At the end of the day ultimately it is your choice but there’s one thing I know for sure, and it’s that every time my mom has advised me against something in dating, she has always been right. In this case, your mom raises a good point: you and him are at very different points in your life and you ultimately may find that you have less in common than you think. Still, it’s your choice and she’ll have to just respect it.
Ask your mom if it would be better to be with people close to your age, even if it leads to multiple break ups, divorce, and having kids and getting abandoned by the guys?
Because statistically that is what often happens.
Then ask her if most people are still with their high school SO after 10 years. Because very few people are and those relationships were close in age.
Then maybe she will realize how wrong she is.
I advise people to look within three or four years older or younger. In my personal observations over the years, anything over four years generally starts leading to trouble. In more cases than any, the closer to your own age, the better the results. And even in cases where things just didn't work out, they still ended on a better and peaceful note.
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You are old enough to make an informed decision. If you were 19 and he were 33 I would be worried. 27 and 41? It’s up to you. Does she have any concerns beside his age?
It doesn't have to be a bad age gap, but your mother knows you a heck of a lot better than we do. For that matter, she knows *him* better than we do. At 27 the final decision is yours (and his) but your mother may have reasons why an age gap like that would be a problem for you.
For her it is. A lot of people will make quick judgements based on your age difference alone. But I say don't let it bother you right now. Keep dating, see where it goes. She might come around later, if your relationship stands the test of time and once she meets him maybe and sees you together.
Everything is relative.
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I mean your both pretty old to know what you want but it is weird that 14 age gap but in another way my aunt has an 20 age difference with her husband so you should be okay
Who is the more informed person in this situation? Your mom or you? Exactly. She doesn't know how in sync you two are. Her whole perspective is based on speculation. Buy some of my chicken and then tell your mom to stay the hell out of my kitchen. Telling me how to cook my damn chicken in my own kitchen. And I just bought these pots too. All I wanted was to come home and relax but no. Anyway yeah what I said in that first sentence.
It's perfectly fine, and you have something in common that helps make you compatible. If her only realistic objection is his age, I'd pay her no mind on this topic.
I think you should not let anyone put their social morals on you with age difference. I was 11 years older that my wife and it lasted 26 years. We grew apart and that is no ones fault. Do what gives you comfort and pleasure. Good luck.
You are definitely a full grown adult at 27. Different story if you were 19. As long as you are both happy have fun.
Ignore your mom. Nothing wrong with it. Some people are hung up on age.
Its not bad at all. For some reason some people have a huge stick up their ass about age gaps and its totally irrational. Just ignore her.
Back in your grandparents' day, the guy would be in his 30s and she would be like 14 or 15 when they married
no. 41 isn't that old. I'm 45 and I keep myself in shape and I find I attract a lot of younger females that I would seriously date. if he makes you happy, be happy
If the two of you are grown adults and compatible, then your life together is nobody's business but yours.
Not really a big deal besides age gap is really a protection for minors
If you where 17 and he 31 it might be bit much but now it's fine. Have fun together ❤!
Who cares go for it. Don't worry about his age worry about how he treats you
That’s not bad. You’re 27, not 20.
Big age gap, but you're grown woman.
yeah, your cradle robbing
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