Want your honest opinion. I’m married and have a really good single guy friend?

[Anonymous]

We are always joking, laughing and we share music. A few days ago he send me the song Dusk till dawn. It’s a very intimate song with string lyrics. He has never sent a song like this before.
WS he thinking I’d like it or?

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I’m just wondering if there more to this or just a song he likes?

[Pasiton5]

You are well aware of what's going on between you two and what isn't said and, need finest with yourself don't pretend it's innocent is not it's disrespecting to you husband whom you declared you trust commitment and love to, and running around with this guy who is clearly setting you up to screw you, and this kind of dude who has no regard to the fact your married shows the kind of character he has or lacks, it's your life to do as you please, but what you doing with this guy is not proper for a married women to be doing and you are aware of the feelings between you which is why you posed this to the audience here, I believe you looking for an ok to sleep with this dude it's just as simple as that if I'm wrong in anyway forgive me but I can't read your mind just what you say and your actions, why her married if your really not ready to, just saying

[virtue2332]

It could be a song he likes he could also be horny and not thinking straight because of the hormones raging through his body. I mean I've not done that but I've said some crazy shit when I was in the moment with a girlfriend at the time that was hot at the moment but once I was back to normal and the hormones subsided embarrassed me enough that we had to promise not to bring it up and any and all mention of in the moment conversations should have a big asterisk attached to it.

[Asker]

Too funny!

[SkipPerk]

You are crazy. Also, your husband is cool. My ex-wife would not allow me to have female friends. It was embarrassing. She would even make accusations, out in public. She accused me of having an affair with a co-worker who was married. Her husband was their (this woman and I barely knew each other).

you are fine, and be grateful your husband is not jealous.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Asker]

Yeah My hubby is the best!

[DeeToPlay]

Nothing better to do but to ask him that would take away all the guessing in in security of what's going on. Have you ever had the feelings that he may want more than you have to offer? Think about those things that's what really matters.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

There is more to it. Distance yourself from this person if you are not interested in leaving your current partner. You are on the first steps of the journey to cheating, even if your intentions are honest. Single guy “friends” are the ultimate weasels.

[Anonymous]

I think he's trying to send some signals that he likes you more than a friend. Or if that's what it seems.

[Asker]

I guess you don’t know what people are thinking

[spartan55]

Either that or he is gay. So what if there is more to it on his end?

[Asker]

It would be so much easier if he was gay…

[Asker]

Well he knows I’m happily married and I’ve made it clear right from the beginning.

[spartan55]

That doesn't clear anything up. How have you 'made it clear'?

[Asker]

See this guy is so hard to understand at times. He’s very private. One day I’ll text and don’t hear back from him for hrs or days etc.
I don’t want to look like an idiot asking him why this song.
He’s younger, probably horny. I mean shit I’m most likely taking it out of context.
Would you send this to a girl where you have a platonic relationship with?

[Asker]

He’s European ad well

[Asker]

I could add more but not on a public forum

[Asker]

My husband has met him before. I told him and played song and he’s like no he’s not into you but I wouldn’t send a song like that to a female friend.

[spartan55]

I would never even think about doing that unless I was into her.

[Asker]

I hear you. My one coworker male friend who knows us both - he might just be saying he’d missing you?

[spartan55]

Why do you need to 'understand' how some single guy feels about you. That's crazy, and why tf are you texting him? I think I know why. You need to cut this dude off. And don't give me the 'I'll miss his friendship' bullshit.

[Asker]

I don’t know if I told you but He’s 17 years younger but very mature.
He grew up in Serbia and when the war was on in early 90s his mom sent him to Canada to live with his dad at age of 10

[Asker]

Thanks - that’s what I gave to do

[spartan55]

How old is, how mature, what countries he grew up in... why is any of that relevant?

[HighValue]

Most guy "friends" are just waiting for their chance to be with you romantically, sexually, or both.

[Asker]

It’s interesting because when he first came to the place I work I didn’t bother with him.

About three months out of the blue he asked me how I met my husband.

I told him and then we just started talking etc. He had broken his engagement 10 months earlier. We talked a lot about stuff.

Then the flirting started and I guess I had a crush on him. It was a strictly platonic friendship.

I started playing along with him then started feeling guilty and felt I was disrespecting my husband and told him so.

He got so mad at me and said I took it all the wrong way he was only being friendly. We had a falling out and didn’t communicate. Due to our profession we worked on a platoon and had to back others up. About 3 months later we started talking again. That was 7 months ago.

[Asker]

I’ve seen him about 5 times since October either through work or text.

Nothing physically ever happened until he left. When we see each other now we will give one another a hug.

It just totally caught me off guard when I listened to the lyrics to the song. He’s a very private person

[Citizenkirk]

Are you asking if he is hitting on you? I wouldn't jump to conclusions.

[Anonymous]

No such thing as "just friends" for men when there's attraction.

[Waldoe]

only HE knows what motivated him to send it... so, ask him

[Anonymous]

men and women can't be good friends, unless ones gay

[Asker]

Well he’s definitely not gay

[Anonymous]

christ even a blind man can see it he likes you and wants to be with you

[Iron_Man]

Get rid of the guy you’re married

[DWornock]

He thought you would like it; nothing more.

[IncognitoBandito]

Do the two of you generally discuss music?

[Asker]

We will send EDM/dance tunes. But I’ve never sent an intimate song.

This is the text he sent a few days ago: Another good tune! Saw it as part of a Instagram video and looked it up

[Asker]

Maybe he wasn’t even thinking about the words. I just don’t know

[Asker]

I texted back thank for the song I like it. That’s it

[IncognitoBandito]

I'm gonna guess he was just sharing something that moved him

[Asker]

That’s what I was thinking

[driven159]

you are thinking too much

[Asker]

Yeah

[Wise4myage]

He wants to slip it in.

[Staximus]

Don't put too much mayonnaise on the sandwich

[In_Trance]

Ask your husband what he thinks about this

[spartan55]

He should be able to help, right?

[Anonymous]

He's your Backup Plan, right?

[Asker]

No he’s 17 years younger.

[Asker]

We were coworkers and he has since moved away but parents still live around here.
Honestly never really looked at him more than a friend

[Asker]

He’s very good looking but that’s it.

[Opinion Owner]

Would you hook up with him if you had the chance once he turns 18 if showed Sexual Interest in you?

[Asker]

I’m in my late 40s and he’s early 30s

[Opinion Owner]

My mistake, I misread it. I wouldn't read too much into a song he sends. However, he probably has to have some attraction to you physically to at least put the effort he is into you.

[Asker]

I don’t know.
Do you know the song I’m talking about?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure. I did watch the movie From Dusk Till Dawn years ago and really liked it. Is the song part of the Soundtrack?

[Asker]

I’ve never watched the movie and didn’t know the song.
It’s dusk till dawn by Zyan

[Asker]

This is just ridiculous. I’ve read way too much into this

[Asker]

I mean would you send this song to a female friend?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, maybe if she really liked the Singer/Band, or was a was really into music in general. I would have to think she would really like the song.