Girls, Is it healthy to isolate yourself from others?

[Anonymous]

I have a girlfriend who is very busy with work and doesn’t talk to me when she gets stressed. She always goes ghost when she’s having a hard time. I’ve asked to help but she ignores me. Is this a red flag?

[_Maya_]

I wouldn't call it a red flag but how she deals with stuff. As long as she isn't causing harm then it is fine to deal with things in a way that works for that person. Do you find that it is harming your relationship? If so then talk to her about buy remember that might just be the best way for her to cope with things. It may not look like it to you but for her it works. So if you can put up with it then no it isn't a red flag. If you can't deal with it then the best you can do I hopefully work out something with her... a compromise of sorts.

[Asker]

I appreciate your insight. Say I don’t hear from her in the next week, would it be too much to bring her some flowers to her job?

[_Maya_]

I think that's a really nice gesture. I would send them to her though.

[laraWM]

It's not healthy to isolate yourself but sometimes when you have a lot of work to do or you are really stressed it can be hard to stay open

[Anonymous]

Nope. You might as well dig a hole for yourself and jump in it.

[Asker]

What does this mean?

[On_cloud_wine]

I’m guilty of doing this…