File for the divorce. Both of you are leaving scratch marks on each other each time one of you wants to leave. (Scratch marks from them grabbing your arm and begging you to stay".
This has been going on way too long with the two of you. It's the same old merry-go-round with the same old horse.
Just because you separate and start a divorce doesn't mean you need to run out and find someone new right away.
Consider taking some time out of getting involved with someone else for at least six months to re-examine your life. A life that has been re-examined puts things in prospective where they weren't before.
Another relationship with another woman isn't the answer. You'll just be sticking your hand in another snake pit. You don't need that!
Did you find a job yet? Will you sell your house? Divorce is very expensive especially if you have assets together to divide up.
This is one good reason to take time out from dating anyone. She would only be your transition woman, and those rarely turn into your dream relationship.
I'm not telling you to do anything I haven't experienced myself. I re-examined my life when I was 37 only I promised myself no dating for one year!
You have a good head on your shoulders already but just like with a computer, you need to hit the refresh button every now and then.
Ok sweetie - I hope this helps. You can always DM me ok?
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Leave him! I have WAY too much self respect to tolerate THAT kind of BS!
As for you... Dude, just file for the divorce, and don't look back. If she calls you, be pleasant and polite, but don’t allow her to talk about the relationship! Tell her that you’ll happily discuss anything with her but the marriage is over, so there is literally no point in discussing it! Why do you need a consensus of GaG users to tell you what to do? Just man-up, take your balls from her purse, or wherever she’s clearly been storing them for however long this mess has been going on, put them back on, and tell her you’ll see her in court when everything has been finalized!
Hope this helps,
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friends with benefits has been a thing for quite a while now but the open thing is definitely rising in popularity.
Personally I would never date a woman who's not 100% loyal to me.
But if she gets off on the idea of me sleeping with other women or even us having 3somes with other women (and only women) I would entertain the idea
Might not sound "fair" but so long as it's consensual I don't mind or care.
I just know I would never consent to her being with a man
It's over right then and there. Women never bring this up unless they already have a guy picked out to open the relationship for or they are already fucking him and are sick of hiding it. Either way she's for the streets and deserves to die alone.
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I'm with you. What is marriage supposed to mean if she's free to go screw whoever she wants, regardless of how you feel? And, yeah, she's probably already done so, and trying to get some retroactive justification for having been unfaithful.
Cut your losses; the sooner you start on resolving all of this, the sooner you will be ready to move forward.
I would be okay with that, and remind her that open applies to both of us.
I'd talk to him about it for a while, maybe a few weeks or months, if it's something he keeps trying to get me to agree to and he just doesn't want to be monogamous anymore then I'd break up with him.
If he wants an open relationship, he can do it with someone else.I would listen to them and try to understand the why behind it. Then determine if it’s things we can work on as a couple before considering opening things up. I’m also not closed to the idea, but there would need to be a lot of trust and transparency between us
My wife suggested it to me a few years ago as a way for me to explore my own sexuality (I was strictly a lesbian up to that point). I took it kinda hard in the beginning and felt betrayed. Eventually I gave it a shot and started talking to someone and it eventually led to us dating for a year before he cheated on me. It nearly had me swear off guys completely and just go back to who I was before.
From what you say it sounds as though your "committed partner" wants to keep you as a "Safe Harbour" while she 304's around, because lets face it it will be easier for her to get partners than for you.
If a "committed partner" told me they wanted an Open Relationship they would receive divorce papers within the week, because an Open Relationship which is usually requested by the woman is often already in an emotional relationship with a man or she is looking for retroactive permission to cheat. you might want to check out Strong Successful Male on Youtube @ https://www.youtube.com/@StrongSuccessfulMale/videos
Relationship is over. They are welcome to figure out how they will pay for anything alone cause they will not be getting a penny from me. They can leave the house with whatever of theirs they can carry and find somewhere else to live. If they don't have a place too bad sleep outside.
Instant divorce. No questions, no apologies, nothing. She would be removed from my life instantly.
Divorce. I’d dump my man if even mentioned wanting or even being ok with an open relationship. Big no.
I'd break up with them or get a divorce. If I'm not enough for them they can take a hike
Immediately break up with them? To even suggest something like that destroys everything the relationship should be based on, double so in a marriage. You can't have your cake and eat it too, not that I understand why you would even want to
They wouldn't. Mine is already well aware what a cheater and manipulator is like and opposes the behaviors.
The only acceptable answer is to kick them to
The curbI’d open the door and kick them out
Id say absolutely not. Not my thing but also if you want an open relationship I think you should go into a relationship with that on the table not bringing it up later down the line
I’m sorry but if YOU are dating me then YOU are mine nobody else’s
Why even question? LEAVE, without hesitation, she's calling your bluff.
I would have to refuse and let him go. There's no way I would share my Husband with anyone else.
Only way I’d deal with something like that is if lots of money was involved. I’d be out of my mind to leave a man making millions of dollars. A regular man, yeah I’d leave with no hesitation.
would need a whole new terms of contract... lol
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