daddy issues, for what they can offer them, money

Anonymous · Answer

Status, influence, power, money.  They can seem like they have all the resources, all the answers she'll ever need. And to some, that's very attractive.

superchan2011 · Answer

Could be because they click. age doesn't matter when it comes to that.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Money. As soon as he says "I do," she is financially set for life regardless of what happens. You'll notice that those young women are never rich, and the older men are never poor.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Hopefully for love but for some it is for the momney

Asb_Samson · Answer

Tell me the range of Older men's please. I am 43 Years Young now and will be 60 Years Young even after 17 Years ahead.

noohair · Answer

They apperciate maturity. How mature are the boys around you now? Do you think they will become men in 5 years?

DishLady · Answer

Money/stability/both.

snermcger · Answer

Stability. You are hardwired to secure two things. A genetically strong child and a mate that can ensure its survival. Successful, older men provide both.

chenyu · Answer

I am the same. I like those who are over 45 years old.

Stella1990_ · Answer

People think they are more “mature “ I my friend dating younger guy more maturity then her ex.

elaphe · Answer

Hopefully for the same reasons as anyone, because they love them.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

maybe bcz older men are settled in their lives while most young guys are still struggling

Slim57 · Answer

Because older men are usually settled, financially stable, and more mature

Anonymous · Answer

Mostly because those men are rich. But I think not all women are like that.

236color · Answer

Mostly because they have more money.

avery58 · Answer

Usually gold diggers

katiesmuff · Answer

The vast majority it is for MONEY!

Apple1996 · Answer

They're looking for a daddy

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Cause we got our shit together.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

🤵🏼💰 > 😵⚰️🪦 = 🤵🏻‍♀️💰

exitseven · Answer

they have daddy issues and he is rich

Med_guy1978 · Answer

Youth usually equals beauty.

worldscolide · Answer

Security and maturity..

Ethan_T · Answer

Probly cuz they r rich

Intheclouds00 · Answer

Maybe Love, maybe Daddy issues. Maybe both.

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