Are you a competitive person?

[MementoMori777]

if not can you get competitive? 🤔

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Very. I succeed the most when there’s the competition, the more skilled my competitors are the more I succeed because I put all of my efforts in it.

It’s fun but can get tiresome. I have lived a bit relaxed life, since what I do now there’s no competition as of right now.

[MementoMori777]

you know, i never pictured you for a competitive person Fatale but thats something new I've learned about you, cool, i respect that you use it to power your hunger for success 🤣

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have took part in lots of National or International competitions before the age of 23 and I always went on a first place. 2nd place even was considered the biggest losing for me.

After 22 I had a relationship and the love made me less competitive, the love humbled me kinda.

But it is still in me, when I get or will get in the competitive situation I know I will get into the mode.

I am less competitive now, I appreciate that I can sometimes relax. But I know it’s still in me. When you are that competitive as I always was, you just don’t lose it ever. It’s part of your personality.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My biggest wins are all connected to times I had the best “rivals”. If the rival is not best, I feel too relaxed.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I like being challenged. I haven’t been challenged for a very long time though.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It saddens me as it shows I am not doing something that I am born for. I am born for much bigger things than the career I am doing now.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Now I sound arrogant haha, I am not. I am just really strive the best when my competitors are the best. And if you no longer have competitors it means you need to find them to better yourself, otherwise I don’t have a fuel to better myself. I have already learned everything I could do in this profession.

[MementoMori777]

well its a very fun personality trait to see on someone else id say, you must win all game nights i assume ha, you are definitely unique in your own ways Fatale, if your competitive side helps you succeed then thats good, as long as its not to a toxic extend which I've heard is possible, then its fine, I've heard it can ruin friendships and stuff, but remember that not only does being competitive help you succeed but it helps with your focusing skills as well and i wouldn't be surprised if your focusing skills increase from this trait.

[MementoMori777]

this sounds like you are out there slayin, talking about competitors being so wack that you relax... damn, its like that 😂

i can't say it doesn't make me wonder how you react when you fail or lose, do you learn from the experience to do better next time? cause you definitely give that vibe considering you have such high levels of success and in a path to success there's a lot of failure Fatale 🤓☝️

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t compete with my friends, I accept that I can learn things from others. I used to compete in something I knew I was very good at. Other than that I am quite chill and relaxed.

I haven’t competed for quite a long time, as I haven’t felt challenged and life taught me a thing or two. You can’t always expect to be best at everything.

I now can face the failures, but It’s safe to say the first time I failed in my life I was 22. Before then I didn’t know what a failure was. It taught me that you should learn how to accept losing with honor. And it’s much more of a strength to lose and face it with honor, than to always win.

So, I can say, I have learned a lot. But if I ever feel challenged, my personality will make me win that challenge.

If I don’t, I feel a happy and a relaxed life, celebrate other people’s wins and feel secure with my own life.

[MementoMori777]

yea see i knew it, guessed it before you said it lol its definitely the vibes i picked up, not competing with friends is where lots of people mess up, they dont have that control of putting that trait in the holster lol

so what would you say makes you extremely competitive? like can't hold it in type of competitive? im just curious 🤣🤔

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

The first time I lost, I was surprised and confused. Couldn’t figure how it was possible for me to lose, as I have always won in the past.

It was a huge strike to my ego. I wasn’t accustomed to losing. I didn’t know how it felt.

It humbled me.

And made me think “I wish I lost earlier, I wish I lost more times in the past, so I’d know how to handle it”.

Now every time I lose, I celebrate it. And I cheer myself up for trying, it’s a brave thing to lose, it means you are brave enough to try, and risk losing. You can’t always win. Doesn’t matter who you are. You just can’t. You need to learn how to lose, that’s the best life lesson.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My competition is about becoming the best at anything I do.

I go all in… In anything I do.

I put 500 % in it. If I feel there are people better than me I put 1000% of it. In the end, I finish at a place where there’s no longer a competition.

A fee of my competitors have become my beat friends in the past. And of course, we both accepted we are both amazing and we chilled and relaxed in each other’s presence.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex always told me I should go back to law, he thought what I am doing now is not for me and I agree. But, this career, at least helps me help my family and feel secure in my life.

[MementoMori777]

thats very humble of you, thats what makes your trait different than the toxic one, some people think being competitive is toxic in general but ya read my mind Fatale, you are the good type of competitive, the constructive type not destructive.

[MementoMori777]

no lie your ex can't be telling you shit, he left you for someone else, with all due respect he should just shut the fuck up cause no lie he shouldn't have the rights to butt into your life after pulling a stunt lile that, you should just do what you think you should do for the situation you are in and whatever you are doing now im sure has effected your life in some way and when you decide to change that shouldn't be manipulated by anyone, you do you type shit

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Well, yes. It kinda made me feel bad as if he pushed me to go back to law. I might go back, but I want it to be done with my own pace. In Georgia lawyers are not paid very well. I’d have to live a miserable life for 4-5 years to finally get something worth working for.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

They broke up this April.

