Will my baby daddy try and come back?

[Anonymous]

He left his other baby momma for me I got pregnant almost immediatly and after two months he left me...he cheated on me with her. We tried to be friends but ended up fighting when he moved back in with her "because he couldn't afford his own place" he says they arnt together...but acts lovey towards her so he can live there rent free. he even brings other girls over to her house. I'm now 20 weeks pregnant. I don't think id take him back, but I want him to want me back and to want to be in my/our son's life.

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hindsight is 20/20...

[JanJan]

I'm sorry that things turned out this way, but here's the reality.

Likely it will just be you and your son. If the father won't come around, than screw him. You are strong and capable, and you don't need his half-ass help. He should be paying child-support, so make sure he is, but don't expect him to come around or wait around for him. You're going to have to try and do this on your own, and don't settle for any guy who won't give you a monogomous commited relationship and who doesn't for you and your son. This guy can't even take care of himself and pay his own rent, and he's obviously too immature to be a father.

Get as much parental advice as you can, be it in a class or a book, because you can never get too much knowledge when it comes to your kids. Take good care of yourself and your son, and remind yourself that you can do this. Don't be afraid to seek outside assistance, such as government aid and child support, for help.

[Anonymous]

This is why I don't get pregnant.

You can't force parental involvement on him, if he chooses not to be with you or see his son...then that's how the cookie crumbles. My mom got prego young and one baby daddy didn't ever come back (he had a whole new family - ) and then the other one came back almost 6 or so years later.

So just have to see how it works out. Good luck with mother hood, sorry you got stuck in this situation. I hope you teach your kids not to do the same - and I don't mean that offensively at all; seriously, you don't want your kids in this same predicament.

[tina1140]

Next time you see him, don't say anything just surprise him with a hard ball kick. Wear pointy shoes and it will mess up his balls. Do it on the front porch so you won't have to drag his paralyzed but outside. Tell him that you will destroy him every time he shows up. He can't sleep around if he has no testicles, do mess em up.

[Anonymous]

As you learned the hard way, if he cheated on her, it's only a matter of time until he cheats on you. Why on earth did you have a kid with a guy like that, and at such a young age? You and your child have a tough life ahead of you; I'm not envious.