What is the most terrible thing that you regret doing in your life?

[Anonymous]

[Leapfrog00]

Moving in to take care of my aunt 4 years ago. Besides the non-stop violent beatings from my parents, I never took so much abuse. She would scream at me in public, bully me, put me down, call me worthless and stupid, throw me into walls, push me down the steps, poison my juice, and if that wasn't enough, before I finally moved out, she and her cousin sold everything I own (All I have left is this laptop and some clothes), and her cousin stole my Yorkie, an emotional support dog for my anxiety and panic attacks. (Her cousin is a narcissist like her, but she is more of the mastermind behind their little scams.)

Last year I got really sick and was hospitalized for days, she took it upon herself to do all these things when I was hospitalized because she knew I wanted to leave. Then I ended up homeless because she took all my money, gambled it away, I ended up losing my job because I was so sick. Here I was with diabetes and my foot broken in 3 places, sleeping in 20-degree weather.

Yeah, I will NEVER help someone like that again. If I publish any of my books, I'm going to use some of it to help homeless people and those in situations with abusive family members and spouses. I'm even hesitant about doing that now because people take advantage. On the news one day, there was this homeless lady that said she had been homeless for 2 years, but she said she loved being homeless because the government gave her food stamps and people walking by gave her money. Then she said, "I buy drugs with the money strangers passing by give me, and if they're dumb enough to give it to me, I can buy whatever I want with it."

I stayed in a homeless shelter once, and I used to think homelessness wasn't anyone's fault, but most of these people, and I mean 80% of them were lazy, sold their food stamps to buy cigarettes and drugs, or alcohol. We were assigned one chore a week to do, and most of them couldn't even do that. Me and 2 other people were doing everyone's chores. I can see why these people were homeless!

I always showed kindness to everyone, no matter how bad of a person they were but it does blow up in your face. It's the same old story, "You buy someone a puppy for their birthday and that person finds they are allergic and break out in hives, it's your fault they broke out in hives because you bought the puppy."

My aunt used to tell me I'm too nice and I'm stupid for it but fuck her. There are good people out there. Just in short supply!

[Asker]

Wow, I can’t even imagine going through everything you have gone through…. I’m flabbergasted. And to be treated like that from your own blood-relatives? What am I even saying…blood doesn’t even mean anything anymore…strangers have treated me with more compassion than a majority of my family members. Wherever you are, I hope you have found some form of peace/comfort. I can tell you have a very kind heart, especially to want to help the homeless after all you’ve been through. Wishing you the absolute best in life.

[Leapfrog00]

thanks for your kind words. That is really nice of you. It is a lot more peaceful without her around, now all I have to worry about is her voice still playing around in my head. I can hear her telling me what to do or insulting me.

I'm better off alone now. I felt like a burden when I was around other people. Even though I mostly write horror/suspense/fantasy/Sci-fi, I did start on a book back in feb about my experience with narcissists and how dangerous they are. Maybe if I ever publish it, it can help those in domestic violence and abusive situations'.

I understand about strangers treating you better than family members. One I was living on the street, my blood sugar crashed into the 20s and I went into a hypoglycemic coma, and this really nice lady, who I never met before, took me to the hospital.

Thanks for replying. It put a smile on my face :)

[AaronKrieger]

During a rough period in HS, I used to abuse my dog at times for a few months. I became sick of it, so I actively worked on my anger and I haven't done anything to him since. It impacted him quite a lot, since he was still in that in between phase of a puppy and an adult dog (1 year old), which hurts to see.

For anyone wondering, I do not raise my voice at him out of anger anymore and I especially do not hit him. I'm actually the most gentle out of my household with him now, since he is a sensitive dog and I know I've lost some of his trust. I don't want to make him nervous/worried.

[Asker]

Thank you for being open and sharing such a dark and personal part of your life 🙏 I’m glad you’ve been able to overcome that chapter and be the best version of yourself

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I regret being so engulfed with problems with my then ex fiancé that I delayed taking my grandpa to get vaccinated. He asked me to take him there. I promised him I would. But I delayed cause I had constant problems with my ex fiancé and I was emotionally broken.

One month later he got Covid and passed away. That’s the only thing I regret and will never forgive myself.

He came to ask me for help and I betrayed him. And for whom? For a man who never deserved me.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing such a personal and intimate part of your life. I can see why you would want to blame yourself for this, but you were caught up in a pretty intense situation with your ex fiancé. Sometimes our intimate relationships can get in the way of our relationships with family and friends. I remember having my first boyfriend and really distancing myself from my best friends. Prioritizing time with my boyfriend over hanging out with my best friends. It’s a very tough position to be in, especially if your partner is the controlling type. RIP to your grandfather, and don’t be so hard on yourself. It wasn’t like you intentionally didn’t want to take him to get vaccinated…it was just a tough situation you were put in.

