Guys, what do you look for in a woman if you are looking for a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Me

[MCheetah]

What I look for in an ideal woman:

- Kind/positive
- Accepting/nonjudgmental
- Open-minded
- Intelligent
- Strong sense of humor
- Strong work ethic
- Patient; not easily offended or bothered
- Politically moderate (not too liberal or conservative)
- Strictly heterosexual
- Monogamous
- Nerdy; into video games or superheroes
- Tall
- Curvy/thick/plus-sized
- Feminine
- Redhead, strawberry blonde, or blonde
- Young; between 20 and 30.
- Not a feminist, progressive, or far-left
- Not shallow or superficial
- Not mean-spirited or negative
- Not closed-minded or stupid
- Not arrogant or conceited
- Definitely NOT queer, or a part-time lesbian ("bisexual")
- Definitely NOT polyamorous!
- Doesn't already have kids (without a father figure)
- Not too skinny
- Not masculine or butch
- Not born male

And @Kairithecatgirl, why do you always look so different in every picture? I legit can't tell if you're "CIS-gendered" or not. You look female here. Good picture.

[OlderAndWiser]

A few years ago, I wrote an extensive Take about selecting a partner for dating and eventually for marriage. Assuming that your long term goal is a stable relationship and possibly marriage, a good prospect for dating means someone who is a good prospect for marriage. Of course, when you first start dating someone, you don't know them well and someone who appears to e a great catch may actually be a dud, but you should at least be looking for the qualities that would make someone a good spouse.

Who should you date; who should you marry?

[InventorofWarp]

Smart, sensual, kind, caring, warm, affectionate, passionate, funny, witty, loyal, beautiful, charming and alluring. Extra points for confidence and spontaneity. Basically if I can look at her and think "yep this woman, I want her to be the mother of my kids, this woman is the woman I want to impregnate" then odds are she's gold. And I'm the kind of guy who has to be comfortable and feel safe around her like she feels warm and welcoming and kind. I, like many people, have been hurt before so knowing I'm safe with her is everything.
Also extra points if she calls me her "boy" or some pet name. I'm a sucker for romance.
Also extra points if she's a gardener or a musician.

[KneeDragger]

For me, being pro-LIFE and honest are more important than anything else. Those traits lead into other things like my wife always gives me advice that is sound when I ask her a question about something I'm struggling with. We both know that all of humanity is just that, human. However when choices are made, life has natural consequences and those consequences need to be met so learning takes place. If you try and cover up that mistake or lie, there was no learning and with no learning then life tends to help me keep making mistakes until I actually learn how to avoid the consequence (positive or negative) of that particular choice.

My hope is that makes sense.

[SnuffleMuffins]

If I were looking for a girlfriend...
What I'd look for in a woman first and foremost is their personality. And there are many factors that go into personality. For me, I'd like a woman who has a good sense of humor, is easy-going/lay back, is funny and fun, is intelligent in terms of self-reflectance, is generally open to things, and is comfortable within their own skin. I'd also like them to be very affectionate and loving. That's very important to me because I myself am very affectionate and loving. And last, but definitely not least, I need someone with a high sex drive.

[Jjpayne]

You are really cute! 😍 I would date you if I could...
But to your question,

Similar interests

A girl that gives back and likes helping others

And is fun and adventurous

[JayParris]

Willing to talk calmly about our differences because I can't stand yelling or insulting or pushing emotional buttons.

Willing to match my effort in the relationship. If I feel like I'm carrying everything on my shoulders, I'll probably call it quits.

I'd prefer her to be intelligent because I really get into a bunch of different science fields.

She needs to have a sense of humor and thick skin, because I talk a lot of shit but don't mean a word of it.

Also preferably into some form of fitness so I don't feel like a lunatic for some of the shit I do physically. Understanding why I do things instead of looking at me like I have a third eye would be a plus.

Of course, I'd have to be physically attracted to her, but I'm not terribly picky about a perfect face or body (I don't have either myself, so...). A nice, genuine smile is a huge turn- on.

[Dchrls78104]

I seek a woman who is:
1. A nonsmoker who does not drink or do drugs.
2. A natural born and fully heterosexual adult female.
3. Modest, respectful, quiet.
4. A Christian.
5. Always dressed tastefully in public (thongs and such would send me running the other way).
6. Honest, loyal, faithful, and transparent.
7. Slender to athletic and taller than 5'0".
8. Capable of supporting me when I'm down and depressed.
9. Free of tattoos and body piercings.
10. Reasonably affectionate (hugs, kisses, etc. ).

[ShadezMcgee]

If I were single, I look for the following.

