Why do we stop living our life happier, stop making friends, become silent, no goals after a Break up?

[shereeyaa]

Why is it very hard to overcome from it? Why we don't want to live anymore? What the heck is happening?

[mobiusforniner]

Because we made a conscious decision to define ourselves by the expectations or desires of other people. We will always fail if we let others define us. Let a breakup be a learning lesson; to define ourselves by who we ARE. And when we define ourselves by who we ARE, life becomes free. Life becomes happy. Everything else will fall into its place.

[ManInChains]

Because we are too busy grieving after showing such strong emotions for someone and suddenly not having it anymore it makes you emotionally exhausted. Same with if you lose a family member and you get to have time off work for aggrievement.

[sheikalana]

It's normal. That's called being depressed. The good thing is that that feeling doesn't last long.

[Bricealan]

My divorce left me a frickin basket case and I was as you described for a long time after the divorce, so I think it depends on the mind set of the person who lost in the separation/divorce/ break up.

[strateguy632]

i don't n that is depression. get real help, you shouldn't feel that.

[noohair]

I have learned that my value has nothing to do with who I am with.

[Anonymous]

I think the question should say is, "Why do people turn goth, emo and depressed and stop living their lives happy, stop making friends, become silent, and no goals after a break up".