Is it bad to isolate yourself from everyone?

[Anonymous]

I've always been an introvert with hardly any friends, or the friendships I've had are super strong but few. Currently, I'm 23, and I'm just exhausted from people completely. I haven't even been socializing that much (besides newly working at Starbucks while in school) and after my shifts, I'm so drained. Even before I worked there though, I've increasingly become more and more isolated but I don't find an issue with it. I just feel guilty when others want to see me and I don't know what to tell them. Or when I get asked out by guys but I don't want to go out or form anything with anyone, I just want to be alone to read, listen to music, create art, and watch movies and go outside and just do anything I want to do without having to remember I should do this and that with another person. I feel like people are getting mad at me, especially men who want to see me, I even had one guy tell me off very rudely, even though I honestly told him I am currently just wanting to be alone physically to restore myself. I really don't know how long, but right now being around others is so entirely draining. Is this okay?

[Lucasday]

Look I'm giving the hard truth cause I've been where you are now for years, yes isolation can be a bad thing thing for most people, cause most people see it as a bad thing and can't see the peace that comes with it, I have mental problems that stop me from emotionally having any kind of relationship with anyone, and I've tried to be friend people before, but because I just couldn't bring myself to care about them I choose my own company, instead of theirs until I meet someone who just wouldn't take no as an answer, and I admit I'm a monster I hurt that person emotionally not because I wanted to but just because she had decided to care about me, and I knew I couldn't do the same so I tried to get her to leave my life, it didn't work and thanks to her I'm learning to care again, I know it's hard for you but I found out a very painful way that isolation is never the answer to our problems so yes locking yourself away is a bad thing if you get used to being alone.
PS sorry about the rant message me if you want to talk I know what it's like feel the way you feel and maybe having someone to talk to will help.

[madgoat]

I'm the same. It's fine but you need to temper you instincts and compromise.
At your age, your peers expect you to be sociable because many of them are. And you're a girl so multiply by x.
As you get older, the expectation is still there but less so.
So most people just don't get it.
Unfortunately, even for an introvert, loneliness is a major bitch. You need some human contact, good contact, otherwise you start to drift away from reality.
Carefully choose one or two strong friends who understand and will let you have the relationship with them that you need.

[Anonymous]

You can isolate yourself but just remember that friendships are not that easy to come by and so are good people. If you don't make a effort then years down the line when you do suddenly realize you need friends, you may then be stuck and will struggle to make new friends.

[Yes-Man]

You still need a few, or at least one good, dependable friend. I said "need", not "want", because you may not want them (which I completely understand), but you surely need... Human is a social animal. Loneliness does bad things to us. Take care of yourself.

[casscade]

I agree , complete isolation cannot be good for the human mind. simply because we are social creatures

[ravello]

Introversion means you get your energy from being alone and doing things for yourself that interest you and there isn’t anything wrong with that.
Don’t let anybody make you feel guilty for preferring time to yourself, but at the same time, try to make time to socialize. It’s important that you don’t isolate yourself completely.

[casscade]

I mean , if your friends have helped you with everything you could want / need help with, as you said a strong few. I don't think it's morally right to ignore / isolate yourself from them and besides , it can't be healthy. . .

[casscade]

it can't be healthy to be completely isolated.

[casscade]

and disregard the first 3 lines because that was a bit of a rant. . .

[Goofball0]

nothing wrong with being alone. you may bounce to with society or cab for over stay in your world. but I've be isolated from people since I was a wee little lad.

[cloudstack]

it's fine... someone has to adopt all those cats anyway

[IdkSomethingRandom]

humans need human contact to function. the mind begins to break down from a lack of contact. But this is an extreme, just working with others generally staves such a level of decay

[bondobilly]

op, send me a private message, I am in a fb group that might be able to help you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Never good for us to isolate our self but it happens, I tend to isolate and don't get out of the house enough.

[jersos1]

i have the same problem. i isolate myself and now i am super lonely. i badly need some friends to talk to but alas! nobody obliges! this world is such a crap... nobody helps...😞

[TheUglyMonk]

Nothing wrong with isolating yourself if you have no problem with it, there's only something wrong with isolating if you're the type who needs to socialize because you might feel depressed.

[Lumberman53]

Yes it is bad to do that but ultimately if you want to that's your life and your business to separate

[Asad1ONE1]

If it bothers you (which it very likely is), then yes. You're human.

[Anonymous]

It is not bad, sometimes you need your own space to think.

[ToruMatsuda]

It'll be ok until the lonliness kicks in

[kingwolfless]

same