Do you act like everything is fine when it's not?

[moonpie89]

Yes

No

[EllaNella]

oh absolutely. i'm not going to annoy random people with my problems or get into fights that i don't want to invest any energy in. i'd rather not get angry and distance myself from people if i don't like how they act towards me. if they ever ask why i did that, I'll explain but i've made the decision some years ago to not fight with people that are not worth it

[Anonymous]

I certainly know people like that and tbh, they piss me off sometimes. It’s like toxic positivity or something. Then you point out that there’s a problem and they get pissed at YOU, rather than the problem itself.

It’s like people just want to live in la la land rather than take a good hard look at life and push for something better. I’m sorry but, can’t relate.

[Moose304]

I can't answer this question in a one size fits all way. The primary reason is my reaction depends on what's wrong and who did it. I try to stay upbeat when dealing with stress, but if YOU are that stressor you will see a side of me that will give you nightmares. Good question though, but hard to answer.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I do? I will not act extra joyful or going telling everyone what a great day we're having. I won't voice my problems if it does not concern them. But if they dare ask how I am, I'll tell them how I really feel. If they do not ask, they won't know, I'll just be my usual self.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

All the time. I've mastered the act of saving face. My emotions come out behind closed doors.

[snowboarder720]

The very first thing that comes to my mind is my favorite song in Encanto.


“I’m the strong one. I’m not nervous. I’m as tough as the crust of the earth is.”

https://youtu.be/tQwVKr8rCYw

[Leshen]

Yes but it depends. I feel like there is a time and place to allow yourself to correctly address your emotions, validate them, learn a lesson, and then push foward. If it's that bad just take a moment to calm yourself (try meditation) and think clearly. Everything is temporary, and this is a storm you will survive just like all the other ones.

[TheLoneTerran]

You have to. If there's nothing you can actively do about a situation, there are things you need to take care of. Even if the situation really, really, really sucks. If you stop, you may get stuck and have a hard time moving forward again.

[Anonymous]

At some point in your life you realize how much is out of your control. And you learn to just accept it.
I don't ACT like anything. I just maintain control of what is within my control in life. And just accept what is out of my control. It's the best way I've found to live a peaceful life.

[Jabberjaw]

No. At the same time I don't dump my shit on others. Like you can be real about where you are emotionally without looking for them to listen to the ins and outs of your troubles

[ohshee]

If that's what it takes to keep going forward then yes.. you have to remember it's just a moment in time. This moment will pass and a. New one will start.

[wa1t1ngFuture]

often stressed... depression and mental illness (OCD and ANXIETY DISORDER) but sometimes pretending to be happy but sometimes crying in solitude can make the heart calm

[suisuiola]

It's a very bad quality of mine that I try to work on. I usually always say I'm fine and push everything down until I explode which doesn't end well.

[20yearsolder]

Sure, doesn't everyone? 99.9% of the time I try to take care of the issues on my own. I try not to involve others

[XXblack88]

Nope tried it in high school and sucked at acting. Unfortunately my facial features and body language will speak louder than anything that will come out of my mouth.

[dustybiker]

Yup. It takes something big though. Only because you don’t want to put that on people.

[Sweetlindacoolturds]

On the contrary, I act like everything is wrong when in fact it is likely OK

[littlemisssparkles]

Sometimes yeah because not everybody cares about my problems lol. I only tell friends and family if something's wrong

[ArtemisSilver]

No, I just act. If I acted alarmed about every problem I knew of I would instantly go insane. You just do what you can and hope it's enough.

[Anonymous]

yes because i know how mean i used to be and you don’t know what someone’s going through.. but if someone does something first it’s on lol

[exitseven]

Yes, there is no sense in making a big deal about stuff.

[TexasRed95]

I'm an open book. If someone asks "How are you doing?" I will flat out tell them that I'm doing awful if that's the case.

[Jltakk]

Yep, thats my biggest character flaw. I'm an INFJ and I have a fearful-avoidant attachment style. I try to maintain the harmony and minimize the drama while my anxiety is internally out of control.

[Leshen]

I felt this, I'm an INFP. I wonder if your style comes from some kind of trauma. Being in an unstable and hectic environment can cause the desire to want to control the nature of things around you (Some people with OCD experience this) and avoid conflict. Which will increase the need to be a peacemaker as well as your paranoia/anxiety because realistically you can only control yourself.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I do not. If there is an issue that exceeds the "Don't really care" level, I move to resolve such a matter as peaceful as possible.