I'm 30 and he's 41, he said I should worry about my age?

[Anonymous]

So he talked about kids and said women face problems after 35... He said I'm not young. Anyways he broke up with me cause he wanted kids and I didn't but I expressed my feelings that I liked him a lot but it didn't matter to him anyways...

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Over this break up made me feel old..

[ChrisMaster69]

Sounds like you are well rid of him.

nothing wrong with a woman over 30.

sounds more like the having children thing was the main reason for break up.

However age wise, it’s bollox.

[AviatorTom]

Your breakup didn't have anything to do with your age... it was because you don't want kids and he does. That difference in opinion is almost always a deal-breaker in relationships.

[boggboss]

Makes sense u guys wanted different things completely fair enough

[Asker]

He made me feel old?

[boggboss]

OK guess it's good you are not with him then

[RandomIntern3tGuy]

You're definitely not old. I think he told you that you're not young to make you feel pressured to have kids due to time running out. If so, it was a bit of a dick move. He should have just ended the relationship when you made it clear that you don't want kids when he did. He's running out of time too, he won't be able to attract a woman young enough to have kids for much longer.

[Asker]

I felt the pressure

[dustybiker]

He doesn’t sound like he’s a doctor.

[OddBeMe]

He just found someone younger. No worries.

[Asker]

So like for him wanting kids he prefers younger?

[OddBeMe]

If he’s dating someone as young as you? He’s probably trying even younger. That’s their deal. It’s not real love, it’s their love of young flesh.

[Asker]

Oh okay if you say so

[OddBeMe]

Be honest. Do you think he was with you because your personalities matched? Or for your younger flesh?

[Asker]

I don't know he demanded kids on the spot...

[OddBeMe]

How old were you when you first started dating?

[Asker]

He just meet me, it was only two weeks

[OddBeMe]

Two weeks and were already discussing kids?

[Asker]

Yeah he touched the topic right away..

[OddBeMe]

eesh. red flag. sounds like you dodged a bullet.

[Asker]

It seems like it yeah.

[OddBeMe]

Why were you attracted to such an older individual?

[Asker]

I like older men with a young spirit but he didn't want me and said I wasn't young myself..

[OddBeMe]

He's forty and thought you weren't young enough? Wow.

Do you think you can really connect with older men like that? I'm under the belief we connect best to our own age, plus/minus.

[Asker]

I'm starting to think that as well.. I'm gonna try someone near my age..

[OddBeMe]

I can't say it's never a good idea to date way older. But psychologically speaking we're more inline with our own generation, plus/minus 5 years or so.

But having children is still a decision who'll be confronted with no matter the Gen. As a anti-parent myself, you have to be tough.

[crmoore]

You're not old at all.