Why do people say they're fine when they're not? (Page 3)
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To be honest I want people to mind their own business and just not get involved with problems that only I can solve anyway
Or I just don't want to ruin their day with some negativity
Because some people dont like to talk about their feelings or they feel as though no one cares about their feelings.
Because it's considered a sign of weakness in our society to display any kind of emotion...
You have to pretend everything's ok, even if it's not
Also, they may not feel comfortable enough to open up to you
Cause no one cares. They just ask out of curiosity, what's going on with you. Once you trust them and open up, now they start to judge you.
This breaks trust and you start to say 'i'm fine'
Coz in the end, you will end up alone either way.
I say it because I don't like the feeling of people feeling sorry for me. I don't want people to look down at my character. So if that means I have to put a smile on my face and cry to myself then be it.
Sometimes, they just rather not talk about it or don’t see it as necessary to be talked about—whatever problem is bugging them.
That's why I never say I'm fine. I say, "can't complain". Because A.) Nothing is wrong so there's nothing to complain about or B.) Even if I did complain it does no good because it's not like anyone truly gives a shit.
For the same reason people ask "How are you"? It's just a standard interaction. People don't typically really want to know how you are. So there's no point in leveling with pwiple.
I usually dont get this, people will complain to me with everything under the sun. It's depressing to put up with.
I try to be just like them and complain to others and they just take advantage to my problems.
Most depressing part is that some of the problems are very small, simple, and they are just being spoiled brats about it.
I just be nice to them though and listen. Until they screw me over eventually for being nice.
The truth is nobody likes hearing other people's problems... that's why some people are paid to listen and counsel.
Because its difficult to find people who understand
I suppose they don't want to talk about it and don't want to be prodded into talking about something they don't want to discuss.
well can you help them if they're not? no mostly you can't. so there's no point i'm saying they're not fine.
Because the energy and time needed to explain why they feel the way they feel is not worth the effort knowing the world does not give a damn anyways,
When people say they are fine, its because they would rather not talk about what Evers going on.
Because they don’t want to be an inconvenience and sometimes it’s easier than saying what’s actually wrong
The German footballer Andreas Biermann opened up to people about his personal struggles, and his career suffered as a result. He killed himself in 2014.
Several reasons. They feel embarrassed to talk about what is hurting them, they feel weak for not solving their problems alone and sometimes they just don't know how to ask for help.
Personally I say that because the people I'm around such as family won't ask twice and some know that they won't get an answer out of me. If someone knows me well they will sit down and talk with me
They might want to say they are "not really" fine, but don't want to get into it at the moment.