Guys, what do you look for in a woman if you are looking for a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Me

[MCheetah]

What I look for in an ideal woman:

- Kind/positive
- Accepting/nonjudgmental
- Open-minded
- Intelligent
- Strong sense of humor
- Strong work ethic
- Patient; not easily offended or bothered
- Politically moderate (not too liberal or conservative)
- Strictly heterosexual
- Monogamous
- Nerdy; into video games or superheroes
- Tall
- Curvy/thick/plus-sized
- Feminine
- Redhead, strawberry blonde, or blonde
- Young; between 20 and 30.
- Not a feminist, progressive, or far-left
- Not shallow or superficial
- Not mean-spirited or negative
- Not closed-minded or stupid
- Not arrogant or conceited
- Definitely NOT queer, or a part-time lesbian ("bisexual")
- Definitely NOT polyamorous!
- Doesn't already have kids (without a father figure)
- Not too skinny
- Not masculine or butch
- Not born male

And @Kairithecatgirl, why do you always look so different in every picture? I legit can't tell if you're "CIS-gendered" or not. You look female here. Good picture.

[OlderAndWiser]

A few years ago, I wrote an extensive Take about selecting a partner for dating and eventually for marriage. Assuming that your long term goal is a stable relationship and possibly marriage, a good prospect for dating means someone who is a good prospect for marriage. Of course, when you first start dating someone, you don't know them well and someone who appears to e a great catch may actually be a dud, but you should at least be looking for the qualities that would make someone a good spouse.

Who should you date; who should you marry?

[InventorofWarp]

Smart, sensual, kind, caring, warm, affectionate, passionate, funny, witty, loyal, beautiful, charming and alluring. Extra points for confidence and spontaneity. Basically if I can look at her and think "yep this woman, I want her to be the mother of my kids, this woman is the woman I want to impregnate" then odds are she's gold. And I'm the kind of guy who has to be comfortable and feel safe around her like she feels warm and welcoming and kind. I, like many people, have been hurt before so knowing I'm safe with her is everything.
Also extra points if she calls me her "boy" or some pet name. I'm a sucker for romance.
Also extra points if she's a gardener or a musician.

[KneeDragger]

For me, being pro-LIFE and honest are more important than anything else. Those traits lead into other things like my wife always gives me advice that is sound when I ask her a question about something I'm struggling with. We both know that all of humanity is just that, human. However when choices are made, life has natural consequences and those consequences need to be met so learning takes place. If you try and cover up that mistake or lie, there was no learning and with no learning then life tends to help me keep making mistakes until I actually learn how to avoid the consequence (positive or negative) of that particular choice.

My hope is that makes sense.

[SnuffleMuffins]

If I were looking for a girlfriend...
What I'd look for in a woman first and foremost is their personality. And there are many factors that go into personality. For me, I'd like a woman who has a good sense of humor, is easy-going/lay back, is funny and fun, is intelligent in terms of self-reflectance, is generally open to things, and is comfortable within their own skin. I'd also like them to be very affectionate and loving. That's very important to me because I myself am very affectionate and loving. And last, but definitely not least, I need someone with a high sex drive.

[Jjpayne]

You are really cute! 😍 I would date you if I could...
But to your question,

Similar interests

A girl that gives back and likes helping others

And is fun and adventurous

[JayParris]

Willing to talk calmly about our differences because I can't stand yelling or insulting or pushing emotional buttons.

Willing to match my effort in the relationship. If I feel like I'm carrying everything on my shoulders, I'll probably call it quits.

I'd prefer her to be intelligent because I really get into a bunch of different science fields.

She needs to have a sense of humor and thick skin, because I talk a lot of shit but don't mean a word of it.

Also preferably into some form of fitness so I don't feel like a lunatic for some of the shit I do physically. Understanding why I do things instead of looking at me like I have a third eye would be a plus.

Of course, I'd have to be physically attracted to her, but I'm not terribly picky about a perfect face or body (I don't have either myself, so...). A nice, genuine smile is a huge turn- on.

[Dchrls78104]

I seek a woman who is:
1. A nonsmoker who does not drink or do drugs.
2. A natural born and fully heterosexual adult female.
3. Modest, respectful, quiet.
4. A Christian.
5. Always dressed tastefully in public (thongs and such would send me running the other way).
6. Honest, loyal, faithful, and transparent.
7. Slender to athletic and taller than 5'0".
8. Capable of supporting me when I'm down and depressed.
9. Free of tattoos and body piercings.
10. Reasonably affectionate (hugs, kisses, etc. ).

[ShadezMcgee]

If I were single, I look for the following.

1.) Accountability
2.) Responsible
3.) Intelligence
4.) Similar values and goals for the future
5.) Sense of humor
6.) Respectful
7.) Feminine (kind, affectionate, etc.)
8.) Takes care of herself physically
9.) Good personality and chemistry

[serious]

Good standards.

[JUST1NC]

Open-mindedness and patience, for me patience is needed because I take so long to open myself up to people do to shit that happened in y past and open-mindedness because more than likely ww might not like the same music so if they re open minded we can gradually get there

[Dontaaa]

If I was looking, probably a woman that I can pretty much consider a close friend.

You know how some people want thier partner to be like their bestfriend? That's kinda what I want.

All other notable positive attributes would go along with that of course.

[Ripper_E]

Aside from finding her attractive? Someone who isn't quick to judge. Someone who has a hard work ethic. Someone who has good intellect. Someone who doesn't spend money on a bunch of nonsense over her responsibilities. Someone who will fight and work for us as I will. Someone who isn't materialistic. Someone who says what they mean. There is a lot. But no one is perfect.