Boyfriend gets mad because I post photos like this on my social media is this really bad?

[Anonymous]

[loveslongnails]

I don't think it's "bad", but it obviously upsets your boyfriend because he doesn't want other guys ogling "his gf's body". Maybe he thinks your body should be something just for the two of you? Maybe he thinks you're still "advertising"?

I don't think that photo is bad or wrong, and if my girlfriend posted a pic like that, I'd be kind of struttin' because my girl is that good looking! But, that's also because I know my girlfriend and I are solid and neither of us are insecure, and that has a LOT to do with it. I don't know how strong you guys are together, or what your "insecurity and possessiveness" levels and tolerances are, but everyone's got them.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the reason why you do it. If you have loads of guys on your friends list and you get lots of attention from them, then it comes across like you're doing it for that reason and don't really respect your boyfriend.

If not then I don't think it's that bad. My girlfriend doesn't have many male friends and the ones she does have I know them, and I know for a fact that there's no interest there, so I know she just puts them up because she looks good and wants to show off a bit. There's no harm in that.

[Anonymous]

Your intention is to look good, look sexy, attractive, and get attention from complete strangers online. You seek validation, even while you are in a relationship with him. He is not enough. And you're pregnant with his child.

This is probably the tamest picture you posted on social media. You did this to bolster your side of the story, but this is not the sexiest picture, is it? And you're wondering why he's upset? Maybe because his girlfriend is playing dumb.

[jennifer_bloom]

If you were a family member of mine - I would try to talk you out of it - the world is full of creeps and when you look too sexy you attract stalkers and secret rapists - you can get a lot of attention without wearing revealing clothes when you look good - but you get fewer creeps and stalkers when your totally covered - you get the good without the bad fully covered but keeping fit nonetheless

[EmbraceThePain]

Who is this photo for? Posting a photo like this on social media is solely to get attention from the sex that you’d find attention favorable from, which is most likely men. You’re wearing a top that is exposing a good bit of skin and trying to look sexy or good so that you can gain positive attention from men on the social media platform you’re posting this to.

[NathalieeC22]

Doesn’t matter what a girl is wearing, she’s not trying to gain male attention, she isn’t naked she’s wearing a crop top just showing her stomach that’s nothing !! he shouldn’t be insecure about her, he should be proud of what he has 👏🏼👏🏼

[EmbraceThePain]

Why can’t you understand that when a woman posts a photo like that on social media, it’s not just because she wants to do it... She thinks it looks sexy... it has enough skin exposed and enough covered to still be sexy and not be too revealing... She knows men are going to see her, comment, and like.

She can do what she wants, but let’s not lie about WHY she does what she does.

The WHY is why her boyfriend might be mad. She has a boyfriend and is trying to do something overtly disrespectful.

[SjE78]

your body, your social media profile so your choice... he knew what he was getting with when he chose to go out with you, can't say he doesn't like something you do if he still with you knowing you do it.
now if you started messaging other guys/girls and started cracking on to them or if you posted those images on dating sites then I would agree with him

[Anonymous]

This type of question isn't really worth asking if you know your motivations for this behavior, if you don't, then consider some usual ones. You aren't getting enough attention from your boyfriend, so you seek others to fill your need or to make him jealous to get more. You don't feel your boyfriend is giving you validation on your appearance, so you are seeking it else where. You aren't committed to your boyfriend and want to find someone else.

Any one of these motivations would be troublesome, and even if they aren't yours doesn't mean your boyfriend agrees. That picture in particular isn't overly suggestive, but it is more exposed. Whether your behavior is right or wrong is dependent on your answer to: do you want to keep your boyfriend or not?

[NetSapien]

I do not think it's bad no, but I also don't think it's an appropriate show of respect for the person you are with if they don't like it.

If I was in a relationship with someone that posted themselves in this way I would question their sincerity and commitment to our relationship. But I do not think it's bad in general to post these images.

[1CentWorth]

Well, you are knowingly showing off your body to other men. if you don't realizing you're doing it, then you need to think about what you are doing some more. Not like all women don't do this [shrugs]. But, it could be that you have a belly ring on your belly pudge, which isn't exactly super hot. Prolly take it off to bring attention away from that specific area, if you want to look the best for the other guys.

[Alice2398]

No, i see girls with boyfriends post wayyyyy worst then that. Your picture is innocent and if he has a problem with it and its getting out of hand maybe try asking hil why. Seems like he doesn't trust you or is very controlling possibly time to rethink your relationship

[EmbraceThePain]

No...

[Alice2398]

@EmbraceThePain 🙄 think what you like

[EmbraceThePain]

I don’t see why you would think what you would think. I especially don’t see it as helpful.
You automatically assumed the boyfriend is untrusting and controlling.

The picture isn’t particularly innocent... She has more skin bare on her upper body than covered...

[Alice2398]

@EmbraceThePain i personally think a woman can wear what ever she likes and no man should have a say in it.

What is so sexual about this picture can man really not control themselves enough to see a womans shoulder or stomach if so I think the problem is with them not her.

I could understand is she had her intimate areas on show but she's literally wearing a crop top. Sorry I didn't know we were still living in Victorian times better hide are ankles to whilst were at it.

[EmbraceThePain]

She can wear what she wants, but don’t lie about what you’re doing.

[Alice2398]

@EmbraceThePain what am i doing exactly?

[EmbraceThePain]

It’s not about you specifically. I’m just saying, I’m NOT saying women cannot wear what they want. I’m saying, just because you can wear what you want doesn’t mean it’s the right thing or respectful thing to do.