[FYI345]

You obviously didn't care enough about your grandpa.

[Anonymous]

from the ages of like 10-14 i was just very bitchy, my memory is terrible so can't remember much but i was just a horrible tween, i wasn't outright horrible of course but i could be cruel when i was angry, or i probably felt like i had something to prove, either way i'm glad i outgrew that

[Asker]

Hey! I feel like the age range 10-15 is where a lot of people go through a bitchy/moody phase. I’ve been through that as well and it’s nothing to be ashamed/mad about. It may have a lot to do with all the hormonal changes we go through, especially since puberty is taking place during those years

[Bricealan]

Have not done anything that was really terrible, in that I have never injured or killed anyone although I should have, in retrospect.

My regrets, circle around women that I should have and could have been kinder and more considerate of. I know that sounds condescending, and don't meant it to, and in retrospect, the same could be said of others in regard to their treatment of myself.

Lets face it, we could all be kinder and more considerate of others.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing. Yes, we’ve all definitely had moments where we could have been more kind and compassionate towards others. It’s all a part of the learning process in life. I hope you’re doing better now.

[Darkest-Knight]

I regret not learning how to socialize when I was younger... maybe I wouldn't be so lonely now.

[Asker]

I can definitely relate to you on that, especially as an only-child

[Sanser]

I am still in my 20s but I also regret being so shy and socially awkward when i was 16... My life back then was very lonely and sad, and I feel nowadays I have a lack of experience in some things because of that... thats why Im trying to avoid being like I used to be :)

[Unit1]

Being born. And i don't believe it was a voluntary action on my side.

[Asker]

Thank u for sharing! Your answer made me feel pretty sad cause I also sometimes tell myself the same thing…why was I even born…. I didn’t choose to be here…blabla…but I realized, what’s the point of sitting and thinking these thoughts when you could just make the most of this experience called life. Life is as sad/boring as we make it. Ask yourself, whats something you’ve always wanted to do? Is there a trip you’ve always wanted to take? Go out there and find something to bring a smile onto your face.

[Unit1]

Essentially the things that I want are locked behind prices and I was born penniless. Still working on getting multiple revenue sources and becoming upper middle class.
Can't do anything at all without money. Even getting a girlfriend.

You have a point though. Relish what we can and that is not with alcohol or extreme drugs.

[Anonymous]

I dont experience "regret"..👀 BUT I can cognitivly understand some stuff I've done wasen't good. Loosing my virgintiy before marrige is problaby the biggest one. Although there are some other stuff that would make your jaw dropped..

[Sour-rose]

Not talking to that cute girl in high school. Too nervous and more like a sheep instead of a tiger. :c

[MementoMori777]

i don't regret anything, everything I've been through and that has happened build my character, i wouldn't change a thing

[genericname85]

honestly i never did anything so terrible that i regret doing. i did some stupid shit that i would have been better off not doing in hindsight. but not to the point i "regret".

[Anonymous]

Gaslighting myself so many times, manipulated my own mind until i developed a disorder called borderline personality disorder!!

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that 🙁

[Opinion Owner]

Haha it's ok don't worry

[LittleSally]

Nothing really.

I regret some things I have not done, but that's another can of worms.

[MemeSupreme]

leaving my younger siblings behind with my abusive parents

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You need to save yourself first so that you can save others.

[MemeSupreme]

thanks

[es20490446e]

I have no regrets.

If something was not cool, I just fix it.

[nolabels]

Nothing jumps out at me, and I'd rather not ponder the subject, so...

[AngryCarl2]

I was a very disturbed child so I did a lot of stuff that I wouldn't do now, thanks for reminding me. But regret is useless, I just try to become a better person.

[Dargil]

Marrying my ex. Ref flags were everywhere.

[Asker]

I’m sure you came out of that marriage stronger than ever.
It most definitely taught you to be more cautious and observant of red flags in your new relationships.

[Dargil]

I have indeed.

[Reorx]

Rejecting a beutiful girl & she flushed herself down the toilet after.. I thought I was doing her a favor at the time..

[Karate_Aaron]

Clicking on this link and reading the comments

[shades777]

why would i share that here if all places, y'all nuts lol

[Anonymous]

I catfished my boyfriend.

[Asker]

Hey, he’s your boyfriend now 😂 so it wasn’t a terrible thing after all

[Opinion Owner]

Lol yeah that's true.

[slatyb]

Engendering love I didn't return.

[Jazzy54]

Nothing. For me, regrets are life lessons.