She said "I don't want to lead you on." What does this mean?

[unsureofonesself]

I started hanging out with this lady several months ago. First off we've done nothing sexual, only contact between us has been hugs and playfully bumping into one another. She is married. Their relationship has not been a good one, and last month it was decided they would divorce. She's devastated, not so much because of the split, more so because of the uncertainty of what lies ahead. Her family was everything to her and now that's done for. Since we started hanging out we've gotten close, spent a lot of time together. I'm over at her house several days a week, just hanging out watching movies, playing around with her daughter, just doing anything. We go rollerskating a couple times a week, have gone to a few events around town, even left town for a couple of days just me and her. She talks about us going places and doing things, if she likes something says that "WE should get one of those." We've shared some really personal and intimate things with each other. There is a bit of flirting, and I believe that that we both have feelings for one another. But a couple of weeks ago she's decided she needed to get away from all this. She's moving, and after making this decision to do so she started pulling away. I know why... I called her last week, my intent was to let her know I understood the whole being distant thing, that she meant a lot to me, and that if she needed anything I would be there. I said these things, but not before I freaked out and told her that I loved her.. She said that she really enjoyed the time we had together, and she did not want to lead me on, that she was going to move. I don't expect her to stay, if anything I would be willing to drop everything to follow her. It's just not what I expected, she didn't say that she did not feel the same way. This is all happening way to fast. I found the love of my life and now she's leaving, and I don't know what to do.

[nert73]

I got dizzy trying to read that wall of words.

As for your original question as stated in your title, she longer has feelings for you and doesn't want to stay in a relationship because of her lack of feelings. If she stays in the relationship, she won't be happy and will feel nothing while you think it's wonderful and all just fine.

If she means that by not having feelings for you, leave her. Soon. I know how it feels to be led on by someone you care about. It hurts more than you can imagine, until it happens. Then you'll never forget it and it will keep hurting. Don't let her hurt you like that.

[Anonymous]

Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. If that quote brought you comfort/ enlightenment then you're welcome. If it didn't then that's okay too because it's full of crap and unrealistic! It's okay to hurt. It's okay to cry. When we lose the things we love it aches and hurts for a while and maybe even forever. But in a way the ache is comforting too because it's a reminder of how good it was.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO :)

[CookieMad]

Now you have a goal to find a nice not married person like her

[Anonymous]

If she wanted to be with you she would. The "i don't want to lead you on" line is her saying she doesn't see you as a romantic partner. Cut the cord and move on. I'm going through a similar thing right now, she literally said "i don't want to lead you on". Save yourself more heartache by starting the breakup process now.

[KleinTeef]

There's noting else to what it means... She doesn't want to lead you on, I. e she's not looking for anything with you and doesn't want you to believe there is.

Steer clear of married women pal.

[XNicholeMariex3]

She doesn't want to date you.