What benefits have come from your disadvantages?

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A disadvantage of mine is that I was born into a very abusive & dysfunctional household. Then later got severely bullied in school until I had no more interest in bettering myself.

But now that I'm older, I have have access to a whole array of addictions that I just didn't have when I was younger. Sure I had video games & food... But now? My God! Coping has never been this fun!

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MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't call it a true benefit or positive or anything, but I've become INCREDIBLY resilient and durable from having an extremely sh*tty life with an abusive mother, and failing to physically grow up and become desirable to women. While I had one serious relationship in the past, 99.9% of women deem me "unworthy" of love, so I've become hard as diamonds in life because I've literally never been loved before.

However the draw back to this is, I'm no longer a nice and polite person, either. I've grown to stop giving a f*ck, for the most part. Not to sound emo or gay or anything, but there is no happiness in my future. Nothing to live for. So I just exist in the world and do my best to contribute to it, but with no pay-off or happy ending, in the end. No reward for good deeds or a job well done. There'll never be a love interest or romance in my life ever again. It all feels so pointless. And I guess I've gotten used to it.

Again, not to sound emo, but my life feels like wandering an endless tundra, in the middle of a blizzard at night. To head to nowhere in particular. Just endless wandering. And I've gotten used to that. I'm definitely resilient, that's for sure.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I am an assertive person who trust his gut and takes risk. Some times it really back fires but my greatest successes have come by taking chances, trusting in my abilities and getting shit down regardless of other people.

So this has not always made me the most endearing of people. But I turned my flaws into strengths.

lakotabebebe · Accepted Answer

My disadvantages were growing up poor with a very unstable family. This caused a lot of bullying as you can imagine, and people trying to pick on me for worn clothes and lack of riches.

I'm thankful these disadvantages are gone, but I can say for certain that these things made me a more generous and understanding person. I know a girl who didn't have my struggles, and I see her as an alternate version of myself if I grew up middle class without family issues. She's a bit rude, racist, and very unempathetic to people who aren't as well off as her. I'm glad I ended up how I am and not like her, even if I love her to death.

Gorge95 · Accepted Answer

I came from a strict home and started doing chores, cleaning and cooking for myself quite early. I also wasn’t the popular kid or even pretty in high school. As tough as this was on my self esteem, it actually helped create my love for writing as it was my only legitimate outlet, oh yes and humour (which can be dark sometimes).

Now that I’m considered conventionally attractive (even by those who actually bullied me) I find no validation in physical appearance and I find more value in how people treat others and how they think.

aarnasen · Answer

Growing up I did a lot of household chores with my mom, and even spent hours learning recipes. I used to think they were a waste of time, and a bit too excessive since I was expected to do all that on top of my studies. Now I'm a homemaker, so my experience with household chores turned out to be as important as my studies.

Apulu_3 · Answer

I was lonely most of my life, It taught me to love myself and know my worth. I have trust issues due to my ex best friend and it helps me stay with safe people. I am not given much freedom, it made me stubborn for my life (I mean stubborn for the things in which I have rights to make decisions but I'm not given) and now I'm much happy than before. I had a tough time and it made me strong.

Lionman95 · Answer

I got bullied at school for being not strong and good at sports as a consequence I try to connect with everybody no matter how weird they look or act.
I´m infertile and have a low libido therefore I´m not really bothered with being friends with men or women alike.

Didlydooper · Answer

My ADHD has made it possible for me to learn skills very quickly and to be efficient. Also if I say am going to do something I get it done because I feel like my integrity is on the line. On the flip side I will always and forever be late to work (even though I LIVE ACROSS THE FUCKING STREET 4 minute walk max) loose my keys, cards, etc. But since my brain is so busy (when I don’t take meds) time flys by quick.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I come from the same background. I started drawing a lot to help cope. Writing too. They're passions of mine as an adult. I'm getting into art stuff now too. Just nervous about trying to sell some paintings. Plus women seem to be more attracted to me when I tell them about my abuse and overcame it.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I was born into shall I say financial difficulties and it pushed me to look into business opportunities from a young age hence I started my first venture at 8 for free hauling scrap metal out of rubbish trips and skips

NathanDavis · Answer

they really do make me appreciate the advantages, the chances and opportunities I do actually have

anon171999 · Answer

I have no disadvantages. Disadvantages don't exist if you choose to view the benefits in things.

AdithyaR · Answer

Disadvantage : self image issues and self worth issues Benefit : I never end up having my heart broken cause I don't let myself get attached to anyone 😂

BaldAvenger · Answer

That's awesome man you hang in there!!! One day at a time!!!

Anonymous · Answer

I Found the King above the glass
he rules over this whole place
and his rule is law and applies to everyone on earth

AND I LOVE IT
and all those talking shit will be dealt with.
just like he did with Damascus

thousands killed.
talking all that shit
and doing evil

and he put them in their place like the betas they are
for my KING IS ALPHA AND OMEGA

KING OF KINGS

GOD OF gods

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I've became more strong, resilient, understanding, wise and compassionate. Bad things can be turned into good things if you have the right perspective and attitude.

exitseven · Answer

I have been on my own since I was a kid. I learned to be very self sufficient.

Anonymous · Answer

I was raised very working class. It drove me to become financially well off. I wouldn't call myself rich. But I'll probably never have to work again. But I consider my biggest strength to be not my assets but my ffullness. I can't turn it off. It's ingrained in me. And I know I'll always be OK because I don't take any of my blessings for granted.

Juxtapose · Answer

I qualify for government programs because of my autism and some people really like how frank I am. It's absolutely garbage for my love life though.

domenico07 · Answer

I have Aspergers, but I learned to work around it and become a little bit more social, and I also learned how to stand up for myself

Citizenkirk · Answer

Are you using sarcasm 🤣 🙂 2 express extreme pain and hardship, because I don't know if you're being serious or not 🤗  Hang in there, because addiction makes things worse. Much worse.

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

I dont have any disadvantages

Cringe · Answer

When you're Suicidal nobody talks to you

Joker_ · Answer

I've never had a disadvantage in my life

jimmy2 · Answer

In USA government benefits

Anonymous · Answer

Being schizoid is like being a wolf among sheep.

Deserter · Answer

A lot of self-reflection and growth

Rangers · Answer

Nothing

jahaims · Answer

Perspective

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