How to control my hair?

I'm not joking, my hair has control and when I try combing it or pulling it back it just has its own way of comforting itself and doesn't listen to me, I use conditioner to soften it and it seems to make it worse, it's messy and I don't want to use gel or any of that, is there a way to naturally have control of my hair, my only solution now is to just cut the damn thing 🙃
How to control my hair?
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