Pls read all I shared picture with my gay friend and my husband get angry?

[Anonymous]

Hello friends, I shared a post on Instagram with my girlfriends, I also have a gay friend, I shame with him selfie too then I showed it to my husband I said look at the photos, what he said to me was why did you post a selfie with this boy, I said there is have girls but in the other pictures and also the man is gay so everyone knows he told me that my cousin is following you on Instagram and if he sees you, he will misunderstand you. If I hide it, it would be bad if I share it. I am not doing anything bad In the example he gave, his cousin got someone pregnant before marriage and he had to get married, and that cousin shares a picture with his friend on his birthday. He is celebrating other women birthday while he has a wife. I said to him, "Are we going to live according to that?" I asked, "Is normal?" He said yes " and he said my mom following u in instagram I said I blocked her as soon as I found out that she had opened an account, because her mother gets involved in everything." I put a picture of a child on WhatsApp, his mom said that child is ugly, put another child she is like this crazy we had a big argument, my friend is gay and what is the harm in that? If anyone sees it, he will understand that he is gay. He said if my cousin sees it, I feel shame , and I shared also other pictures with girls friends too it was multiple photos and my English is bad I hope u understand

[Oliverlogan263]

Sister, I understand this situation must be frustrating and hurtful. But arguing will not help - we must communicate with compassion.

Your friend's intentions were not wrong, but your husband's fears came from a place of caring for you. His cousin's actions caused deep wounds, and now he sees threats where there are none.

Explain to your husband that sharing photos brings you joy, and a gay friend poses no risk. His cousin's actions say nothing of your character. Reassure him of your commitment while also standing up for your freedom and friendships.

Come to understanding, not verdict. Compromise with love, not demands. Perhaps share photos privately at first, to ease his mind, while he works on trusting fully. With time and patience, bitterness can dissolve.

You both want the other's happiness. Find that shared goal. Speak gently but firmly of your worth. This too shall pass, sister, if you stay united in spirit, not divided by past pains or present fears. There is light beyond.

[SueShe]

Your husband seems to be the controlling type of person and he also is worried about what other people may think of you.

He fears that if other people make negative comments about your posts, he will be directly involved since he is your husband and it makes him uncomfortable. Also, I detect some jealousy with him because that would be the typical behavior of a man that is insecure and jealous.

You have the right to post whatever you want on social media as long as the pictures are decent and not too revealing. I presume that in your culture, the man still has the last word and that women are not really as free to do what they want.

In his eyes, you are too liberal.

[Anonymous]

Do you wear revealing clothes or doing something inappropriate in these pics?

[laly520]

ur husband so controlling

[Anonymous]

He has no right to be angry with you.

[Asker]

Yeah but he get really angry and he keep saying me ‘ u did mistake