[Alice2398]

@EmbraceThePain i get what your saying and i don't get why girls constantly need to post pictures on social media for validation but I'm trying to say if a man doesn't like it maybe he shouldn't be with that type of girl.

[EmbraceThePain]

Or there should be some middle ground.

It’s clear why a woman does this, so she should understand how this makes her partner feel especially if he’s not doing anything similar as well. Basically, when you post such photos, you’re giving other random men jerk off material. Deep down, you understand this, but refuse to acknowledge it. It’s not controlling, it’s 100% natural biological behavior. What kind of self respecting man would be okay with his woman posting such pictures when everyone knows why someone would post such pictures in the first place? To satisfy thirsty men and to get validation and attention from random men. These women need to be told they’re beautiful and sexy to validate their existence and worth as a human being.

Fucking pathetic. Have more class and self respect.

If you want to post a picture of you hiking then that’s different.

But a stand-alone picture of you in a small top? It’s ONLY to get validation and attention.

[Alice2398]

@EmbraceThePain maybe men should get more respect for women and not constantly be looking on their social media for wank bank material. there's plenty of women out there on porn sites who will help them out they don't need to act like creeps and stalk girls social media to get a hard on.

Women are responsible for themselves and can make their own choices and if a man doesn't like it he should walk away and find a submissive girl who probably posts bible quotes and pictures of cats on her fb instead.

If you like a girl who has conservative views and dresses modest face go for that type of girl but don't go for girls who post pictures of themselves on social media constantly, if you see it as a red flag. She won't change for you.

Its like buying a house and then going on a complete remodel of it when you could have just bought the house you wanted in the first place..

Anyway i see were not gonna agree and were bouth letting are personal views take over this argument. I respect you as a person and i wouldn't want us to fall out over something so silly so im ending it here

[EmbraceThePain]

We all make sacrifices for those we love.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask a woman to stop doing this, especially if you both love each other and the man is not doing anything of the sort. If a woman keeps doing this, she doesn’t really love. It’s an easy thing to give up for someone you love, especially if he’s willing to do the same.

[letssee89]

No, it's not a bad photo. You've got everything covered that needs to be. But you should talk to your boyfriend about WHY it bothers him so much. It could be that posting a picture like this could be seen as looking for attention or something in his eyes and that could make him feel insecure because, if that is the case, he feels that he's not giving you the attention you need/deserve. Remember, communication is key to a successful relationship.

[worldscolide]

My thoughts are, you do it for attention, and validation. You might do it because you feel sexy, but the underlying subconscious thought is validation and attention... that having been said, you dont share nudes right? i dont see any issue with it as long as you aren't sharing nudes. I'd actually be proud.. My wife is incredibly hot, but she's very modest as well, and if she posted something like this, i might be shocked a bit, but not upset.

[Jones_T]

He fear and you do more post like this continuously, and he wishes he wanna be only one show you like that u are in this picture...

Mostly first time woman post like this, day by day more photos they are going to do like that... That's he fear in your matter.

It's my personal feel.

[scarlett774]

It’s not bad at all, your literally just showing your stomach he has no right to be about that it’s your body and the pic isn’t even provocative. He should have no reason to be mad at all. Some of these comment are unbelievable

[Girl7150]

It's not the picture in itself (however it IS a bit of a thirst trap), but it's your intentions behind posting the picture, which is making him insecure.
He sees it as you're looking for attention from random guys.

Are you though?

[Truthatanycost]

Every single time you post a picture like that, it reminds him that he is dating a cliche that does the same attention seeking poses and selfies that 99% of other women do. I'm surprised he still takes you seriously.

[nawtee_me]

well you are a beautiful girl and what he should be is glad you are with him. He should know that even though you post pics of yourself it is him you are with and he should be saying yes she is hot and she is mine... If it were me, I would show you off as much as I could, you are a beautiful girl.

[Luciferstar]

Nothing wrong with the picture,
I think you should talk to him about his Insecurities, looks to me like he's insecure that he'll loose you.
Sit down and have a chat with each other and assure him if he's having insecurities

[AustinMan]

He's pretty typical. Some men are pretty proprietary about their women and he possibly sees a pic like that as you sort of putting yourself out there for the world and he wants you to do it just with him.

[babygirlycam]

You look good, I know posting cute pics can make you more confident. I wouldn't take that from him

[Asker]

I know but I'm pregnant by him so :/ I have to

[babygirlycam]

No you dont, Im not saying leave him. Just try to explain that its for your confidence, not that you are showing off for other guys.

[Asker]

I tired he says im being a slut

[babygirlycam]

Fuck himmmmm. Thats not okay

[David_Kek]

You are.
You're having a kid with a guy and you're still advertising yourself?
If it was me I'd just leave you if that's how unserious you are.

[NathalieeC22]

Love your showing your stomach not your whole body, he shouldn’t be getting mad, he might be insecure about you, he doesn’t want other people looking at you, but he should be proud of having a girl like you, don’t ever let someone control you and tell you what you can wear or can’t wear

[Jötunn]

I think that depends on your intention, if you're posting pics like that because you wanna show off yourself then I think your boyfriend is in the wrong, if you're tryna get other people to thirst over you I believe you are in the wrong.
But all relationships are different and people like/dislike and tolerate different things, you should ask why he doesn't like it, and you should both be mindful about each others feelings regarding this issue. :)

[TonyBologna25]

Any selfie like that is usually intended to grab attention. Yes, you're covered up and your outfit is fine, but everything else about the pictures reminds me of every girl on tinder.

[GhostMochi]

It's not bad that you want to be confident and take photos.
I wouldn't do it personally, lol.

Just keep doing you and try to reason with your boyfriend and tell him that you don't have any ulterior motives with the pictures.