Uncomfortable about my boyfriend + sending inappropriate pics

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I send pictures back and forth. He's been bothering me about sending one with out a bra on recently. So I finally gave in - was really uncomfortable about it - and sent one with just panties on. Now, he wants one of my butt. He knows that it makes me sad that he asks for these pictures because it makes me feel like he just wants me for sex. I love him and he says he loves me, too. It makes me really anxious when I send pictures like that. I just don't like doing it. I've told him that and he said he understands and that I don't have to if I'm uncomfortable but then he'll get kind of mad when I say no. We almost broke up because I didn't want to send a picture of my chest because he thought that I didn't trust him or feel comfortable with him. I'm very comfortable with him but those pictures make me uncomfortable. At one point he said "I'll get the pictures." and when I asked him "From me?" and he said "Obviously not. I just don't know about this anymore." And that really hurt me. More than he knows.

I don't know what to tell him and I don't know what to do because I love him with all my heart. He's so sweet and then this comes up and it's like he's totally different. I really need some advice about what to do.

This is my first boyfriend - he's 10 months younger than I am - and I don't really know how guys are supposed to act about sex and all of that. He doesn't act like he's younger than I am, if anything he acts like he's older; I don't think of him as being younger. If you could help in any way I would really appreciate it!

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+1 y

Thanks, guys! This actually helped. I'm not going to send another picture to him. I'll tell him how I feel if he asks again.

Thanks so much! I really do appreciate it!

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+1 y

I told him exactly how I feel! And thank you guys so much for your input! He said it was alright and he'll stop. He hasn't asked me again!

[UptownGirl]

Having him be angry with you and almost breaking up with you because you don't want to send him dirty pictures is a HUGE red flag, sweetie. Especially if he knows that you don't feel comfortable with it. Stand up to him, if he breaks up with you because you don't want to do something that makes you uncomfortable then maybe he isn't the guy for you.

To be honest, he sounds like a bit of a dirty bag. Do you really want to go ahead and do this when you don't feel comfortable with it? Do you really want him to have these pictures of you if he acts like this when you're together?

Think about it. I'm sure you can find a guy who is willing to respect the boundaries that you have. The next time he pressures you for pictures and you don't want to send them, let him know again that it makes you uncomfortable and that you'd rather not. If he makes a complaint or a rude comment about "getting the pictures" then maybe you should tell him to find someone else who's willing to do that for him because you won't.

Stand up for yourself and respect your boundaries and comfort levels because he's obviously not. Don't make the same mistake that I made and let everything go until you realize that you've let too much go and there's nothing you can do about what's already happened.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

first of all, you shouldn't do anything your uncomfortable with. if you were uncomfortable with sending topless photos then you shouldn't have done it, no matter how much he bothered u. by the way, a decent guy would have respected the fact you werent comfortable doing that and dropped it. this guy cares more about his immediate gratification than your feelings. not good. if he gets mad because you say no and its to the point where you almost break up then honestly you just need to let him go. this guy cares more about getting nudes than being with u. aren't you sexually active already? if that is the case, then why does he NEED pics of you when he can see it in real life? remember that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. I hope no one can identify you from those pics because they might be floating around somewhere. I'm just being real, based on the info you gave, this is not the type of guy who would just keep it for his eyes only, you better believe someone else has or will see what u've already sent him. never compromise your values/morals/etc for anyone. he might be sweet any other time but he has to be nice to you if he wants you to consider sending pics.

[beerY33]

Dude, don't do that if you don't want to. If it's really a deal breaker for him, he's not worth it.

[stubbsy]

For a guy to ask a girl for these kind of pictures only proves that he is a low life scumbag and that your talentrs are way beyond his worth, so wait until a guy is willing to treat you like a lady because this guy is worth a swim in the sh*t pool, and your worth more than that,x

[squeakyclean]

sounds like a very immature guy if you asks me. if he doesn't spare a thought about your feelings and your priorities then he isn't worth your salt.

[MADMAX13]

He just wants to use you for sex. Just stop sending him pictures. He doesn't care about how you feel. He sounds very immature. Get him out of your life and find a guy that actually cares about how you feel. A mature guy would never ask a girl for nude pictures, I wouldn't even ask a girl for them. Hope this helps. :)

[6Paul11]

You shouldn't be sending those. It is considered child p*rnography because you are a minor. You could get in serious trouble for sending them, and he could get in serious trouble for even having them on his phone. This is no ticket, it's jail time.

[Asker]

We're both 16 though. I don't plan on sending them again. He deleted them because I didn't want him to keep them.

[6Paul11]

It doesn't matter how old you are.

[Anonymous]

He did not delete them..

Just Stop

I read some of your previous questions and this is one of your first relationships

and you have not been going out all that long

STOP NOW

[Opinion Owner]

You have already told him too many times how you feel and he has not listened once.

[Opinion Owner]

Best Answer?

[Anonymous]

He's just using you for sex and free wack-off material. Don't let this jerk-off abuse you. He's only going to end up hurting you now and in the long run because things like this can come back years later.

GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE!

[Anonymous]

then don't send it! He's 16 so all he can think about is sex