I've been reflecting upon the person I've become and to my greatest disappointment came to realize that I am a negative one. Each and every one of us thinks we are the good guys and what we do is the right and good thing. How many of you can be utterly honest with yourselves and admit that you are not a good person? Or what do you think of yourself as a person in general?
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I think I have been very successful in all aspects of my life. Many people argue with me about the decisions I make, but yet I am the successful one. Many people don’t like me but yet I don’t understand why. When I was you g I remember adults, F’ing adults, telling me I would never be anything. And yet here I am.
I am a self-made multi-millionaire with four Mercedes, a BMW, two houses with no mortgage, and have travelled all over the world on business and personal.
I have a wife for many years and no problems in our relationship. We are in many ways a model couple.
Our kids are highly educated, making great money and are good people. We are a tight family and speak to each other daily.
We have helped people when they were in real need and no one else helped.
We have what others want yet they would disagree with our decisions which is funny in a way as they are hard headed and wrong.
It’s was hard to keep moving forward when so many would tell you how it should be done. Now I simply do what I think is right and really don’t care if they disagree or not. It just doesn’t matter what they say if I think it lacks merit.
So yeah, I am very happy with who I am and I really don’t care that much how this sounds to others who always want to insert their opinion. I will however be anonymous as it talks about financial success and this is the internet so I would rather not be a target.
dont want your fortune but can you give some advice how to be succesful at work/doing business? is it the relationship with people that you would say is most important?
@annyasansiri The relationship with people is critical and I am not the best at it. That said, relationships with people have made it possible for me to get three roles over a couple million dollars. My advice is to learn something that pays a lot and others don’t want to do (you would be surprised that there is a lot of that out there), then take jobs no matter where there are geographically speaking which will greatly increase the amount of jobs available and the pay. Then be the best in what you do. Plus be visible in the community by going to conferences and speaking (you will get used to it).
@White_Widow I actually was interested in how much females masturbate. 😂. And this site came up in the search. I like it now so I stayed quite awhile. I have to be somewhere is what I tell people when they ask that question. You’ve likely talked to many people with some money and never realized it as they never mentioned it. I bet big money there are people on here worth more than me… because I have spoken to them.
Fair enough, I didn't mean that because you have money therefor you couldn't be on this site or others. I have talked to plenty that have money on here. It's just that you're the first I've come across that is in here saying that he is successful.
(most of the people here, ended up here because there is something not going well for them and are in need of some sort of advice.) you saying you're successful in almost every possible way, money, relationship etc, therefor it made me wonder. Thank you for telling though. And I guess you're right that there is also a certain percentage of people ending up here because they are curious about the other sex.
@White_Widow My wife is usually near me while i am in here and I share with her some of the questions to get her answer or read her some of the answers which can be very funny or strange.
You sound very inspiring! Good to know there's at least one person who's enjoying life without nagging about it 😅 I wish you all the best in the future!
Certainly I think everyone can be better , thats for sure , but Im very positive , Im in a good space right now , and I appreciate a space that many would envy but I did plan it this way. Im a guest in this wonderful country ( Thailand ) and I always try and assist those less fortunate , far from faultless , can be selfish , just got told the other day " Give it a break , stop enforcing your views on others " ( I didn't think I did , but I express strong opinions ) , so yeah , always trying to be a bit better , its an ongoing scenario , so day by day.
But , Im still positive , despite all the nonsense that has gone down in recent times.
I get it. It's good that you're being positive. Although, from what you said makes me think people don't always appreciate it... maybe they think it's fake?
A disgusting, indecisive individual who does nothing but make people run away and hurt people. I don't even mean to or want to, it's just this terrible toxic personality I developed over the years possibly from coming from a dysfunctional home where my parents weren't exactly the most loving. It may also come from being with an abusive guy for four years of my life and being sexually assaulted at my weakest moment. All of this has turned me into a shitty human being and all I want to do is stop being like this and fix what's wrong with me. I don't want to continue losing friends and sabotaging good relationships because of this toxicity. I want to be able to not be a pushover doormat, stop being so emotionally unstable and mean so that I can finally keep friends and tell people "no". It's like I am nothing but a push over and a stupid, whiny manipulative bitch all at the same time and I hate it.
Sorry for the long paragraph, but this is honestly what I think of myself. :(
If you ask me, it's quite difficult to realize all that. Fixing it all is even more difficult, but at least you know where to start from, right? I'm also on that stage now. I think even baby steps is better than just staying whoever you are.
