Should I tell my boyfriend about my birthday?

[Anonymous]

So I was wondering if its my responsibility to tell my boyfriend that my bday is coming up?.ive already tried to hint to him about it but he doesn't respond. the reason I'm asking is because my best guy friend is throwing me a party at a club and its 18+ for girls but 21+ for guys and my boyfriend won't be able to go. I want to know if I should automatically ASSUME that my boyfriend wants to do something with me on my bday or just plan my own thing and tell my boyfriend tough luck if he wants to try and plan something last minute. my bday is in 2 weeks and he hasn't mentioned anything about hanging out with me on my bday. what do I do?

thanks

Updates

+1 y

forgot to mention that my boyfriend lives in a different city for school and he will be here for a week then he leaves the week b4 my bday. I asked if he had any reason to come back down and he said no. so what does this tell you?

Updates

+1 y

he only lives an hour away.

[gravygirl]

Yeah, you should tell him. And I don't think you should let another guy plan a birthday event for you that would exclude him. That seems like you're trying to hurt his feelings or make him jealous or something. I would be so hurt if some girl planned a birthday event for my boyfriend that excluded me. Besides, you should want to spend your birthday with your boyfriend. If you don't, why would you be together?

[bubblyblonde]

No don't assume anything, why, because how would you feel if your birthday came and he did nothing and you'd canceled your plans!?! Carry on with your plans, if he moans later, tell him well he never mentioned anything so how were you to know.

[Asker]

This is what everyone is telling me. my friend is already going through with the plans anyway. maybe I could spend the day with my bday then party that night. I don't know. I don't want to dissapoint my friend since he is spending al ot of money for the club. but then I don't want to think my boyfriend is planning something and then he doesnt.....gosh. I'm so confused. thanks for the answers

[gravygirl]

I think he may have forgotten that it's your birthday. Seriously. Or he's planning some kind of surprise thing and is trying to fake you out. Just in case it's the first, you should mention it. It's not like you guys have been together for years and he's gone through several of these. He's still new enough that it's okay for him not to remember.

[Anonymous]

if he hasn't mentioned then be flat out with him and say, since you and I cannot seem to make plans together for my birthday and my friend is planning on a party for me, I would like to go and enjoy myself. let him know that you are not being spiteful, but that since he hasn't approached the situation with you, despite your bringing it up, you should go with your friends. do not kiss his butt trying to get him to make plans with you. the day will end up miserable for you and not worth your time. your friend wants to spend it with you and made the initiative do not disappoint that friend. esp. not over last minute plans. go have fun.

[sassysenorita]

you need to talk to him and let him know your plans and remind him of the date. never assume guys remember dates; as women we can't sit there and let them do all the work.

[993099142]

Tell him so he doesn't plan a big surprise for you and then discover that you couldn't make it. That would devastate him.

[Anonymous]

Tell him your so excited for ur birthday in 2 weeks and tell him about the plans ur friend made for you. See what he says after that. If he asks what you want for your birthday day tell him to spend ur bday with him!

[hime-sama]

tell him he is supposed to know he's your boyfriend

[Shlei3]

How long have you been dating him?

[Asker]

Since april

[Shlei3]

5 months...hmmm. Ok I would tell him that it's your birthday and you'd like to spend time with him. See what he says. I personally would feel weird having a party and not being able to have him there. But see what he would like to do.

[tntsz-cuttie-pie]

yu shuld tell him =]