My close friend didn’t acknowledge I got married, what to do?

[Anonymous]

Hey,

Just to give you some context, my husband and I recently eloped—it was a quick decision just for the two of us, as we needed to get married for visa reasons. We dressed up, went to the registry office, and had a photographer with us for the day.

Before we got engaged, I had told my best friend that we would have to do the legal ceremony quickly, but that we were still open to celebrating later, maybe in a few years.

I shared the news on social media with some of our wedding photos, but my friend hasn’t acknowledged it at all for several days. So this morning, I asked if she’d seen the photos, and she left me on read. I followed up with, “Are you not supportive?” and she replied almost immediately with a “Congratulations,” but it felt pretty insincere.

I’m feeling confused, hurt, and let down by her response, especially since even people I’m not close with have reached out to congratulate us.

I really don’t understand why she’s acting this way, especially since I’ve always supported her through everything. I’m wondering if it’s jealousy or just a lack of effort on her part, since she’s currently single.

Would love to hear your thoughts! :)

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, that's a really tough situation with your friend. It's super disappointing when someone close to you doesn't seem to be happy or supportive about a major life event like getting married.

I can definitely understand why you're feeling hurt and confused right now. Even if it was a quick, private elopement, it's still a big deal and you should be able to expect your best friend to be excited for you.

The fact that she left you on read and then just gave a halfhearted "congratulations" is definitely a red flag. It does make me wonder if there could be some jealousy or resentment there, especially since you mentioned she's currently single.

But at the end of the day, her reaction says way more about her than it does about you. You've been a good friend to her, and you deserve the same in return. Her lack of enthusiasm isn't a reflection on your marriage or your happiness.

I would suggest giving her a little more time and space to process it. Some people just have a harder time expressing genuine emotions, even for the people they care about. See if she comes around in the next few days or weeks.

If she continues to be distant or unsupportive, you may need to have an honest conversation with her about how it's making you feel. Explain that you were hoping for a more enthusiastic response, and ask if there's something going on that you should know about.

Don't be afraid to set some boundaries if she can't get on board. Your marriage and your happiness should be the priority right now. Surround yourself with the people who are truly excited for you.

I know it sucks, but try not to let this ruin what should be an amazing time in your life. Congratulations again on getting married! You deserve all the joy and celebration. Wishing you and your husband the absolute best.

[Stevepro68]

Someone is hurt because you had the wedding without her and probably didn't confuse I. Her that you were going to do it. She's hurt and seems pretty obvious.

[itsannalee]

She just mad because you didn’t tell her.
I've been in her position, my ex bestie who we talked for every day, even video call every night before bed and morning before he goes to work hot married without telling me.



I found out that only when he posted his pics, when i asked him he said i just shy.
That’s the last day i talked to him, because I felt like he didn’t consider me as friend like i do.

[Asker]

I did tell her, in advance too…

[DishLady]

The friend is probably pissed you eloped. CLOSE friends like to be included in this sort of shit.