I think the term trash monster comes up quite often in description of my looks, at least by myself anyway. I think I do have the ability to make people laugh. I think I put myself in a lot of uncomfortable situations just to be liked. I also think there are a lot of things I say and do that are not always the most popular things to say or write about, but I do anyway because I am passionate about them. I'm pretty self destructive, but will do what I can and when I can to help others up.
Well let's see... I am by no means kind... Anymore. I get easily angry, intimidate my suroundings, I've grown intolerant and hateful in some ways as opposed to the compromising fool I once was.
I am however a good father, try to be a good fiance, I'm great at my job and still have a few people that honestly like me more now than before.
Thing about getting older is that you have experiance to back up your perspectives. You know who you are, realize there really is no "good" or "evil", only people who are either fond of eachother or in conflict.
I don't consider myself either good or bad in the sense of the classic meaning of those labels. Instead I know what I bring to the table and what I want, some people want what I have or can provide and some of them can give me somthing. That makes us friends, equals. Others are gonna hate on me because of their shortcomings and I hate on others for mine.
To be honest, in my 30s, I was clueless. Looking back, I realized, I wasn't.
If I were to share who I am? I was just a girl, trying to grow up to be a woman to face the challenge of life or am I shy? Just staying away from life? No... I would say, life happen. Its how we want to live our life. How we conduct ourself. How we treat ourselves and others. At the end, whats right? Whats wrong? Who to judge, but us. Do we judge too harshly? Will any of that matter? At the end, are we good to oursleves? Did we learn from our mistakes? Are we growing? I think, I am one to continue to learn, grow and be better.
That's very accurate. What others think us you is kind of important because that directly influences your life, but on the other hand, the most significant point is whether or not you are satisfied with the person you've become.
I think I have a 9 out of 10 brain stuck in a 0 out of 10 body.
Almost every disappointment in my life has been completely out of my control and that every time I've prepared to do something or make a leap to a better step in life, it always fails despite doing everything in my power to maximize chances of success.
Most of the reason I am where I am in life right now, is not my fault. I made all the right steps and prepared as much as I can, even if it still didn't work out in my favor. I tried.
Do you think it has anything to do with the person you are? Also, about the body. You may think it's 0 out of 10, but trust me it's all about your esteem and how you deliver it. If you're confident then people will only see the good side of it. It's a pity I cannot show a picture for you to understand what I mean.
Viewpoints & opinions will never not be limited & biased. I sure as hell can't imagine having an all-encompassing view of anything. Especially since we don't understand most of what anything is. We believe we do. And it's useful to act as if we do. But we just know what we can observe. We know what we can act. We know what we feel. But who knows how far the rabbit hole goes.
Any opinion I have of myself could easily be another one. We are beings of potential. Uncontrollably embodying meaning in anything (Simply for existing) with our senses. And manually doing so when we believe we choose to.
So... I view myself as being something that can be interpreted in many ways depending on what is valued. Even in contradictory ways.
I'm literally "I give back what I get" kind of a person. Yes I have pride, ego issues and I want to be better than others. But genuine people make me much calmer, considerate and caring. I always value loyalty and honesty. If they give me fishy vibes then they're gonna see my fickle and fake side for sure.
Just watch their patterns. If they keep on letting you down then cut them off. Words are useless and actions can also be temporary, patterns will tell the truth.
Yes I understand. I used to be like that. But my style was a bit different. I won't breakup or cut off, instead I'll give them 10 more chances. But once I broke up then it was done for them. No matter what they said I didn't bothered. Presently, I'll only give maximum 3 chances.
I actually really like myself and as I have gotten older I have only learned to love myself more… I was pretty high strung and worried about everyone and everything around me on the inside while keeping a cool composer on the outside in my late teens till about 23… then I started forgiving myself of past deeds and loving myself… now I’m pretty much my own rock of self confidence that is pretty hard to shake… I can offer unconditional love to others now because of this. And physically I’ve got somewhere between the sweet dad bod and the I used to workout but somehow maintain a little of it without doing anything. Which I’m ecstatic with!!! But the best thing is that I don’t have that problem that hurts most men cause I’m far from small… hell I’m pretty far from average if I’m honest… and when I learned that my confidence shot wayyyy up and gave me the tools to do the above.
I used to be extremely shy, was bullied throughout my entire school years for my stature, i was and am very skinny from a medical disorder from birth, I was told by many people that i was ugly or weak, Though I can't help being skinny no matter how much i try... i can never be big or strong physically, I'm sterile and can't have kids. but through the years of constant medical battles, and still battling a 13 year long eating disorder I keep my head up high and hope for the best.
