Is saying sorry too much a turn off for you girls?

[DynastyEmpire1990]

sometimes I have an tendency to do this a lot and wondering is it a turn off?

This is one of my main problems with talking to girls and such.

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Plus, I also in times say stupid things for no reason when being friends with one and then end up losing friends because of this.

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You know now I see my problem when talking to them. No wonder why I fail so much.

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i think it will be easier to just give up talking to them untell I am fully ready. I just avoid every girl I talked too or at least the ones that want to talked to be, it will just cause too many problems again every time.

[anthony8x]

Saying sorry too much makes you look like a pu$$y. It will make you seem like you are trying too hard and will die if you don't get their approval.

Only apologize when it's worth it. For example, you accidentally spill a drink on a girl...say you're sorry. If it was her drink...offer to buy her a new one.

However, if you tell a joke that a girl doesn't like...too damn bad. Don't apologize for her not having humor. Remember you're not only trying to impress the girl, she is also trying to impress you. If you don't like her attitude just walk away.

For the record...talk to as many girls as you can! Just be conscious of what you are doing and work on improving. You stopping yourself from talking to girls will never solve the problem. Practice makes perfect. Eventually you will come across someone that will like you. Just know there is a lot of trial and error.

Also, don't apologize for the same thing more than once. One time is good enough.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

I keep all of that in mind thanks.

[maiez]

Theres a few people who when I give them gifts they end up saying thank you over 10 times, when this happens I get pretty annoyed, but I can't do anything about it because its their personality.

[1995girl]

From my experience, it's not a turn off but really annoying to be honest. Once I was going to this trip, and whenever this guy beside me accidently touched me on the leg, he would say sorry all the time. Every second I would only hear the word 'sorry'.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

Really, Sounds like he likes you but in a annoying way. I guess when I do it I should only do it when it's nessceary. thanks.

[1995girl]

sorry, I didn't mean to sound rude. And I don't think he liked me. He didn't know me at all. But I'm just one person. What I might find annoying may be something a girl would find cute or attractive in a guy.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

oh no you didn't sound rude. What do you mean in the last sentence?

[1995girl]

I mean that not everyone would think like me. I may not like it if a guy says sorry all the time, but another girl would find it cute or attractive even when a guy apologizes all the time.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

i guess we all have different out puts on what they think of a guy who says sorry all the time. I guess it depedends on the girl.

[1995girl]

yea you're right. don't worry though. If a girl doesn't like you because of that, than she's not the right girl for you. You don't need to worry about stuff like this. I'm sure some day there will be a girl who will like you for every aspect of you.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

I guess I over think too much of this, lol. I guess it takes time I am only 23.

[1995girl]

thanks for the BA :D

[DynastyEmpire1990]

Your welcome:) I could of choose others, but I choosedv yours;)

[RedSmartie]

No way. Saying sorry is awesome because it shows you're man enough to admit that you can be wrong sometimes. It's a major turn off when a guy NEVER says sorry, even after he knows he's been a total douche.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

i guess I must be over thinking of it. happens every time when ever I feel like I need to use it but over due it too much.

[kangaru]

apologize when it is necessary and not always apologize. once it is overdone, people may feel annoyed

[DynastyEmpire1990]

Thanks for the tip. that is one of my problems of using it I over use too much.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying, and lowers your sexual value as a man. Don't be apologetic for everything, it shows lack of confidence and self worth. Only be sorry about serious things.

"i think it will be easier to just give up talking to them untell I am fully ready." - NO DO NOT DO THIS. The only thing that will make you ready is to keep talking. If you stop talking, you'll get even more awkward.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

thanks and I try not give up. it's just hard though esepically with the times I have to go through which lowers my self esteem and confidence and such.

[Cromartie]

There is a stark difference between being unnecessarily apologetic and properly apologizing.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

What's apologetic? never heard of that word before.

[Cromartie]

In this case it's someone who apologizes very often and more often than not for no reason. For instance a person who says sorry for trying to walk around a corner and not seeing you, but never even almost bumping into you. Or a person who apologizes for having you wait a mere moment while they do something that you asked of them.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

I dee, is there a way to cure this from continue to happen? otherwise I may just give up and never talk to girls again because of my issue.

[Cromartie]

You just be mindful of your own language and stop apologizing so much. The brain will do the rest.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

it's just hard though, I feel like need to something but not the way I expect to say and then next thing you know I endup apolgizing and it just does the it over and over again. I finally stop in time but continues. Not sure what to do at this point.

[Cromartie]

It's just a habit, so relax, because all habits can be broken with minor willpower.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

it's been a habit for 3 years I think it was due to the fact I kept being dump and rejected so much after I got out of my shyness or at least still shy. Well sort of shy.

[Cromartie]

And that's understandable, but it's time to grow up and conquer and all that good stuff. The fun of life!

[DynastyEmpire1990]

Thanks for the help, I try too but not sure how it will end up, but do teh best I can.

[Cromartie]

Don't worry about it too much; everything starts somewhere and it usually doesn't start out perfect. Just be patient with yourself and make even a mild effort and you'll do better.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

Thanks again.

to everyone else I am sorry for my updates just surving tough times.

[Electric_Dreams]

You just did it again! Don't apologize to us because you said nothing wrong here.

[DynastyEmpire1990]

Thanks electric dreasm, I try not to apolgize for not doing anything wrong can't help it, bad habit of mine. that was one of reasons why girls I talked to then stop talking to me because of this problem.

[bh6676r942]

I think You're being too hard on yourself don't be so hard on your self

[Anonymous]

Na it just gets really annoying after awhile.