Boyfriend gets mad because I post photos like this on my social media is this really bad?

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loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's "bad", but it obviously upsets your boyfriend because he doesn't want other guys ogling "his gf's body". Maybe he thinks your body should be something just for the two of you? Maybe he thinks you're still "advertising"?

I don't think that photo is bad or wrong, and if my girlfriend posted a pic like that, I'd be kind of struttin' because my girl is that good looking! But, that's also because I know my girlfriend and I are solid and neither of us are insecure, and that has a LOT to do with it. I don't know how strong you guys are together, or what your "insecurity and possessiveness" levels and tolerances are, but everyone's got them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends on the reason why you do it. If you have loads of guys on your friends list and you get lots of attention from them, then it comes across like you're doing it for that reason and don't really respect your boyfriend.

If not then I don't think it's that bad. My girlfriend doesn't have many male friends and the ones she does have I know them, and I know for a fact that there's no interest there, so I know she just puts them up because she looks good and wants to show off a bit. There's no harm in that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your intention is to look good, look sexy, attractive, and get attention from complete strangers online. You seek validation, even while you are in a relationship with him. He is not enough. And you're pregnant with his child.

This is probably the tamest picture you posted on social media. You did this to bolster your side of the story, but this is not the sexiest picture, is it? And you're wondering why he's upset? Maybe because his girlfriend is playing dumb.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you were a family member of mine - I would try to talk you out of it - the world is full of creeps and when you look too sexy you attract stalkers and secret rapists - you can get a lot of attention without wearing revealing clothes when you look good - but you get fewer creeps and stalkers when your totally covered - you get the good without the bad fully covered but keeping fit nonetheless

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Who is this photo for? Posting a photo like this on social media is solely to get attention from the sex that you’d find attention favorable from, which is most likely men. You’re wearing a top that is exposing a good bit of skin and trying to look sexy or good so that you can gain positive attention from men on the social media platform you’re posting this to.

SjE78 · Answer

your body, your social media profile so your choice... he knew what he was getting with when he chose to go out with you, can't say he doesn't like something you do if he still with you knowing you do it.
now if you started messaging other guys/girls and started cracking on to them or if you posted those images on dating sites then I would agree with him

Anonymous · Answer

This type of question isn't really worth asking if you know your motivations for this behavior, if you don't, then consider some usual ones. You aren't getting enough attention from your boyfriend, so you seek others to fill your need or to make him jealous to get more. You don't feel your boyfriend is giving you validation on your appearance, so you are seeking it else where. You aren't committed to your boyfriend and want to find someone else.

Any one of these motivations would be troublesome, and even if they aren't yours doesn't mean your boyfriend agrees. That picture in particular isn't overly suggestive, but it is more exposed. Whether your behavior is right or wrong is dependent on your answer to: do you want to keep your boyfriend or not?

NetSapien · Answer

I do not think it's bad no, but I also don't think it's an appropriate show of respect for the person you are with if they don't like it.

If I was in a relationship with someone that posted themselves in this way I would question their sincerity and commitment to our relationship. But I do not think it's bad in general to post these images.

1CentWorth · Answer

Well, you are knowingly showing off your body to other men. if you don't realizing you're doing it, then you need to think about what you are doing some more. Not like all women don't do this [shrugs]. But, it could be that you have a belly ring on your belly pudge, which isn't exactly super hot. Prolly take it off to bring attention away from that specific area, if you want to look the best for the other guys.

Alice2398 · Answer

No, i see girls with boyfriends post wayyyyy worst then that. Your picture is innocent and if he has a problem with it and its getting out of hand maybe try asking hil why. Seems like he doesn't trust you or is very controlling possibly time to rethink your relationship

letssee89 · Answer

No, it's not a bad photo. You've got everything covered that needs to be. But you should talk to your boyfriend about WHY it bothers him so much. It could be that posting a picture like this could be seen as looking for attention or something in his eyes and that could make him feel insecure because, if that is the case, he feels that he's not giving you the attention you need/deserve. Remember, communication is key to a successful relationship.

worldscolide · Answer

My thoughts are, you do it for attention, and validation. You might do it because you feel sexy, but the underlying subconscious thought is validation and attention... that having been said, you dont share nudes right? i dont see any issue with it as long as you aren't sharing nudes. I'd actually be proud.. My wife is incredibly hot, but she's very modest as well, and if she posted something like this, i might be shocked a bit, but not upset.

