Was I a coward for getting others involved and not coming to a girl's aid?

[FordRoger]

I would like to admit this:

Long ago when I was 19, a date got attacked by stray dog. It happened too fast. I saw it all. No it wasn't a pitbull but it was still scary. I alerted people that were already there nearby and called for help.

Then I remained frozen for some moments, just staring and likely going into shock at the scene. Others stepped in and help got fast. It wasn't life threatening injuries but was still taken to get treated.

The topic of gender roles and how we're protectors was brought up recently among friends and this is one time, I kind of feel bad about it. I didn't directly help her more. It happened in my face and I didn't do much. Was I a coward?

[TommyMountainFigure]

We would ALL like to believe we would step in if needed, BUT and it has a name. It is called 'fight or flight,' and truthfully nobody knows HOW they will react until they are faced with that, or other type of scenario.

Regardless of your ability to aid her, you did do the right thing in rushing to get help!

[FordRoger]

yeah at least I didn't run away. I didn't left her alone. That would've been horrible. Hopefully I never have to be placed on that position again. It's tough.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I do have a question regarding your question though, Did she treat you differently afterwards for not rushing in to help?

[laly520]

its ok

u just got scared like anyone else

[FordRoger]

True. That was scary.

[AngryCarl]

You froze. That's an autonomic response to extreme stress. It doesn't reflect on your morals.

[FordRoger]

Come to think of it, freezing is much better than running away. I guess I can be happy that at least I stayed by her side.