Is it normal to still want my happy story at the age of 35?

[Vesuvius87]

I'll be turning 35 in less than 2 hours from now. This might sound childish but I still want my happy story. I want my ''happily ever after'' fairytale taking place. I'm waiting for that to happen.

I don't care what it'll take to get it and how old I'll be; I haven't lost hope yet. I can then finally feel accomplished as a person, as a woman. It would the greatest compliment someone can give me; to be with me permanent and seal the deal.

The day it happens, I'll probably be recording it and crying tears of joy; instead of tears of agony/fury when my horrible ex boyfriend laughed at me and denied me my happiness, destroyed me (both my father and younger brother hate him so much; they wish the worst karma on him), killed me on the inside, gave me the ultimate rejection.

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The day it happens, I'll be posting about it here too, along with the recording and pictures.

[MrOracle]

There's no such thing as "happily ever after." That's a Disney-fied version of a fairy tale, not real life. You will never, ever be happy if you are holding out for a fairy tale, because no one can deliver that to you.

You should be focusing on finding a man with good morals and values, and some plans and ambition for the future, and make sure you have good long-term compatibility. Don't worry very much about his looks or his car or the size of his house - his morals, values, and your compatibility with him will matter FAR more.

And then, understand that he is your partner - your teammate - to help you through the struggles and to share with you the good times in life - but this does not mean in any way that you won't have bad times, bad luck, or struggles - it just means you'll have help. You won't be happily ever after, but you should find the hard times easier, and the good times better, and that's the best any of us can actually expect.

I know you probably think that I'm being too literal, and that I'm taking what you wrote too seriously, but I'm really not. Far too many women have these very unrealistic, adolescent expectations that no man could hope to meet, and then when he fails to deliver the "happily ever after", she resents him and blames him and has to get rid of him to find someone "better" - with the "better" usually meaning "better" in very shallow characteristics like looks or wallet size, and almost always at the expense of morals and values. Guys like that may be exciting for a little while, but they bring you misery in the long run.

I can't make your choices for you, or set your expectations for you - I'm just giving you some advice. But whatever choices you make and expectations you set will come with consequences, good or bad, and you will suffer them, good or bad. The real issue is that, given your age, you don't have time to make any more mistakes - your opportunities are quickly shrinking, so it's more important than ever that you set up the rest of your life NOW. You already have significantly fewer choices of men compared to 5 years ago, and 5 years from now, you'll have significantly fewer than you have today. Choose wisely.

[Vesuvius87]

I'm not focusing on the goods by now and don't care about a man being wealthy. Only that matters to me is commitment (heading towards marriage), love and trust. I've been in a new relationship for 3-4 months by now and hopefully I get it right this time. I can't afford another lying, future faker (aka vampire bfs) that purposely strings along women for his own sick pleasure.

[silkjames]

Hi:) Happy birthday I hope u enjoy your day 🥰... and the only person that can make u happy is u sweet heart! I say whatever u desire in life just go get it it's right there in front of u just reach out and grab your happy story your in control I don't know u but I believe in u forreal if u want something in life just take it u can have any kind of happiness u want ok:) my GAG Friend and HAPPY BIRTHDAY AGAIN Remember it's your day enjoy 🥰!!

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you very much for the kind words. I'm currently in a new relationship for 3-4 and hopefully I get it right this time. My family and friends like him a lot; unlike my ex boyfriend (they hated him).

[silkjames]

Your welcome yes always listen to your loved ones family got your back and I understand your 35 just don't ever think because your older which your not your still very young I'm almost 40 I don't feel that age or look it lol 💪🏽 I feel soo much younger I work out a lot to get rid of stress and it clear my mind and eat healthy make a routine that u enjoy every day my job is great every goes smoothly with me :)! & the secret is LOVE your self enjoy life don't ever listen to negative people always surround yourself with loved ones and in a beginning of a new relationship it's always great just give it time to see if he's the one take your time with everything never rush and all will be well ok my GAG friend 🥰!! Happy birthday:)!

[slatyb]

Fairy tales aren't real. There are no handsome princes with castles for you to marry. You can have a happy life, but with someone real and imperfect. Sorry about the ex-boyfriend. Best wishes for the future.

[Vesuvius87]

I know that. I didn't mean to be literally swept off my feet by my handsome prince but by a faithful man. By the way beauty is in the eye of the beholder; it's subjective. While in my eyes he may be my prince, to other women he would just be a hard worker, average looking guy.

[Vesuvius87]

It's ok... my ex boyfriend lost a good woman that would've easily been his life partner and his personal chef... I would've cooked whatever he asked for... would've given it all (I'm not the type to break up over trivial things; it has to be something serious such as cheating, abuse or scam... someone would have to be a very cruel person for me to get to the point of ditching you). His lost. I've been now dating someone else for nearly 4 months now and hopefully I get it right this time.

[Miristheiss]

What is your "happy story" that you still haven not yet achieved?

[Vesuvius87]

Getting asked the big question (him wanting to commit for life and growing old with him till my last dying death) and as a bonus still getting my chance of bringing to life a blessing; my own blessing to this world.

[Vesuvius87]

I never had that experience in my life. If it happens that would be the first time for me.

[SignedAutographs]

No, it's weird to put a limit on things

[one1wild00]

Yes, it's totally normal AND still possible.

[Vesuvius87]

Yes I believe so. I'm optimistic about it.

[jimmy2]

God bless you I hope you find him

[Anonymous]

No it’s normal, we all have dreams

[Vesuvius87]

Cool. So far things are going with my new relationship. My family and friends like him. Hopefully I get it right this time.

[Opinion Owner]

Hope so

[Anonymous]

Buy a bunch cats or marry a 60 year old

[Vesuvius87]

I'm in a current relationship at this moment and he owns cats; he's a cat lover himself too. I'm sure this was sarcasm on your part. Not funny.