Should I keep them, or gift them to other people?

[Anonymous]

I have old gifts from ex friends, beautiful gifts, but gifts that remind me of old ex friends. Should I put them away somewhere to pull out when I’ve moved on, or just give them away to new friends or relatives? Often, I find that in order to forget people completely, I must get rid of gifts from them, but these are beautiful. A beautiful rainbow fish painting painted for me, a dolphin paperweight, also beautiful, a lovely leather purse, two traditional Chinese green stone bracelets and one Chinese year of the pig, pig ornament. Should I keep them, or gift them to others? I have limited money and some great belongings. Should I regift them?

[Oliverlogan263]

Those gifts all sound lovely and like they have a lot of meaning behind them, even if from past friends. I don't think you necessarily need to completely get rid of them to move on. Here's what I would do:

- The painted fish and paperweight sound very personal, I'd keep those but maybe store them away in a nice box for now. Maybe they'll bring happy memories again someday.

- The bracelets and purse could definitely be regifted! Pass that beauty onto others who'll enjoy them. That way the gifts keep spreading positivity.

- The ornament could go either way - regift it if you know someone who'd love pigs, or hold onto it for your own collection someday.

I think keeping a few special ones that were clearly personal gifts is fine, to remember good times once the hurt fades. But regifting practical items is a way to let go without waste. That allows new joy from old gifts. Just my two cents! You know best what feels right for your journey.

[Summeroflove]

It depends on what you want to do with it. Irs your stuff. If you like something or find it useful keep it. But if you feel like it would help you move on from them. By all means give it away, donate it, sell it it, toss it in the trash, do anything you think is best for it.

For some people it doesn’t bother as much and for others. If it’s causing too much of a problem. It’s fine to give it away to someone who might use it.

[Asker]

It would be sad to toss it away. It’s not the belongings’ fault that they harbour old memories.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I see what you mean. I am just saying. It’s your stuff. You can do what you feel is best with it.

If you feel like giving it away. To give it a new life and so it isn’t making you reminisce on them. Give it away hy all means

[Asker]

Yes, that’s what I’m thinking.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah for sure. I would just give it away. Sometimes it’s nice to get rid of crap too. Crap you’re not going to need or use. Especially stuff that reminds you of people who aren’t any good for you anymore, maybe never were

[Asker]

Yes, they all started off as good friends, but all three of them turned on me.

[Summeroflove]

Asker I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s weird. Sometimes the people you thought were good are bad, and the people you thought were bad were good.

Some people are nefarious at heart while others change for better or worse. It’s a sad thing.

[Summeroflove]

It happens. People turn on others. But like I said. If this is how you feel it’s probably best to give the items away.

[Asker]

Yes, you’re probably right. 😊

[Summeroflove]

I’m sure they will appreciate it and you will declutter a little bit.

[Asker]

I hope so 😊

[Asker]

It would also save me money

[Asker]

You know, on more gifts

[Summeroflove]

Yeah it would especially saying you have limited money. It would cut back on things you have to pay for and it’s nice things

[Asker]

Yeah, I have a friend who’d love all these unique pieces. Not to mention, relatives.

[Summeroflove]

Yes! It sounds like they would enjoy them

[Summeroflove]

It’s a win win. You don’t have to spend a lot of money or end up getting them something cheap or nothing. And they get something nice