I think we have all had our moments good or bad, but if you keep pushing forward for the better, i think you'll feel different about yourself.
I think I'm adequate overall. I'm not a bad person, but I'm far from perfect or great. If I'm being blunt, I have tons of flaws and imperfects that need to be worked on- and I'm sure others can see that too once they get to know me!
But that's okay. As I said, overall I'm an okay person. There's just things about me that are an acquired taste: either you like me or you don't.
I have come to see myself as the truth of what I am and how everyone else sees me. If I say it people think I'm just being negative but I'm just being truthful and they try and call me things for being this way but honestly not one person can harm me using words, I've become numb to it because I say worse.
I can say with all honesty that to others I try my hardest to be as kind as possible but everyone my entire life has conditioned me to see the truth myself and it's what I have come to believe wether it's negative or just the truth.
I think that I'm a good person, I have been told by many people that based on my job I am worthless, a whore, lazy, disease infested, evil, and that I should kill myself. Sometimes I think that if that many people think that about me maybe they're right, I try not to let it get to me but sometimes that's easier said than done.
🤔 I don't understand why people say such things. Are you their boss by any chance? Or will they gain something if you quit your job? I think most of the time, people say mean things about those who makes them work more.. Nevertheless, don't listen to them.
I've realized how selfish I was last year and some years before that, as a teenager. How manipulative I was and that I was only thinking of myself when I was telling myself that I wasn't. I've definitely changed for the better and have matured as a person because of how much I realized. I'm glad of all the lessons life has provided me because I might not be the person I am today without them
Yeah, I understand. I don't think I would've realized the things I did, if I didn't take myself out of everything for a while and just look back on my past actions with a new mindset
I think I love myself enough. Although I couldn't call myself completely good but I try to be kind and sometimes people have taken advantage of me in the past but since then I have start investing in my self, my goals and my interestsand this has helped overcome all negative thoughts
I always try to be good and do the right thing and in some situations that never got me anywhere, something I learnt in my marriage. So I became more selfish in certain situations. I know generally I am not a bad person but I have my moments when I'm damn right asshole. I'm happy with the person I am now, I felt when I was always the ggod guy I was loosing out and being walked over, and I hared myself for that. I think a good balance is to have a balance to good and wicked.
I am a engineer, so I see the faults and what needs to be done. I don't focus on what is already good enough. So people can get the impression that I am negative which I truly aren't. I am for most part a very neutral person minding my own business. I help when I want. I don't stand in people's way unless I must.
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To be honest I believe I am a good person, obviously not perfect, no one is! But I keep my word rigurously, am loyal and try to spread positive energy and don't like this gossiping and badmouthing against people! Trying to help when I can, even though it may not be the most advantageous for myself but hey!
i like to think i love myself, but i sometimes habe doubts about this but i try to ignore them. i dont know honestly how im seen by other and it kinda bothers me cause like i wanna seem cool and attract people near me but i feel i have a wall that im not really aware of. anyway, i think im pretty great overall but i gotta stop giving a crap about what others think. even tho it bothers me right now thinking about it
Hmm. I think the way we behave influences greatly how people treat us. If you are confident, then they treat you better, but if you keep on showing them your weak points, eventually they start treating you accordingly. I know this for sure as I've lost many friends in this manner. People like strong personas next to them, not whining and shy ones.
I am VERY honest and outspoken. I have absolutely no filter. I’m gonna tell it like it is. And I have accepted the fact that some people (probably more than some) won’t like me. I am absolutely fine with that. I’m not gonna sugarcoat what I say to not offend anyone. I don’t care. If you get offended by what I think or say, then don’t hang around me. That simple.
i think im a pretty weird dude i dont think that im normal to any extent but im not at the age that i can determine if thats how i actually am gonna be for the rest of my life. You on the other hand you're at the age that kinda like determines how you are to other people based on how you are to your self so i would recommend just being a bit more positive and less negative (yeah take this advice from the 13 year old)
Kurt Cobain said it well. ”Nobody die’s a virgin, life F’s us all.”
We can’t stay good, we’d never get anywhere. The world causes us to do things we wouldn’t normally just to survive. Does that make it our fault? That’s a grey area.
