How do I stop being so weak? I'm very weak physically and I feel like I have a weak personality?

[Anonymous]

I hate it. I've always been this way and I just dont know how to change it. Ever since I was very young, I was always the smallest girl in class. I hate being so small :( I'm 4'9 and really skinny in size as well (80LB). And not only that, but I feel like my personality is also weak and thats something I dont know how to change as well. Like I'm just the submissive type. It's very hard for me to say 'no' unless it's something I'm against like having sex with anyone or going nude in front of someone or doing something really reckless. But I feel weak both emotionally and physically :((( I want someone to recognize me, but I feel like with my size and mentality, nobody would want me. Can anyone give me advice?

[HairyDumpling]

Well if you physically want to get stronger you could always start working out if you haven't already. It'll most likely help you to be mentally stronger as well as physically stronger. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that would love to date the small "vulnerable" girl that they feel they can protect but if you really don't want to be submissive, then stop being submissive. Think about why you're being submissive in the first place. Is it because you want people to like you? Or maybe you just don't want people to dislike you? Is it because you feel that your opinions don't matter? I'm sure you have your own personal reasons so if you really want to stop it, realize why you're submissive and then take small steps to stop it. Maybe take one day a week to be just a little selfish and realize that you deserve to be. I'm not saying to be a huge bitch, but realize there are times when you have to fight for what you actually want instead of being content doing what other people want. I believe in you!

[Davidd902]

I know how you feel, I was the oldest in my class but I was also the smallest and I got picked on because I my size, I started going to the gym and I started when I was 11 and by time I was 13 no one picked on me. Just because someone is physically weak doesn't mean you are mental weak. You can improve both. You're mental and physical weakness. for example playing sport would make you strong but also stronger mental because you must focus. Also just because you are small and maybe a bit weak doesn't mean people will not recognize you. I like small girls. A lot of guys do. If you aren't happy with yourself then do something about it, Go to the gym maybe. The gym can cause you to get stronger mentally and physically. Trust me it does. I hope you can eventually accept and love yourself :)

[aiya4567]

Why would anyone else want you, if you don't even want yourself... It's like a vegetarian trying to sell you their beef steaks, would you want it? FUCK NO. Confidence is key. Love yourself before expecting anyone else to...

[Sex_Panther]

A strong mind and strong body are interconnected. Join an exercise group and go for a few months to strengthen the body, and increase your willpower, to increase your mental faculties start a simple hobby and begin reading international news everyday or a topic from a journal everyday that interests you, as you grow smarter your ability to make sound decisions becomes clearer and the more aware you are the more clairvoyant you become.

[Frank_B]

God bless you, you are a true woman. Now that the most difficult part is done, you will probably find it easy to train a few times a week in order to get in shape, if this is what you wish. Don't ever think that nobody will want you, that's not possible, a lot of men including myself prefer thin, small women. Best of luck :)

[heavymetalbrotha]

join the army they will force it out of you the best gay possible worked out for a few string beans i met by the time we left basic they were better for it

[Tokana]

TBH, I love small women it makes me feel more of a man. inbox me if more support if needed. ;-)