If a girl says, "I don't want to lead you on," is that permanent rejection?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Yes. Accept the truth and move on.

One of the hardest lessons to learn as an adult is that you can't control or change how someone feels about you. No matter how strong your own feelings are, that won't change their feelings, so appreciate when someone returns those feelings and be prepared for many people who you have feelings for to NOT have those feelings in return.

Your job when you have feelings for someone is to determine if they feel the same way. The sooner you get the answer - even if the answer is No - the better. You don't want to waste your time and effort on a dead end, and if they do have feelings for you, then you don't have to waste time waiting and can pursue them right away.

[Blitzon]

He just called and apologized for going mia. His aunt died and he had to get air and camped in the mountains and had no service.

[Finchie40]

Yes, she is just rejecting you in a polite way instead of a disrespectful way. She is letting you know that she isn’t interested and doesn’t want you to waste your time trying. She doesn’t hate you as a person , she probably likes her friendship with you , but that’s all it is , friendship and nothing more. A girl that wants to be more than friends’ with you , will not say those words period. Cuz she is looking forward to you leading her

[Bethany22]

Yes, it probably means she is not interested in you, and is letting you down gently. Unless, of course, you want to do all kinds of work developing your swagger and acting all cool calm and collected 24/7 whenever you're around her. But that's a lot of work. Probably not worth it.

[Anonymous]

I would say so, yes. I would move on. It doesn't mean there can't ever be anything in the future, but it definitely means there isn't something right now. And I wouldn't hold out to it changing. If anything I would just accept it and be friends.

[HawkPerception]

It's her polite way of saying something you did or said or just some aspect of you seriously turns her off and yeah... there's no way she's changing her mind.

[AviatorTom]

Not necessarily. It could mean that she is not ready for commitment at this point in her life... right now.

[Zack-Bann]

There’s no such thing as a “permanent rejection”


Don’t assume she knows 100% of what she wants and has a better grasp on the relationship than you


This is definitely a negative sign, she’s not attracted to what she’s seen from you yet


But if you feel its worth fighting for you can try again and show her another side of you


Don’t get needy, don’t insist, don’t harass her


But you can casually suggest something fun to do and tell her she doesn’t have to lead you on or anything just come have a good time and leave with no expectations whatsoever


Might work

[Zionne]

Not necessarily. That phrase usually means she wants to be clear about her current feelings and intentions, she might not be interested right now, or she wants to avoid giving false hope. It’s not always a permanent “no,” but it is a signal to respect her boundaries and slow things down.

[genericname85]

i wouldn't say so. i would say it's a signal that her romantical feelings of love to you was on a spectrum from 0-100 are currently close to zero and she's informing you of that to keep you on the same page. it doesn't necessarily mean you're stuck there. it just means that's where you are.

[genericname85]

you could be stuck there. not wanting to give you false hope. but it doesn't strictly mean that you are at this point.

[beenherebefore]

Yea I would take it as a permanent rejection.

[Nikki1989]

She means what she said. I am not sure what you are confused about here.

[Chayce]

Nothing is permanent rejection unless you did something extremely heinous. Like Drake said “she might say no to me now but say yes to me later”

[MJVillarama]

No worries at all, thanks for being upfront! Always cool to get to know someone either way

[Twalli]

It is a firm rejection, they're not interested in you, so if all you want is the possibility of dating them, give up, it won't happen.

[janemarie15]

I think, she's trying to be kind and honest, rather than let you invest emotionally and get hurt

[IWILLRIPYOURSOUL_OUT]

No it's just a easy quick shortcut she took
Removing herself from a position she doesn't wanna be in
that won't leave room to give you false hope

[Staximus]

That means you have a snowball's chance in hell

[Nemesis2k7]

Yes. She isn't stable. Just wants you to boost her ego. RUN

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah she isn't interested

[OneViewpoint]

It's a move on, don't waste your time.

[OneViewpoint]

And frankly, it's a kindness. Kudos to her for being honest and facing into an uncomfortable conversation.

[AgentG111]

Most definitely.

[chenyu]

Not necessarily, there may be other reasons!

[Asker]

Like what?

[chenyu]

It's like when you suddenly drink a glass of water during a meal. You can actually finish your meal without the water. Don't dwell on it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. Definitely rejection for now.

[blackeagle007]

I dunno if this is a trick question or not

[bunniesrcute]

yeah, leave her alone

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately yes, in my sad experience.

[spartan55]

Uh definitely

[BB0909]

Of course, yes. She is just being polite.

[virgo2267]

Absofuckinglutely

[Brady]

yes.

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Deserter3]

You know the answer