Jones_T · Answer

He fear and you do more post like this continuously, and he wishes he wanna be only one show you like that u are in this picture...

Mostly first time woman post like this, day by day more photos they are going to do like that... That's he fear in your matter.

It's my personal feel.

scarlett774 · Answer

It’s not bad at all, your literally just showing your stomach he has no right to be about that it’s your body and the pic isn’t even provocative. He should have no reason to be mad at all. Some of these comment are unbelievable

Girl7150 · Answer

It's not the picture in itself (however it IS a bit of a thirst trap), but it's your intentions behind posting the picture, which is making him insecure.
He sees it as you're looking for attention from random guys.

Are you though?

Truthatanycost · Answer

Every single time you post a picture like that, it reminds him that he is dating a cliche that does the same attention seeking poses and selfies that 99% of other women do. I'm surprised he still takes you seriously.

nawtee_me · Answer

well you are a beautiful girl and what he should be is glad you are with him. He should know that even though you post pics of yourself it is him you are with and he should be saying yes she is hot and she is mine... If it were me, I would show you off as much as I could, you are a beautiful girl.

Luciferstar · Answer

Nothing wrong with the picture,
I think you should talk to him about his Insecurities, looks to me like he's insecure that he'll loose you.
Sit down and have a chat with each other and assure him if he's having insecurities

AustinMan · Answer

He's pretty typical. Some men are pretty proprietary about their women and he possibly sees a pic like that as you sort of putting yourself out there for the world and he wants you to do it just with him.

babygirlycam · Answer

You look good, I know posting cute pics can make you more confident. I wouldn't take that from him

NathalieeC22 · Answer

Love your showing your stomach not your whole body, he shouldn’t be getting mad, he might be insecure about you, he doesn’t want other people looking at you, but he should be proud of having a girl like you, don’t ever let someone control you and tell you what you can wear or can’t wear

GhostMochi · Answer

It's not bad that you want to be confident and take photos.
I wouldn't do it personally, lol.

Just keep doing you and try to reason with your boyfriend and tell him that you don't have any ulterior motives with the pictures.

Jötunn · Answer

I think that depends on your intention, if you're posting pics like that because you wanna show off yourself then I think your boyfriend is in the wrong, if you're tryna get other people to thirst over you I believe you are in the wrong.
But all relationships are different and people like/dislike and tolerate different things, you should ask why he doesn't like it, and you should both be mindful about each others feelings regarding this issue. :)

TonyBologna25 · Answer

Any selfie like that is usually intended to grab attention. Yes, you're covered up and your outfit is fine, but everything else about the pictures reminds me of every girl on tinder.

lauraa9963 · Answer

Its just a belly. Just like showing ur leg lol. Not even a bit of cleavage so I don't know whats the problem here

Cupcakegirl93 · Answer

No, not bad at all - there’s certainly a lot worse out there. Your boyfriend is just jealous. Instead he should be bragging about you!

anqelicnight · Answer

It's not that bad. It's just a decent photo of you posing in an outfit that you feel cute in. Your boyfriend shouldn't get mad at photos like these.

lolguesswho · Answer

why is he mad? try to reasons with him and tell him that you're comfortable and liking with what you wear on the pics

Aislin9 · Answer

No, it's not really bad but why do you feel the need to despite his discomfort with it? Poor guy is probably worried he'll lose you to another guy.

ecfresh · Answer

If he gets mad it’s bad. What’s his source of anger?

MrTuxedo · Answer

I think it isn't that bad, it's not like you're in a bikini or something too revealing.

crazy8000 · Answer

It's most likely the signs of why you do it that makes him upset.

