So, my boyfriend will take me out to eat sometimes which is nice but rarely happens, I mean we make dinner together more often then not, but he will always go out to dinner with his friends and when I say things like hey why don't we go there to sometime it's such a great place, he'll tell me it's kind of really expensive. I just don't understand, I mean he's 27 and I'm 39 so I don't know if it has something to do with that. He's never told me he was embarrassed to be seen with me, and we do go to the movies and to Walmart and such. I just done understand the dinner thing.
It can be really helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about how you're feeling. It's important to focus on your feelings rather than making accusations. For example, "I feel a bit left out when I see you enjoying dinners with your friends and not with me”. You can also ask him why he prefers to go out with his friends. It is important that you make sure he knows that you enjoy the time you spend together at home too, but that you also want to experience those special moments outside of the home. Remind him that it's not about the money or the place, but about spending quality time together. You could look for more affordable dining options that you both can enjoy. Remind him that it's not about the money or the place, but about spending quality time together. Maybe you could look for more affordable dining option, something you both can enjoy. An alternative would be to propose a compromise where you both can enjoy going out more often. You could suggest setting a specific time each month for a special dinner date.
It might be useful to reflect on whether the age difference is playing a role. Younger people sometimes have different social habits and preferences. When you are young, you often want someone older to be with but generally your level of maturity will still remain the same and hence going out with friends may be more enjoyable and talkative than going on dinners with you.
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My first thought was is it a financial thing? If he’s out w his friends chances are they all pay for their own food. Plus I’m not sure if they go to places that aren’t as expensive compared to places you want to go. Also I’m not sure if he foots the entire bill or not when he takes you out. I’ve been in relationship too where all the girl did was complain when I’d take her out. So I put an end to that by cutting her loose. Exactly how much time does he spend w you? How long have you two been together?
He’s embarrassed. He’s using u for hookup. If he saw u as something potential he would provide and protect
Cause he wants to spend more time with his friends I’m afraid you aren’t his priority
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You should rethink your relationship. He seems to enjoy being with his "bros" more than being with you. That is so weird. I suspect that he mainly likes you for sex.
He values his relationship with dudes more than his relationship with you.
I doubt if he has any intention of marrying you. If he did, he would leave you alone, just as he does now.
Find a new boyfriend who enjoys your company, loves being with you and doing things together.Because his friends are more of a priority to him than you are to him. Be careful with dating a guy that does that to you , that can easily be a red flag that he Might be up to no good.
Silly talks and repeated tonal conversations feels more locked and that personality ffo him with you feels cage is full. More open amongst friends and less tensed. Maybe you judge him and try to be a teacher attitude hence. Take side of him in situations it will help.
Is it just his friends or does he keep you away from his family also? Do both of you have the same goals in this relationship? Just assess the situation and make sure that you are both looking for the same things. Also, don't take it personal. Most people aren't fun to be around like a bro's buddies usually are.
Maybe he has more fun with his friends than he does with you.
Does he laugh with you?
Sometimes we feel like we have to pay for all and there's nothing fun, the lady just sits there to be attended like a queen and nothing else.It seems like he thinks his friends are more important. Ask him why. Maybe try asking him out to dinner a few times.
Cheap? Wrong priorities? Possibly embarrassed? Thinks that you prefer dinner homemade?
How about you offer to pay for the date instead?
I can't really tell there could be many reasons 1) he probably sees he's friends much less, because he lives with you.
2) i dont think that the age is the problem if you still attractive and pretty.Because he doesn't feel like it's needed or required to take u out to dinner
When he goes with friends he doesn't have to pay for you.
Less pressure.
Because you aren't much fun to be with.
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