Baby daddy left me for another girl but comes around?

[Chikkiss]

We were together 4 years I lost it to him we have a 10 month old baby he left 4 months ago on sept 12, 2013 but got with this girl I knew 2 weeks after leaving me but he has not stop coming to have sex with me tells me he loves me wants to come home but then always changes his mind and says he's with her he gave her a promise ring on Xmas and is always buying her stuff but doesn't help me with my son ... I told his new girlfriend we were still having sex and she said just to leave them alone I showed her proof but she didn't care he stopped calling me for 2 weeks but called and said he missed me to give him time that he's confused I really do love him and want our family together... They seem like there serious she's always posting about him

[pr3ttybr0wn]

He's only coming back for the sex. He lies to you and tells you what you want to hear so he can get sex. If he really loved you and wanted your family to be together then he would not have a new girlfriend because he would be in the house with you. You guys were together 4 years and have a child, if this man really wanted you he should have put a ring on it by now. You're just being used. He's not even a man, he's a grown ass little boy if he's not even helping out with his son. How can your pussy still get wet for a man who leaves all that responsibility up to you and doesn't even help you out? He has the money to buy stuff for his new girlfriend but can't do for his child? And you let him back around?

Get some damn game. A lot of these men play around with the baby mamas because they know you'll always be available to him, and they also fake nice with you so you'll go easy on them for child support money. Stop falling for that bullshit and do better.

How will you ever find a real man who loves you and wants to take care of a family if you're stuck settling for this loser?

2014 is right around the corner, it's going to be a new year. Are you going to continue to allow that bullshit in your life?

[madhatters4]

well said

[Chikkiss]

He did put a ring on it but I guess it ment nothing know and I decided for this new year not to sleep with him no more he tried on the 30 but only cause she broke up with him but there back together now we talked right and he's gonna help out with our child ... I know that he know chooses her

[ArabianPwincess197]

well don't blame him - offer guys a vagina - they won't resist - you're giving him free access to yours. I hate it when people post such questions. I mean come on 1) he's with another woman doesn't that tell you something 2) respect the fact he's taken 3) its your body are you that naïve that you don't know he's using you 4) he's no longer urs yet you like the idea of having him - because it hurts you that he left you for her. So don't go on about the crap he always sleeps with you - it takes two to tango.

Sounds harsh but for goodness sake be practical. You're losing your self-respect for a woman her dignity is the most important thing! He's playing you and her she's blind to it so are u. Yet in the eyes of others' she's his girlfriend - you're nothing apart from the woman he had a kid with.

[vmw2008]

He's using both of you. He's sleeping with both of you, and not having to spend a dime more than he wants to. Seems to me like things didn't work out, he got scared of the commitment a baby brings, and he bolted. Both you and the girl he is dating have allowed him to get away with extremely selfish, irresponsible behavior.

Cut him out of your romantic life for good. Particularly your bed. & take his butt to court for some child support.

[madhatters4]

he comes around because he knows he can have sex with you and despite not treating you well you will still welcome him

you're in a tough position. the two of you were together for four years, you lost your virginity to him and had his child so I understand the feeligns you have for him are probably very VERY deep. but this guy is an a**hole short and sweet. the fact that is he ran as soon as he had more responsibilities. Unfortunately like a lot of young people he is selfish, immature, irresponsible.

I'm sure your feeling is to hope he'll come back but the fact is you need to just move on. Let him prove through actions that he is worth you...not simply by feeding you b.s. only to turn his back on you again.

move on. take care you and your child and make sure he at the very least is responsible for his financial end of child support

[Chikkiss]

Thank you I set myself to let him ago already

[stubbsy]

The reason he can't respect you is because you keep taking him back after all he has done, so to him your just a silly girl who is willing to listen to his bullshit and take him back. If you refused and stood by your word, you would have more chance of him coming back than you do when you allow him to treat you like dirt, because no bloke will respect a girl who don't have self respect, your choice to make, but you won't win this by just taking him back all the time, grow a back bone and stand up to him and tell him that you refuse to be used by him any longer,x

[Chikkiss]

Yes he is playing both but I decided to leave him alone recently on the 30 she broke up with him cause she found out he had came like on the 19th but he begged her and she took him back then he tried looking for me that night and I told him no or I would tell her

So we talked yesterday and he wants to do everything with my son the right way and accept he's in a relationship

[stubbsy]

Super decision from you, you don't need a man that is full of betrayal in his life, and at least he is willing to do what is right for his boy. At least he has something worthy of something. But don't faulter, make it clear your a woman that demands only the best from a man,x

[rtri1]

You still young and learn to move on, remember this too shall pass. If a person whom you have given over year and a half instead of being appreciative and be with you chooses someone else.

Remember the only way to be happy is when you cross the bridge(break up in relationship) burn it behind you, have this rule to save yourself from future heartache.

I mean give everything you can when you are in relationship, even tell the person that they are most important and priority of your life.

However if they choose to break up warn them that you'll not take them back and never take them back. Or if you were to break-up think several times but once you do, make sure it's for good.

There is plenty of fish in the sea and seriously sounds like this person was creating fights only to break with you even disrespecting you, you really don't need someone like that who would intentionally lower your self-esteem so they don't feel guilty about being an a-hole .

[Anonymous]

He's playing you both.

You have deep emotional attachment you don't want to let go because he is your baby daddy... But the reality is he is getting sex from both of you so why should he pay alimony or support you and your child when he has you both on his finger.

Chances are you won't see this as the truth...and keep accepting all this fay in and day out. But know your worth... KNOW YOUR WORTH!

[kangaru]

when a guy walk out on me like that, he would lose me forever.

he want to have the best of two worlds which is very selfish, you are not there to have sex withhim only. he need to know that. don't continue the rs with him anymore, move on..

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[gonyr]

He's probably been doing it the whole time.

Take him to court for child support.

[Tabra]

He's playing games, leave him you are worth more.

[Anonymous]

He wants both of you.