You should be with someone who loves you more than you love him/her. Agree or disagree?

[Kulotz]

It is the advice of my friend's mom to her. If he loves you more you will be happy. But if you love him more, you will end up desperate. What do you think?

[imtiaz45]

The idea that you should be with someone who loves you more than you love them is subjective. Some argue that it ensures a more stable and secure relationship, as one partner's deep affection can compensate for the other's lesser feelings. However, mutual love and respect are crucial for a healthy relationship. Imbalance in affection can lead to feelings of guilt or inadequacy. Ideally, both partners should strive to love and support each other equally, fostering a balanced and fulfilling partnership. Ultimately, the best approach depends on individual values and relationship dynamics.

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[coachTanthony]

Most times even if that’s the case you can get sick of a person real quick so be careful what you wish for.

[DishLady]

It sounds a little silly, but yeah I’ve heard it before.


It comes from the old idea that men are supposed to protect their women, ergo they should “love more” but it’s a question of qualitative vs quantitative love at that point….


If you want to be happy, find someone who can love and respect everything about you (and you of them) despite each others’ quirks and imperfections. Ok?

[12karen]

many women have advised me to marry a man who loves me more than I love him, that doesn't mean I don't love him but if on a scale of 1 to 10, I love him at 10 /10, he must love me at 11/10

that's what I was told huh. Just that they were had a lot of experience and some married, I think we should

[AI Opinion]

Diving into such an emotionally charged topic, aren't we? Love's landscape is as vast as it is complex, darling. The whole idea of someone needing to love you more for happiness to bloom sounds a bit like we're trying to score points in a love match rather than nurturing a genuine connection. In the dance of love, it's not about leading or following with a measured distance; it's about moving in sync, even if you occasionally step on each other's toes. Love isn’t about keeping score or leveraging power by being the less invested party. It’s about mutual respect, understanding, and cherishing each other equally. Sure, imbalances happen, but aiming for them? That's like expecting a rose to bloom without sunlight. Focus on building a relationship where both parties feel equally valued and loved, and you'll find that sweet spot of happiness without having to measure it out with a love spoon. 😉

[OlderAndWiser]

That is a silly game to play.

[codytoe]

Ideally find someone who loves you as much as you love them so you don't have an unhealthy power dynamic going either way. What your friends mom says about finding someone who worships you is great for a bit but she gloses over the fact this is likely to lead to you getting bored or at least under appreciate the other person which can kill the magic in any relationship. Which in sure is better than being the one loving someone who doesn't love them back or doesn't love them back nearly as much but still not healthy.

[sheikalana]

I think it changes over time. A few months ago I'd say I was the one who loved my Husband more than he loves me now I think is the opposite. It might change again and again and again. Relationships are a work in process and you won't see and feels things the same way over the years.

[Unit1]

Love is not a competition, damn it

[dragoblack]

Lies. Men dislike women who don't care about them. Yould need to meet his pace. A relationship shouldn't be 1 person carrying it.
If a woman can't be there for a man, when he allows himself to be vulnerable around her, why are they even together?
If you let your man to love you more, and you don't make effort to meet his love, you will eventually see it as a bad thing, like it's smothering or clingy.

[KrakenAttackin]

@dragoblack. Well said. Women detest simps.

[StarWarGirl]

I personally believe...

A man should be with a woman who understands him more and a woman should be with a man who loves her more.

For a good and happy relationship.

[StarWarGirl]

And for a female the advice your friend's mom gave to her i agree with it. But I don't think it could applies to men because men needs partners who can understand then and support them. That's important for them more.

[StarWarGirl]

Them*

[avery58]

Well it would be less painful for you but not really fair to them unless they know and agree to a relationship like that

[avery58]

She's right that it would be smarter, but even though it would be less risky emotionally, I still think that love/a relationship shouldn't be mediocre.

[Purpleronnie]

And how would you prove / decide who loves who more?

[NathanDavis]

if you're thinking about who loves more...

it's not true love

[Chelsdope0]

I agree. I think a MAN should love a woman more… it never works out when the woman loves the man more.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Chelsdope0. Absolutely wrong. Women hate simps although they will use them until they are sucked dry before discarding them.

[Chelsdope0]

Right, but when the woman loves the man more she always gets done sooo wrong!

They should love eachother ofc… but I think the man has to love a bit more

[KrakenAttackin]

@Chelsdope0. Wrong. Women file for divorce between 80-90% of the time. It's clear that men loving women more doesn't work.

[Serkee]

The same thing goes vice versa. Do you want your partner to feel neglected?

[osmanthus]

One question: Is your mother happy in her marriage?

[osmanthus]

This question could be directed to the friend's mom. If she isn't then I guess she's a cougar.

[osmanthus]

I wouldn't say this friend's mom gives great advice, especially if she herself isn't living it out, but there are other ways of looking at marriages.

[osmanthus]

That's just her way of looking at marriages; Her daughter doesn't have to pick it up and run with it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like very selfish advice since what she's saying is the woman should be happy and the man should be the desperate one.

Anyone with both a brain and some honesty would say the love should be equal.

[KrakenAttackin]

I would argue the women needs to live the man more than the man loves the woman. Women have so many sexual options which they will exercise the moment they get bored.

[paledreams]

Disagree - sounds like eventual long term risks of cheating prep 😞😞 lol 😆

[Staximus]

Hell no. You should be with somebody that loves you as much as you love them. Nobody wants to be with somebody who cares less.

[moneymagnet24]

Yes if she look like a Emma Watson n successful in life.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I compete to see who can love each other more. So far, it's a draw.

[Theraingoddess]

Yes but I would be the one who's more protective or the one who heals..

[Enginn]

That means one of them will love less and they shouldn't be together lol

[Anonymous]

Is your friend's mom a single mother? Because that advice sounds toxic.

[Joshgag2000]

Sounds like someone is not happy in their marriage

[WhitneySnow]

Disagree. Should be equal.

[MK1997]

Disagree it should be equal

[Joshgag2000]

In your opinion everything should be equal in a relationship?

[MK1997]

@Joshgag2000 yeah

[KrakenAttackin]

@mk1997. The is a fantasy.

[Emmytexrex]

Love should go both ways

[Flora_is_here]

I agree with you

[Dongie]

Don't get married.

[DreamLife7]

Agree

[eagle1951]

disagree