Best wife but issues, ways to explain to her I'm jealous and have been hurt before without it making me seem overly selfish?

[SecretLaugh]

Never seems like my affection and attention are enough for her. A comment from a stranger will mean more to her for 2 weeks then all the love praise and encouragement I can give her.

Will she ever turn to me for praise and attention or will it never be enough and she will always need others?

How do I know it won't turn into wanting more from others? She has mentioned a 3 some dream with 2 of me a few times. Maybe hinting she wants someone else too but does not want to hurt me by saying yeah she wants 2 people sometimes not just me!

Growing up she did not get much attention she still gets some now but her being so happy with me telling her what a great outfit and how pretty she is just seems expected not needed.

Being married just want her all to myself! No one else but not saying we won't go to the beach and love the compliments and being looked at. Not saying others can't find her beautiful. Just want to help her fill that need! Not feeling drained needing to for something maybe I can't.

[ohsheeT]

Well congratulations your on your way to divorce when one person can not except there spouse being who they are and Vice versa and just except who they that's the reason you hot together when one thinks there not good enough They sabotage the relationship. In so many way its sad to what h and there always there's someone else better than them and they gight themselves and there partner just because of In security.
And jealousy your on a bad path that will come to a dead end just a matter of time .

You have to understand thats just who she is except her

[SecretLaugh]

Nice projecting! Yeah your the one who wanted the poly relationship and got shafted by her! She ruined you good!

[ohsheeT]

She must have because I don't remember. And just to let you know, what I said was to help you, and you just proved something. Not to me, but you're not what just said it had nothing to do with me. But you just made it about me and her. See, this is what I'm talking about. If you love it, you have to stop others with ur going to lose her.

[molonski2]

So its a same sex actual marriage correct? How long have you actually been married for? And how long have you been together overall? I think these points are important.

[SecretLaugh]

Correct and it will be 4 years coming up. 5 years dating.

[molonski2]

Married 4 years? Going out 5 ? Correct

[SecretLaugh]

Correct

[molonski2]

I think she is still adjusting to the idea of actually being married , if you set aside some time to talk this though , and explain to her your fears and what happened prior , I'm certain you can achieve compromise.

[SecretLaugh]

Even after so long she is adjusting or just wondering if she can push it that way?

[molonski2]

I dont think she wishes to push you away , you said that prior she was never " sort after " or the like , I think its a reaction to this time she lost in her life , and she enjoys the attention.

[SecretLaugh]

Thanks it still hurts even after explaining it to her. She might be just wanting more and being greedy! Want her greedy for me!

[Anonymous]

She will never understand, because she has not experienced the pain you have.

[SecretLaugh]

Well a lot of people have been but won't understand also. She is very princess minded
Her pain is more no one noticed her.

[Opinion Owner]

Everybody encounters pain throughout life. Some just handle it better than others.

[SecretLaugh]

And keep others from it

[jahaims]

Expressing yourself isn't selfish.

[Godihateyou]

What? Can you try again in English

[SecretLaugh]

It not first language

[Godihateyou]

Then I apologize for being rude. Many English speakers cannot speak English so my comment is often said to stupid English speakers. Use Google Translate. It is very good.