Have your social skills held you back or pushed you forward in life?

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IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

In my case, my lack of social skills comes from the autism spectrum. I don't like to execute my weak social skills, so mainly, I keep myself distanced and observe from far away :D

I was struggling until the point where I accepted it and changed the social contacts to digital ones :D
It's a matter of finding other ways to deal with appearing problems.

Sometimes a solid kick in the ass is needed to leave the comfort zone, but in general, it works.

It's amazing how other people tried to get to me, even if I was building walls to keep them away. Somehow, the group of my friends, the inner circle, as I call it, is built from people who, brick by brick, removed those walls. And most of these people are spending Christmas at my place currently :D

I made it to lead a group of software engineers and was recently promoted to a managerial position. Not that I'm thrilled or something :D
But having over 20 years of professional experience requires a proper position name, right? So I got the needed kick in my ass, and... here I am :P

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

I'd say pushed me forward definitely. I feel like being social and very outgoing has introduced me to many great people and many great opportunities overall.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

what held me back... was my lack of social skills, lol

this when I was a very young kid and growing up to my earlier teens... I was extremely shy so I would isolate most of the time, and I didn't have any confidence on crowds or strangers so yeah, many or most of my social skills were poor... lol

but I still pushed myself forward and got myself into those situations

and the first thing I did was to get into sports, team sports... and I would join all those kids on the field... and the one thing that made it easier for me was that nobody "cared" about me, I was never the target never the center... everyone was there to go after the ball and to go after the goal

any focus on me (when I had the ball) was very minimal and not often, so that's how I got used to it, slowly but surely... and then, just hanging out in silence with the bunch... after or before the action in games...

16 years later after this and some more, other different social situations... I became more of the way I am today... lol

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

My social skills were extremely poor until after high school when I had a fresh start and a dramatic maturity change in college. It did hold me back from a lot back then. From socializing and partying, and making friends in general. Although I was known for sports and being the best guy at soccer in a school of 1500 kids, I was still somewhat of a loner. I never really talked too much. Just played soccer at lunch.

Right now though, although I'm still introverted, people always peg me as an extrovert because of my ability to hold a conversation and I'm not afraid to walk up to someone and strike a conversation. I would not say my social skills are holding my back at all anymore, but I wouldn't say they have a large impact on my life either.

Bricealan · Answer

Having good social skills can only benefit you over time, and should allow you upward mobility, given job related skills.

rosemilk · Answer

it was holding me back, for years, but then i got so sick of it i decided to just do what i wanted. so i guess i bit of both

Lisia · Answer

Held me back for sure.. I'm hella socially awkward 😅

syncheart · Answer

They hold be back, but I think there something deeply wrong with me, that no matter what I can't socialize right.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

My prediction algorithm says I will be just fine. Speaking of social skills, how long does it take to form a government approved custom contract?

AngryCarl · Answer

I don't have social skills, which holds me back big time. I'm also honest, which doesn't help either.

MrPickles13 · Answer

It's held me back a lot in life and still does.  I've always been socially awkward, I'm not socially anxious as well.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have had to pull my social skills back as it created too many invites to functions that I don't have the energy for.

WhiteSteve · Answer

They’re my bread and butter😎 Was I supposed to have other types of skills?😅

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

DEFINITELY HELD ME BACK MY LORD

exitseven · Answer

Probably neither better or worse.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Pushed back but I'll catch up

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Hold me back rlly bad

rachel776 · Answer

forward

LavLavLuv · Answer

Pushed me forward

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