I'm still trying to figure myself out but I have very high self confidence because I know what I'm capable of it's just a matter of finding ways to maximize or find new ways to apply my capabilities
I truly think I’m a good person. We all have a moment of fcked up thinking but if you can admit that moment was wrong and repent and try to become a better person, then you're on the right track
Honestly speaking I am a ugly looking and not at all attractive and really a negative person. And i would suggest to people that don't have even friendship wid me coz i can turn u to a negative one.
I generally have a positive view of my myself. I’m by no means perfect, but I do feel like my predominant orientation is positivity, honor, righteousness, kindness, and morality.
I know I have flaws just everyone else. I make mistakes, I'm not perfect. Sometimes I can be unfair, sometimes I push away people who love me but overall I think I'm a decent human being.
You define it yourself, there isn't a universal understanding of what's good or bad. It can be different for anyone. But to me bad means jealous, stingy, self-absorbed.. etc etc
😄 tell me about it. But I think there's still hope for people like us. We can still improve ourselves. At least that's what I'm planning to do. Might take years, but better late than never.
Me and my fear of failure (and resulting fear of commitment) unfortunately I'll try is the best I can do right now, so I'll try :) you are right though it will most likely just end up being a no
Sometimes, when I know I'm going to fail, I still try just to tell myself later "I've tried" and not overload my thoughts with "what if I'd try? 🤔". Saves from a lot of overthinking hahah
That's a _great_ start to doing something about it. I am awesome, super committed, just too tired of all the fakery and meanness that is standard (for asshole guys moreso than girls, and they are _everywhere_ at least in the monarchies)
In the habits I had wrong, I did it with small things first. When, by copied habit, I could have just invented a story/white lied, I either told the truth or kept quiet. When I could have invalidated someone as an 'idiot' - the same, no comment, or 'he has his own problems' After some time you start to feel happy/proud about the results and that becomes habit. Be careful not to find a corrupt 'friend' who'd drag you down/back or badmouth you (the amount of that is surprisingly high)
I'm an absolute fuckin delight. Some people like me, some people don't and thats their perogative. What you think of me doesn't change how I view myself
I am but my attitude can change. One day I look at how I provided for my family and got three kids through school and made a nice home for them and my wife, Then Sometimes I think I should have worked harder and done things differently.
The tree of knowledge. It takes a lot of Discipline to not be negative. Being negative is the easiest thing to do. After all, Rationalization is the second strongest human drive.
That’s just my short version lol. I can only accredit this to me living life through many different sets of eyes and then being able to pull myself back.
Yeh, that's what I'm talking about. You might seem a good person to yourself, but when you look back and reflect upon your actions, you understand that you're not quite the person you thought you were...
I believe I'm a good person but not perfect. I don't always admit I'm wrong partly because I don't realise it and other times because I'm too stubborn to admit it. But yeah, when I reflect on my actions, I generally admit when I am wrong.
Master everything you can , which you need only you! , your ideas and only few tools , jack of everything master of none , actually jack of every thing better than master of one
I agree with K-I-S-S . Keep your mind busy and all the depression and anxiety will go away. Other than that you might want to see a therapist. That should work better.
Maybe the first impressions or something like you come off a certain way you didn't mean to, At one of my previous jobs someone at work told me " You know what, At first I thought you were smart ass and now I realize you're a really sweet guy" and I was like whoa really? I didn't know they originally thought that!! Sometimes people just don't understand or they just take things the wrong way..
No.. sometimes I feel l sad that no treat me like a baby.. I rapidly get this thoughts.. lol 😂 I used to ask some girls but no one wound do it for me..
It's going to be tough. One thing I've realized is that it's far too difficult to find a good friend when you're an adult. People form views, likes/dislikes, etc., by the time you meet them. And these views, likes/dislikes, don't always match. Then, of course, the personalities get in the way... sigh
Where can find it no one wanna be my friend i divorce and i have nothing to do in my life i m so alone and i m not rich i can't find money to eat something how manu times i wanna kill my self
You're not rich? Find ways of earning money. You don't know where to find friends? Think about what kind of people you would like to meet, what interests would you like to share, where you could meet these people and simply go there. I'm sure there are many clubs and or events you can join. We always like to pity ourselves but we're always lazy to change anything about it.
I dont know u that where do you live i. live in istanbul here is 19 pm so text me than we ll talk some other times just wanna talk ıts not about sex or something disgusting
Yeh, using sex can even bring more harm. But how about that mirror thing? Does it really work? @stupidgilllll123 do you think it's possible to change a few things you don't like about yourself?
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