Recently discovered my partner of 5 years, is Following Sexually Suggestive Facebook Models. Would like some advice?

[ShellyBeach1979]

After some advice on how to deal with finding out your Partner follows those Facebook Models, the ones that are sexually suggestive.

We have been together for 5 years. Both in our early 40s.

Our relationship is very strong, my partner is very affectionate, loving and will do anything for me to make sure I am happy, he is very committed. He has built our beautiful home, working so hard to make it lovely and it's everything that I have wanted, he is the one that is always making plans for weekend away etc, buys me treats all the time, so all in all, our relationship is wonderful. The sex life is great, it's fun and frequent (a total of 2-3 times per day over the weekends, a little less during the week, due to working etc).

But, I have recently found that on his Facebook, he is following 6 of those Facebook models, that post the half naked shots of themselves being very sexually suggestive, they are all overseas models. Complete opposite to myself in looks, everything. My partner always made me feel so very confident, but now after discovering this, I feel so insecure and feel as though I am not enough or what he likes body wise. It makes me feel very inadequate and like he is looking for something else in regards to looks and body shape.

Now seeing these models that he likes to look at, I feel as though my body is something he doesn't like to look at, does he even find me attractive at all, let along sexually attractive. In a nut shell, it's made me close up and put some walls up around him. It's the heavy pit in my stomach.

I don't want to let him know that I was looking through his Facebook profile like a snoop. He is a grown adult, he can follow who he chooses and I am not about to tell him who he can and can't follow.

Just looking for other women that have been through this and how you managed to deal with it, especially how crappy you feel when you discover it. Plus wanting to get this from a Man's perspective. AM I overreacting

[Anonymous]

I made this awesome pie. Fan fucking tastic pie. Pure sugar. Pure cream. Pure eggs. Pure vanilla. AmAAAzing fucking pie 🥧 Unfortunately, a minuscule amount of shit 💩 also made its way into my pie.

Would you kindly tell me how other pie makers learn to deal with a little shit in their pie, so that I can feel okay about eating my 💩 🥧 ? ? ? ?

[ShellyBeach1979]

Scoop that bit of shit out of the pie...

[Opinion Owner]

Haha if only pies worked that way. I’m afraid even though it’s a small amount.. it’s still shit and it has ruined the pie.

[ShellyBeach1979]

Agree, but is it really worth throwing that whole pie out? Just because of a little bit of shit. Is there and will there even be a Pie that doesn't have any form of contamination in life? Do we spend the rest of lives just not eating pie... because that seems easier that's for sure.

[Opinion Owner]

We do discard pies with shit in them. It’s unfortunate, because we probably put so much time and effort into them but ignoring shit in your pie is a recipe for disaster. Perhaps a little dirt? We can let that slide but not shit. Shit ruins the whole pie. It makes me so sad what we as women are conditioned to accept as “normal” or not that bad ☹️ Your man is looking at other women in a way that is sacred and meant only for you. His eyes should only view one lady in that way and that lady is you. If he sees a another lady and a thought comes to him, that’s not his fault.. it’s what he chooses to do with the thought that makes it “shit” or just “dirt”. Him following these other accounts with the sole intent of viewing others for sexual gratification means he is putting shit in the pie. We discard shitty pies. That is what we do.

[ShellyBeach1979]

This is what makes me so sad, because I love him so much, I also know that he loves me as well and shows it daily. What a complete and utter heartbreak to have a relationship crumble purely because a man can't seem to control their urges and that need to look at other women. The sad thing is, these accounts are often run my MEN, with the pure intentions to lure the weak. How sad.

[Nikki1989]

If a man is on social media, he will be looking at women.

[ShellyBeach1979]

This I understand, the thing is, I normally wouldn't care him looking at other women, it's when I an attractive male pops up on my social media, I look at him. Even in public, I would point women out that were attractive, I would say, oh wow, isn't she stunning, he would never actually agree or make a big deal of it either. I was confident in my own skin and not a jealous person at all. But something just stung me when I seen this on his Social Media. Baffled as to why I have let it effect me so much. Could be just not feeling over happy with myself at the moment.

[Jay-_-]

I don't know, honestly I'd personally say confrontation is the best option, keeping secrets is the secret recipe to breakups and destruction for any relationship.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to your partner tell him to knock it off

[In_Trance]

My advice is stay off his social media before you fuck everything up