[MementoMori777]

him and the other girl? yep i knew it, he jumped from someone perfectly committed to him for someone else, i knew he fucked up when i saw you heartbroken here the day it happened smh

sounds like he's slowly starting to butt into your life again and he's a piece of shit for that but thats just my opinion you know, if you go back to law just make sure its for you and not for him, he did you so dirty and he feels like he has the rights to change you, Rubs me all kinds of wrong fetale but ill pray for you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope, he hasn’t messaged me. He just posted out dream home image as his cover photo for a month in June and now he has gone all black. But I think he’s doing okay. He hasn’t contacted me or hasn’t liked any of my posts.

[MementoMori777]

i know this sounds like some asshole shit but i hope he lowkey never does, i feel like him trying to wrap you in bullshit wouldn't be good for you, i personally dont believe in moving backwards, i see you are still updating yourself with his life, sounds like you are drowning in your thoughts lowkey, you dont gotta tell me for me to know it, I've seen your posts around, dating life ain't easy but the truth is that we can't control everything, sometimes what we gotta do is go with the flow and not try to control the flow, where it will take you will surprise you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thank you so much, you are right

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I agree that it’s good he hasn’t contacted.

[MementoMori777]

i wish you well Fatale 💯

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thank you ✨🧚🏻‍♀️ Likewise.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You’re very kind and a great listener.

[MementoMori777]

i only wanna see you winnin Fatale, stay safe 💯🙏🏽

[NuitBlanche]

What do you mean by that? I don't always need to be the first everywhere. For me, social interaction is important. But comparisons have been proven to make people unhappy and promote envy. I can also indulge other people.

[MementoMori777]

not in comparison but are you a person thst takes competition seriously? that you want to be the best at things for example lol

[NuitBlanche]

Depends. I do not want the worst in my job but needn't to be there best. Bow shooting - I tried to win the competition - Hobby. Why should I job 1,80 Meter if I only need to jump 1,20 Meter high?

[MementoMori777]

woah that all sounds pretty badass no lie but are you a competitive person tho or its just cause you have to be 😆

[NuitBlanche]

Currently I have a bad phase and must first submit to get back on their feet. As I said, why jump higher than you have to? That's my motto and I don't always have to be the best. In some things it is flattering but my life does not depend on winning everything.

[MementoMori777]

then you aren't a conpetative person, thats cool tho 😂

[NuitBlanche]

I try to survive

[MementoMori777]

thats good tho, im sure we all do 🙂

[NuitBlanche]

No some people Just live and care as if there would be no tomorrow

[MementoMori777]

yea thats true but thats because they dont think of death and just think of living

[Meropatrick]

I am. Its a very good trait but choose your battles wisely because you can get burnt out so quickly

[MementoMori777]

lmap that a fair point, ain't no uno in that shit 😂

[Meropatrick]

😂😋🤣🤣

[Meropatrick]

I am in general a very docile person but god damit when someone challanges me it just rubs me the wrong way and i act all competitive. Its like letting the genie out

[MementoMori777]

im not competitive but i know people that are but sounds like you got a strong case of it lol

[AmandaYVR]

Not at all. And I dislike competitive people. We either support each other, want the best for each other, or I won't stick around.

[MementoMori777]

bro competitive doesn't mean toxic 😂

[AmandaYVR]

In my experience, it's usually ugly.
You're entitled to your opinion.

[AmandaYVR]

In my experience and observation, competitiveness is usually ugly. It often ends relationships.
You're entitled to your different opinion.

[MementoMori777]

i wasn't talking about the toxic kind but okay fair enoughv

[AmandaYVR]

My answer is no. I will let people "win" because they seem to want to so much.
But then I won't have them in my life.
This is a deal-breaker for me.
And I've seen it in society, business, other relationships.
To me, it's all ugly.

[MementoMori777]

alright fair enough lol

[LostandFound__x]

Sometimes with certain things lol. I’m career driven and I like being intelligent and earning decent money.

[MementoMori777]

well thats a good feature, mostly for independence 🤣

[LostandFound__x]

Yes I think I’m hyper independent 😭

[MementoMori777]

sounds like a good thing 🤣

[LostandFound__x]

Maybe but not always.

[MementoMori777]

fair enough lol

[Anonymous]

Competitive when it comes to my vagina. Mine is the best.

[MementoMori777]

i hope you aren't just over hyping your magical vagina bro 😂

[Opinion Owner]

It speaks for itself

[MementoMori777]

fair enough anon lol

[JoyGirl]

Yes, I am.

You?

[MementoMori777]

not at all 😂

[MissBoogus]

Not really

[MementoMori777]

i see, interesting 🤔

[LavLavLuv]

Nope