She doesn't want to lead me on?

[mbounds]

OK so this girl I've bee having great convo with for a week tonight doesn't pick up here phone when I call and says sorry I'm not feeling well and says we can Facebook chat instead. Come to find out she just isn't wasn't feeling well. I say well I can't because I'm going out. Later that night when I get home she is on Facebook and I IM her. Conversations all good and she says she is just chilling in her room and feels sick. The conversation gets kind of dull and I felt like I was annoying her kinda so I said OK guess Ill talk to you tomorrow. wamo! why so negative? you guess? then bamo! I'm now way to emotionally involved and interested in her because I got upset at her lack of communication apparently. I'm like oh my god I wasn't upset I just thought you wanted me to leave you alone.. it kind of seemed like it. Then she goes on to say she isn't looking for a relationship. She says I'm way too emotionally involved and she doesn't want to lead me on. I'm like what the F! are you talking about? she was just hitting me up the day before asking me all these questions, wanted to go see avatar with me and was always asking what I was up to. what the hell is wrong with some girls? freaking weird I think it was her time of month or something

[bobair]

The lesson you can learn from this interaction? Always leave the conversation first, and always end on a high note. (Think George on Seinfeld.)

Try this, "Thanks for the fun chatty chatty long time... I gotta run cutie. Have a great night!"

But if you leave with something like this, "Um, well I guess I better go. :(" then you're basically fishing for her approval. You're likely hoping she'll come back with "Wait! No, don't go! I love you so much!"

Also, don't EVER feel like you're annoying someone. Because they'll read that insecurity in your voice, text, behaviors. Always assume you're awesome, even if you're not.

Either way, don't sweat it dude. She'll be around tomorrow. Now give her the gift of missing you.

~ Robby

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[mbounds]

Yeah dude I agree. I was like this the whole time with her. Just being nice and playing it cool. Then one little apparent slip up and .. later gator? who is she? freaking Meghan Fox. Not exactly. She said the last dude she was with was a real douchebag and this is effecting her now. I juts don't get how girls can get away with wondering what your up to all the time, being all emotional and anxious and then we mess up once and its hit the streets buddy?

[bobair]

Girls are like the weather... unpredictable and influenced by everything.

To be ultimately attractive to her you must be unmovable like a solid brick wall. Don't ever react to her emotional up's and downs. Dictate your own flow and she'll slowly start following your vibe.

If you're upset about her reaction to you then you're easy to influence. Don't be. Stay lucid, fun and happy, no matter what.

Have ultimate composure and she'll always come back to you.

[Anonymous]

yup... I guess she was PMSing