It would probably be polite to attend shortly, exchange pleasantries, give her a gift, mingle, and if nothing of interest seems apparent to you, leave promptly. Women are crafty creatures, and they enjoy seeing men squirm. If you were together for four years, there is absolutely no way she can't still care about you in some form. She may just want you to be around, or she may want to play with your heart (only you can predict this based on her personality).
If you do go, do not allow yourself to show any signs of weakness or reaction to things like her new boyfriend, or any odd behavior she may demonstrate. Be friendly, but guarded against whatever she may pull. Even if you aren't over her, at least act like you are secure and at peace with where you are in life right now.
-Count D.
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I think that you should tell her you're going to go but DO NOT GO. Send her a happy bday text but that's it.
honestly If you dont' feel comfortable (I sense that you aren't) then don't go-I would feel awkward-I'll say "hapy birthday" and just not go-I mean for me unless I am cool with seeing them together and stuff then sure but if I want nothing to do with them, I'll just not show up-no shame in that-just do what feels comfortable-I'd just show up if I did go and I wouldn' t buy my ex boyfriend a present
Sweetie from my experience with guys since I am a girl I don't think it would be bad and yet again once I think about it if you have a girlfriend woooooo 'REDFLAG' NO WAY yo girlfriend would be p*ssed so I say no but if not honey be my guest go 4 it!
Well it depends. How would you feel seeing her with someone else if you were so brokenhearted not so long ago? It may reopen those wounds.
She probably invited you so that she could stay in touch with you or to simply make you jealous.
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unless you are going to have mutual friends there at the party or you can go with another friend.. male or female.. you wouldn't want to look alone..all the best.. I know how you feel... its conflicted.
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