1.) Accountability
2.) Responsible
3.) Intelligence
4.) Similar values and goals for the future
5.) Sense of humor
6.) Respectful
7.) Feminine (kind, affectionate, etc.)
8.) Takes care of herself physically
9.) Good personality and chemistry

[serious]

Good standards.

[JUST1NC]

Open-mindedness and patience, for me patience is needed because I take so long to open myself up to people do to shit that happened in y past and open-mindedness because more than likely ww might not like the same music so if they re open minded we can gradually get there

[Dontaaa]

If I was looking, probably a woman that I can pretty much consider a close friend.

You know how some people want thier partner to be like their bestfriend? That's kinda what I want.

All other notable positive attributes would go along with that of course.

[Ripper_E]

Aside from finding her attractive? Someone who isn't quick to judge. Someone who has a hard work ethic. Someone who has good intellect. Someone who doesn't spend money on a bunch of nonsense over her responsibilities. Someone who will fight and work for us as I will. Someone who isn't materialistic. Someone who says what they mean. There is a lot. But no one is perfect.

[Newgee123]

I'm into looks obv... but it would have to be someone who can do something with them and not just pretty or hot.. a non vapid attractive person.

Trustworthy, respects herself/ knows her value, has good taste and bad taste and knows the difference, interesting, not showy but effortless, patient, resourceful

[SpaceGalaxy]

1- Nice Ass, not too big & not too small, bubbly and round
2- Smaller feet, pedicured nails
3- Medium-sized breasts
4- Totally hairless (except some trimmed pussy hair)
5- Full set of lips
6- Female hands with manicured nails
and definitely great hygiene

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

She's definitely gotta be a white woman.

I adore white woman. I can't wait to hopefully have exotic white babies with blonde hair and blue eyes to show case on Facebook for likes and get compliments at the mall and supermarket strangers.

I'm gonna be super happy joining the white community.

Wish me luck. 😃

[Kreneman]

1. Spiritual 2. Responsible 3. Respectful 4. Open Minded 5. Very Mature 6. Loving 7. Caring 8. Extremely Nice 9. Naturing 10. Modest 11. Classic Dresser 12. Beautiful 13. Extremely lay back 14. Good listener

[Miristheiss]

Well, for starters, a girl with a face like the one in the picture is the best start.

Someone fun, easy going, playful, feminine, affectionate, loyal, and our values and core belief systems to line up.

[TadCurious]

First and foremost a nice person with good values. Someone who is friendly and kind to others but isn't a pushover. Someone with a good sense of humor.

[Cloudchaserplaytime]

I hope I've found her. she's honest and straight forward. she's very sexy even when she's dirty from working on her new house. she's extremely flexible. I'm just nervous about making any move because I have not been with a woman in 2 years and she hasn't been with a man in 7. So I'm taking it slow but the anticipation is starting to kill me. I am willing to wait but some of the shared sexual innuendo is causing my restraint to wain.

[broken_heart_at_48]

You definitely have it in the looks department. So as long as you're a good and kind spirit and of course have a high sex drive or at least have a high sex drive with the right person. Be adventurous and have an open mind and be ride or die.

[The_Maphio]

Looks are what makes us close in, but ultimately affinity and smarts are what we care the most.
A sexy chicken head can be annoying enough to not even consider the company to empty one's balls.

[AlexanderAnttila]

With eyes like those I'm only looking for you. ;)
No but flirts aside, I look for a girl with a deep heart with a certain jua de vivre. But also class, morality. Natural femininity, gentleness, but spirited.

[ChrisMaster69]

Basically,
someone I with a great personality, confident, independent, intelligent, her own person, sense humour, has respect for relationship and trust.

[etexbearkat]

I want a woman who is honest. That’s the first thing I look for, outside of her religious beliefs. She does not have be a Trinitarian Pentecostal, but she has to be a Protestant.

[Levin]

Kind, snuggly, healthy and in shape, reasonable attractiveness thresholds, just a nice person with a humanitarian orientation.

[serious]

I don't need a woman in my life. I have always been single and I have decided to remain single for life.

[kkirk4442]

Kindness, caring, affectionate (not just physically), honest, friendly, good sense of humor, integrity, flexible personality.

[slatyb]

Intelligent, kind, generally happy, fit enough to enjoy outdoor activities, not religious.

Very nice picture.

[Browneye57]

Is this really 'how do I look'? Cuz they get the boot you know.
They look for YOUR level of attraction and desire for HIM. Do you want him? Or not?

[TheSpaceGnome]

A lot of things, but basically an artistic, smart, hardcore gamer nerd, who is kind hearted, bubbly, funny, pervy, and affectionate.

[Leavesbound]

She needs to be nice and like me. Those are the top two things. Anything else are bonus points.

[exitseven]

Somebody that shares similar interests, has similar values and morals, Being easy on the eyes would be nice too.