Do you tend to over think things?

[sage2021]

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe. Why do you ask? Are you investigating something? Are you working for the government? What do you want?

[sage2021]

@OlderAndWiser tee hee - that's a good one 🤗

[OlderAndWiser]

Whatever you are up to. . . thanks for MHO!

[Baylay]

Yeah it's normal these days

[sage2021]

@Baylay why do you believe it is normal to overthink things these days? Could you give some examples please?

[Baylay]

I meant most people over think in this generation. It's cause how people are around them. The big reason is cause people become anxious

[Lliam]

Sometimes with certain things like projects. For example, I had a rock band until 2020. I was the guitarist, vocalist and arranger. Songs would play over and over in my head. I'd think about every aspect - drums, bass, keyboards, guitar, vocals - even when I went to bed and tried to go to sleep. I'm kind of a perfectionist, so even with building projects or vacations, I research and plan a lot.

When it comes to interpersonal relationships, not so much. I don't over-analyze body language or try to guess people's thoughts and motives. I don't see much point because it's too easy to be wrong. I'd rather ask than guess. And if we're talking about someone other than a romantic partner, it doesn't matter. Most people aren't worth the stress.

I will say that when there is a conflict, I do process a lot. In that sense, I am very introspective. But I don't obsess. I just let things percolate and process. It might take me hours, days, or much longer to see what went wrong. I need to understand my part in the conflict. It's usually a misunderstanding that can be clarified. And I'm more than willing to apologize.

With other things like, for example, politics, global affairs, history, social issues, sexuality, etc. I tend to stand back and try to see all angles. Rather than jumping to conclusions or forming "beliefs", I gather information and analyze in order to form opinions that can change as I gain more knowledge. So, I do think deeply about things, the I don't obsess or over think.

It does help my thought process to talk with someone and hear their perspectives. Also, voicing my thoughts helps to clarify them. Thoughts in my head can be rather amorphous, but speaking them gives them solidity. On hearing my words, there are times when I realize they weren't well thought out.

[BeMuse]

Nope. If you get me overthinking things you're in trouble. That's a dangerous place to be. :)

[exitseven]

I might under think things. I like to keep things simple.

[littlemisssparkles]

I wish I didn't because things would be so much easier lol.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, overthinking brings me problems nine out of ten.

[Andres77]

Umm... no disrespect but... YES!
Women tend to overthink EVERYTHING!

[sage2021]

@Andres77 my guy is always overthinking things so it's not just women. He is the reason why I am asking this question. ☮️

[Andres77]

Fair enough. Yes, that happens too. I hope you find your peace.

[douride2]

Oh yes I do sometimes over think things. That is what keeps me awake some nights.

[whereismyjohnny]

I do, unfortunately 😅

[moonpie89]

All the time unfortunately

[SunnyREDone]

Yes I do unfortunately

[sage2021]

@SunnyREDone when do you realize you are overthinking something and how do you stop yourself?

[SunnyREDone]

When I stress too much

[serious]

Sometimes I do

[Mynameisbobby]

All the time ughh

[call_me_scar]

Absolutely

[worldscolide]

Unfortunately yes.

[LavLavLuv]

Yes but not often

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I'm a master at that

[OnTheLevel]

Nope