Why don’t I feel the same delight in beautiful things as other people do?

[MissSunshine2]

I appreciate a comfortable home and nice clothes, shoes and a few pieces of jewellery, but besides that, I don’t need much to be happy. I feel like I could give up a beautiful hand bag or a lovely piece of artwork or an antique jewellery box if it wasn’t something I felt obliged to keep because it’s a family treasure and just feel relieved that it’s one less thing I have to take care of.

Whereas, my rich and poor friends and relatives alike, were delighted when I ordered a box of beautiful celtic book marks and offered them one each to keep, as a gift. Everyone got back to me quickly and accepted one, with delight. I lack these feelings of delight. I feel like I could be happy with less. Although I like my things.

[sage2021]

You are a simple person by nature and these possessions are keeping you from being who you are meant to be.

It's unfortunate that you feel obligated to keep them. Perhaps one day your situation will change and then you will be able to live your life in which the manner of your choosing.

You will feel relived when that thorn is finally removed from your side and you can find new homes for the things you feel you must keep in order to make others happy but sacrifing your own life in the meantime.

I have lived simple all of my life and it doesn't take much to make me feel content.

I wish the same feelings for you in your future.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So… you’re saying you wouldn’t have appreciated a gift from a friend?

[MissSunshine2]

Honestly yes. I appreciate the thought, but I don’t want it unless it’s useful.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So do you think your gifts weren’t being put to use?

[MissSunshine2]

Yes. I usually regift them to someone else later, after graciously accepting them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Do your friends often do this with the gifts you give them to the point you’ve come to expect it?

[MissSunshine2]

Honestly yes. Most of them grew up poorer or with less stuff than me, so I filled up their houses with stuff and now they’re still doing the same to me. I’ve tried to ask them not to bring gifts anymore, to my birthday parties, to just bring a plate of food instead, but they keep doing it…and they bring a plate of food. I don’t know how to explain that I’ve always had stuff and it doesn’t matter to me like it does to most people, richer or poorer than me.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

People love you that much and you’re upset… I get that you want to go full minimalist/utilitarian but still

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I guess you’ve done it in every polite way possible, so start being rude about it. That’ll get the message across

[MissSunshine2]

Not upset really. I’m probably a bit ungrateful though. You’re right.

[OneViewpoint]

Congratulations, you haven't been swept up in the materialism of Capitalist consumerism. You don't "need" more stuff. At some point that stuff can start owning you. And the dopamine rush from your next purchase wears off pretty fast. Some people never figure it out.

[Grond21]

Being last materialistic is a good thing. I am sure you take the light in non-materialistic things, no?

[Grond21]

Thanks for the MHO

[MontBlanc]

It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you.

Sometimes people just experience and process beauty differently.

For some, it’s immediate and visible.

For others, it’s quieter, it might come through meaning, connection, or certain moments rather than appearances alone.

Maybe it’s not that you don’t feel it but that what moves you is simply different from what moves most people.

[BrittneyHl]

I think that's a pretty cool way to live and lots would be jealous of how you can live. I'm. the same

[LC75LC71]

Well to speak simply, delight doesn't have shit on desire. One is whatever, guess I'll reciprocate and the other is holy fuck I want that!

[msc545]

For your friends, it was your feelings or your perceived feelings toward them that really counted and made them happy. Not the objects.