Does your race play a significant factor in your dating life?

[MLGbreezy]

Even tho I wish is didn't it unfortunately plays a big rile for me. I've tried dating white woman and see literally no success when it comes to them. I've done to find that at least the ones in my area have a very specific type when it comes to black men. Black woman which are generally my preference can be tricky for me, while I see more success I still have a hard time mostly because like white woman they've got a type that I don't fit into because I've lived around white people most my life and adopted more their habits and life style choices. Aka I'm not hood enough for either white woman or black woman and as for the other races well I just don't see them in my area to a large degree. Hbu?

[JDavid25]

"Aka I'm not hood enough for either white woman or black woman." I felt that.. With all types of women it's literally more of the stereotypes they like.. Whether it's the hood dude, or "BBC" or they want pretty "mixed" kids.. Don't get me wrong plenty of people like every "race" in some way for stereotypical reasons, but unfortunately many "Black" dudes pride themselves in being apart of those stereotypes. I went in a date with one Latina, and we seemed to have had a good time.. She seemed excited to see me again, but then all of a sudden she wasn't feeling me. She said it was because "we were too similar".. How I interpreted it was "You're not hood enough for me".. She didn't wanna say that but I got the hint strongly. Even a lot of "Black" women go with these stereotypes. They are not any different. It's either women will avoid you because of those stereotypes or they will like you because of it.. There are a lot of women who will like you for neutral reasons like them thinking you look nice, or getting to know you, but you'll have to find them in the least expected places.

[MLGbreezy]

Exactly and part of that is why for a long time I didn't date black woman I never felt good enough for them and the ones that don't nessarly care about that can be hard to find when the majority of black people in your area live in the hood or come from the hood as for the white woman I mean they like what they like BBC the athletes, big black dudes or prettyboy light skin dudes were the only guys I ever really saw get a lot of attention from the white woman in my area and that hasn't seemed to change much. Some latina woman have shown Intrest in me in the past but I don't really run into a lot and the fee that dude either it's a similar situation to the black woman or they just don't like you like that. I don't really see any other. Major races like that

[JDavid25]

Most definitely... And yeah I felt that all throughout Highschool that I wasn't good enough for "Black" women because I wasn't the hood class clone making people laugh, and low-key being a thug. But yeah, I've ran into my fair share of "Black" women who are similar to me.. And yeah you are right that those dudes get a lot of attention from "White" women.. Some thought I was that type of dude til they heard me speak. 😂.. And I been around a lot of Latinas.. Either they really don't care for "Black" dudes, or they like the hood dudes. But I've met a few who just liked me once they got to know how I am. But other "races" we'll usually be an "experience".. But yeah it is what it is.. there's a lot of women out there who will like you because you are a good guy or they think you are handsome.. Or they genuinely just have a preference for "Black" guys that's not completely regulated to stereotypes.. I've met a few women who just like "Black" men..

[JDavid25]

Class Clown**

[Birdlegs]

Man y’all are summing up my whole middle school experience 😭 I ain’t know who I fit in with eventually I just decided fuck every stereotype I don’t want to be a “black dude” I’m gonna be me and I will only be me take it or leave it. I will listen to white songs if I want I’ll listen to rap if I want I’ll eat mayonnaise if I want I don’t own any Jordan’s they’re too expensive I will only be me and if someone doesn’t appreciate that about me then they can drink old bath water.

[JDavid25]

@Birdlegs Lmao.. Most definitely man.. I feel that.. Like you I have never owned a pair of Jordans.. Some people usually just start talking to me about getting the Jordan's band I just think... And? LOL..

[TurboKid]

I think it tends to play quite a role in my social life in general, including but not limited to dating. I'm biracial and also kind of mixed in terms of cultural outlooks and mannerisms since I ended up growing up in three separate countries which all shaped my thoughts quite a bit.

I'm kind of used to being the outsider everywhere, even when I dated Japanese women (I am originally from Japan). I'm still not quite fully Japanese in mindset since I spent my teenage years in Singapore and later the US.

