I am weak. How do I cope?

[Jeotntk]

I can say I have all the standards in the world. But I know that I can fall for a man who doesn’t meet enough of them. And then what? What’s the point of making a hoopla about standards? Maybe I need to let people be who they are.

I doubt I’m a man’s perfect cup of tea. I wear men’s t shirts like Billie Eilish because I don’t want attention on my body. Most men probably don’t want that in a woman. They want a woman to dress more shownoff and in female tighter clothes more. I only want to shownoff my beauty and body to my future husband in private. I only want his attention on my looks. No other man.

[HollyK21]

That’s why you try using your good judgment before even giving a guy the time it takes you to fall for him.


Back when I was still on the dating scene, I was very intentional with who I dated and firm about my standards, not giving guys a chance if they didn’t match what I wanted. For example, I wanted someone who was ready for a serious relationship. Not right out of the gate of course, but for us to agree we are working towards something if we plan on talking. So if I started talking to a guy, asked what he was looking for (or what his intentions were for talking to me), if he gave some variation of ‘seeing where it goes’ ‘just getting out of something so he wants to take it slow’ ‘go with the flow’, to me those are all filler answers and he’s essentially going to waste my time, so I’d cut that off.


I asked those questions as soon as I could, no time to fall for the guy or for either of us to take it personal if someone cut things off. Best time to act in my opinion.

[Jeotntk]

What if you fall for a guy you can’t just cut off like a coworker.

[HollyK21]

In that case, try keeping in mind the reasons why things wouldn't work between you two, or why you can’t be together. I know it’s kind of bleak, but unless you get a new job or meet someone else as a distraction, that’s your best bet. It’s hard to get over someone when you have to deal with them at that capacity.

[Jeotntk]

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Yes, you're weak minded and lack character. Good human beings with even modest character don't post childish stuff like this. You get what you deserve in life. I could give your question the answer it deserve, but then I would be sinking to your level. Not gonna to it, because I don't want to be a shitty human being.

Where are the masculine men today?

[Tomisworthless]

standards are to dismiss unattractive betas like me, standards and red flags get tossed aside when the woman wants the guy she wants which typically is a alpha male who is a 7 or above in looks

[Anonymous]

This was very different from the last post of yours I just read...

[Jeotntk]

Why?