Would you marry your best friend?

Question

If you had given up on love and wanted a sensible marriage, would you marry your best friend?

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I don’t understand marriages that aren’t with your best friend. Now everyone’s different and seeks different things in a marriage so I’m not knocking other people. My point of view…

I couldn’t see myself marrying someone who isn’t my best friend. Many marriages in best cases are transactional in worst cases it’s a one sided hell hole with one person giving their all and another… just a useless vessel a useless eater and consumer. Until you’re completely drained. A transactional relationship is okay as long as both persons are honest with one another.

A real marriage is built on equal work. I don’t care what roles you decide to take on even a traditional relationship (done right) is both persons working equally as hard in separate roles. Not a man working 70+ hours a week to come home to a lazy nagging ungrateful woman who refuses to lift a finger either getting a job or around the house. It’s also not borh people working 40-70 plus hour jobs. For the woman to do all the housework and childcare.

I digress on that issue. Yes. It should be built on a genuine companionship. I just couldn’t imagine going to bed and waking up with someone who I don’t share that kind of bond with. Someone I can tell anything to and who can do the same. Someone who you can laugh and cry together… be vulnerable and being vulnerable isn’t just crying. It’s being your true authentic self. The person you are when you’re alone. I couldn’t imagine not being able to be myself inside my own home… that sounds miserable. But it’s the reality for MILLIONS of men and women out there. Who have to constantly play a act until they break completely.

Sure. To the world I can put on a face. I want someone whose my support and I’m hers. Behind the scenes. We are one… we aren’t one another’s adversary but companions. On the same team….

I know relationships aren’t perfect. But I genuinely can’t imagine…. I don’t ever want to live miserable in a miserable marriage. I’ve seen so many people suffer…. And get divorced. Get cheated and used… and I would rather be single. Yeah it would be great to have kids. It would be great to have someone. But it’s better to dwell in the wilderness rhen with the wrong person.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

When your in a relationship and your going to get married.

It better be to your best friend

Because if he is not your best friend and you get married but there is another guy who you call best friend there something wrong with that picture. And you asking did you settle

Unycorn · Accepted Answer

No. Friendship... I lost such a good one. I would never do it again. Boyfriends may change but a real good friend is so much better. You can share thoughts and also sorrows at 3am...

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, if your best friend shares your values, respects your boundaries, and makes life feel lighter, marrying them makes sense.  Friendship is the foundation, love is the bonus.

HawkPerception · Answer

I think your partner should be your best friend. They can start out as solely your romantic interest, but the aim should always be to have that best friend and partner in crime you can sail through life with. Someone you can lean on for support, someone who can laugh with you, cry with you, be excited with you, etc. Someone you can tell anything and everything to. Someone you can truly be yourself around, and vice-versa.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My best friend is a dude! No Way!

Twalli · Answer

I wouldn't marry anyone I'm not in love with. I won't date anyone who isn't a friend either. I don't even consider dating anyone before they become a friend. If she doesn't like the same things, then we're not friends, and I won't ask her out. My fiancée likes a lot of the same things I do. There are some differences, but we don't need to align on everything, just enough that we always have things we enjoy doing.
My girlfriend is not into video games, anime, or football (although I prefer college). Yet we like several TV shows, baseball, bowling, and several other things we can do around here. I try to ensure that I do things that she doesn't like when she's not here and do things that she likes when she is.

DextroShade · Answer

I will say what this really means in practice.

For women: "Are you willing to marry the beta male you kept in the friend-zone after you hit the wall and Chad no longer wants anything to do with you?"

For men: "Are you willing to be a consolation prize for a woman who has ridden the cock carousel and is only with you because the guys she's actually attracted to one wanted her for sex?"

ABC1x1x · Answer

God i wish I was gay enough to. I would have been so much happier. he's just got no tits. Way to much dick. And Hairy everything for me. he's half Asian. His pubes are straight and spiked. Its off putting. Other than that we are a perfect match on everything.. oh he likes the Mets and im a Phillies guy.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

I've personally always found it a little cringey if couples describes themselves that way.  The same way showboating couples : showboat 👀😶

Anonymous · Answer

I had an arrangement set up with one of my guy friends on if we were both single we'd get married we had the same values he had the money to take care of me ans he loved how I cooked and baked

Lionman95 · Answer

No because I´m not gay. All the people I would consider candidate for best friends are male.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

I did marry my best friend. We just don't have the piece of paper yet.

BadApple69 · Answer

Your partner in life should be your best friend. So yes.

NoDecision · Answer

My best friend is female, so that would be a "no".

exitseven · Answer

I did have a female friend that would have made a good wife. If we were both single by the time we got to be 40 it would be an option.

douride2 · Answer

I couldn't marry my best friend. He is already married.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah if my best friend was a woman but I don’t have any women friends

Ariesman81 · Answer

Probably. As long as he's cool with me talking with other bitches

wkhan_87 · Answer

Why not , i think it will be best marriage.. by the way my wife was not my close friend

Anonymous · Answer

😆, I wouldn't marry anybody BUT my best friend.🤦‍♂️

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Some'uh the happiest couples, started off as friends!

Ava007 · Answer

No I see my best friend as a sister and she straight.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I already did.

Agape93 · Answer

If he asked, yeah.

linka_pat307 · Answer

If he meets the qualities

jahaims · Answer

No, I'm not a desperate loset

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Maybe if i had a female best friend but i don't...

beenherebefore · Answer

No, he's gay.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but I'd marry her mom.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't. A best friend cannot be a husband.

Gagforlifetime · Answer

If there is chemistry yes

Erellvy · Answer

Yes.

sportsbraslikes · Answer

Of course

Bloodparadise · Answer

No..

shortster · Answer

If she got a divorce

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn't.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes, sure

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