There was always kind of a feeling when I dated women like we're each other's cultural tour guides. It's less so with Japanese women than other ethnicities I dated like white Americans and black Americans, but still always a bit like that. For example, I had a white girlfriend in the US that I met in a clothing store, and the way she started dating is that she asked me where I was from and I said Japan and she got all excited and asked me to write her name in Japanese (then I did in katakana). Then she gave me her phone number and we started dating, but it's like the whole time she was very obsessed with learning about Japanese culture.

[TurboKid]

I think I look more Japanese than Caucasian but when I was a kid in Japan, my white features still popped out enough for my friends to call me "Amerikajin" (an American). Then they wanted to learn about America and I'm like, "I don't know. I've never been there!" :-D But it's always like that for me. Whenever people approach me, they always start with, "Where are you from?" And many conversations start off with a cultural curiosity.

[JDavid25]

Damn seems to me like she didn't like you for you, but liked that you were from a different culture.. That's unfortunately the state of dating today..

[TurboKid]

@JDavid25 I've gotten kind of used to it. :-D She was still sweet and nice as a girlfriend although I certainly think her interest in Japan was a huge part of why she dated me in the first place. My sister took more of an issue with these things though. For example, she gets all cranky when guys call her mixed looks "exotic". I tend to take it as a compliment.

[JDavid25]

Based on what you say it seems like the main reason. But I feel you man. And yeah women seem to take more offense in being called "exotic" than men usually..

[JDavid25]

Although, I'm sure she liked you, or she wouldn't have dated you but it seems like you were more of an "experience"..

[TurboKid]

@JDavid25 I used to have an insecurity about that "experience" thing since I think that might even be the main appeal I have for most of my friends. For example, many of my Japanese friends are always asking me to teach them English or they want to shift the conversation topic to something about America and asking me questions about the country and culture.

I've made peace with it though. It's like even if that's the main attraction and novelty about me for friends and dates, at least I met some nice people through it. Most of them were kind and caring.

[MLGbreezy]

That's a common trend with what woman they often obsess over the exterior rather than the interior in simple terms which is why although I'm surrounded by white people even if I could pull a white girl I often opt not to cause they don't really take the time to get to know you just what they like about you and there's a big difference.

[MLGbreezy]

And I went. Through I similar experience while I did live I'm the hood when I was young it was for s very short time and my parents moved to a predominantly white area for a better school and home life and I've lived here ever since and growing up all I ever heard was wow your the whites black person I know and wow you smart for a black kid or the opposite that I'm dumb as bricks and then when it came to the black kids I can't tell you how much bulking I received from black kids for being Nerdy or speaking a certain way I never felt like I fit in with other black kids I was often made fun of and that translated over to dating. I felt like the woman would never like me cause I was the whites black kids in the room aka not good enough or black enough. But the white woman didn't like me cause I want white or black enough I was always caught in the weird in between. I ended up doing a lot of stupid shot and became the class clown for attention but that never helped me with the ladies especially once I got into highschool

[TurboKid]

For me, it helped a lot when I just started to embrace the way I am as one who can't help but always be treated and looked at as a bit of an outsider. I stopped trying to blend in so much and even started to dress in a way that made me stand out more, not less including wacky stuff like pink shirts like this:


Some girls actually dig it! And I think for women it helps especially with those like us to find those "some" women. I can't possibly appeal to the majority of women. I'll always be too white for some or too Asian for others, if not in my looks then in my mixed mannerisms and way of thinking. But if you stand out and not ashamed of it, it becomes easier to find those women who do like you as you are.

[JDavid25]

Most definitely.. It's definitely not really a bad thing if you really meet good friends through it.. 😌.. I'm glad you did..

[wegotproblems]

Yes!!! Absolutely!! Always date whoever you want regardless of race but a lot of people are freakishly racist or have a preset ideal that they have to date within their own race.

[MLGbreezy]

Yea it can be tough cause what's most convenient are whites but they don't seem to like me much and within my own race you've gotta look and act a certain type of way to get female attention so I feel like I'm in a lose lose situation

[princeofromance]

No, It does not. Race has nothing to do with true love.

[Phoenix98]

Race has never played a factor in who I date.

[BIG-BLACK-Robinson]

How you get white women? Act black or act white?

[MLGbreezy]

Huh?