If you can't find a partner or have kids, what's wrong with paying to get it?

[CelineBV]

I've been reading a couple stories of men in their 30's that are still virgins. They're uphappy and wish to find a girl. Why don't they pay a hooker and get it done and over with? Easy solution.

Similarly, there are childless women over 30 that can't find a man that wants kids or won't marry them. However, several actually can afford to pay for an in-vitro fertilization but aren't doing it? Easy solution.

So if they can't get what they want (lost his virginity or have kids) then they can pay it. Even when they have the money, they won't do it. Why? What's wrong with paying to get it?

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If they have the money, then all they gotta do is pay it and it'll end their suffering.

[Phoenix-gb]

As someone in that situation, because that's not finding love or companionship. In other words the other person isn't doing it because they like you, or they care about you, or because they actually find you attractive, they're doing it because you're paying them.

Sure I hate that I'm in this position, but I want to find someone who actually wants to be with and stick by me, not someone who leaves once the money runs out. I've nothing against sex work per se, so I'm not against prostitution, just not when it's not just sex that's missing.

Plus if I have to pay someone to be interested in me, pretty much cements that I'm completely unattractive, in which case I'd feel like I'm forcing someone into a situation they would hate just because I paid for that time slot, so I'd feel even worse than I do now afterwards.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because the guys are unhappy and believe that once they get a girl and can have sex they will be happy all of a sudden. But they don’t want to pay as they worry it would not be good for their reputation.

[CelineBV]

Money might not bring happiness but it can solve things. For the guy, at least he would already gained experience and no longer suffer being a virgin. For woman, if she can afford an in-vitro... then no more suffering about her biological clock ticking, she'll finally get to have a child.
Just pay to get what you want if you can't get it naturally and it can end your suffering.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s only a temporary solution for the guy. Sure he gets experience that time, but he will want sex the next day. He wouldn’t want to keep paying to go and get it from the hooker. Do you think that not being a virgin anymore ends his suffering?

[BarryLiverstone]

But the lack of sex isn’t why they suffer

[Vesuvius87]

It's not about the money but about your own dignity and self-worth. It really hurts that you couldn't find love and someone to spend your life with. It must be the most hurtful feeling ever, knowing that you had to pay any organization as a last resort to provide your needs.

If my current relationship doesn't work and things don't progress as he promised, then sadly I would have to resort to have an in-vitro done. It's sad because I'd rather have a child with a husband than through a clinic.

[Vesuvius87]

I doubt those men just want sex to get it done and over with. They would like to spend it with a woman they love. Money can't buy commitment, companionship nor love.

[NamerOfStars]

Assuming that sex is just about swapping fluids is like assuming that food is just about Calories.

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