We can reverse it.
What would you feel and think if he did do the same in the same manner in a equivalent way, even answers female's that sends messages?

Pappy1955 · Answer

Not really, I've seen many over the years with a lot more skin & less clothing, some with no clothing at all. I think it's a modest attire for today.

mmat2020 · Answer

Yes it is really bad, that he would try to control you. He can give his opinion, but the limit is asking you to not post whatever you want

HOAAH · Answer

It just looks like you are desperate for Male attention or female approval

Reaperbot666 · Answer

while it is covering the key areas. could be seen as a bit reveling. if he is insecure about himself or the relationship you have together.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

Show him the comments section of your photos in social sites and tell him posting such pictures doesn't make you look like a slut.

archiz · Answer

He shouldn't be bothered by that You are not his property and you're not posting smthng indecent

DannyFanny · Answer

Unless you're almost naked or putting up ass shots then he should mind his business.

LiamSawyer · Answer

No, not at all. It's not like your nude and spreading your gorgeous thighs.

likelyOK · Answer

I don't think it's bad at all but he may just not like you fishing for attention

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, it's cute but he is jealous, trust me if he leaves you alone he will keep you but if he continues to be jealous he will lose you

scott04sa22 · Answer

Your 18 and you can do whatever you want. My ex girlfriend get mad when I post stuff on social media. Even its my photography pictures and that was also my job!!

George090 · Answer

I mean you’re wearing that for a reason, to get attention! Especially mine I’m aroused now lol, but personally I don't know why ur boyfriend is annoyed over that photo

Anonymous · Answer

No, that isn't bad in the least; he is either super controlling or highly jealous. Neither of which are good things; you should get him to straighten up or ship out.

Anonymous · Answer

You are doing that for attention. He feel threatened. I don’t think it’s appropriate to post these pics if he is unhappy about it.

angeliquedevereux2 · Answer

If he has a problem with you wanting to look confident and sexy, yeet him into the trash, queen

RHK36 · Answer

Nah, it's pretty tame. I guess depends how often and why you do it. It shouldn't be an issue if that's what most of the photos look like.

thisisausername9999 · Answer

why does he get mad? its very simple, who are you posting these pictures for? and I swear if you say yourself I will crack an egg over your head

chriscdi · Answer

why not offer to post a photo with you and him on there, maybe he would be less strict on it then

esotericstory · Answer

I dont think pics like that have much value. personally, i would unfollow someone like that because social media algorithms are gonna send more pics like that my way. I dont want that.

leonidas69 · Answer

Yeah. He's got problems. You should talk to him about it.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

It will be a big broblem olso whit me.  It is bad. Why will you show sexy photo to other boys?

abdel636 · Answer

Yes it is. Let's face it, with this kind of photo, you're fishing for attention. Not your bf's though.

Aaron_Stone · Answer

He isn't concerned about looks or how bad it is. Rather your behavior which implies attention seeking.

0oGreyo0 · Answer

Lol no. I expect this to be much worst. Insecurityt isn't attractive

rvarela · Answer

I don't seen anything wrong with it. Your fully dressed. by the way cute top

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It is frustrating for a man to date an attention whore.

problem_child · Answer

I think you can post anything you like. if he does not accept it, it is his problem, you are not his own

Compassiondude101 · Answer

Heck you’re cute. Uh oh jealous boyfriend around? Come get me and I’ll demonstrate my Kung fu knowledge 😂

OddBeMe · Answer

I don’t see a prob. It’s not overly sexy or inviting flirtations. Tho even if you did that, he should have more confidence in himself.

andy530 · Answer

You posting the pic isn’t bad in and of itself but if he has an issue with it and you do it anyway dispite his feelings then that’s kinda bad

Anonymous · Answer

So you’re trying to get more attention from other guys?  See what’s wrong with this?

Anonymous · Answer

now you posted those in here proving he is right... that you dig attention 😂

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