Am I being too much by refusing to send my boyfriend an uncomfortable pic?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me that he doesn't know what period blood looks like and asked me to send a pic (yes, a pic of my period blood). It was my second day and I was having cramps, plus this was extremely strange and uncomfortable for me, so I refused. He then said that he should know what it looks like, and I told him it's literally normal blood, nothing special. He then gave the explanation that if he's gonna marry me, then info is needed, and that most guys would consider it hideous. He also said that if we have a daughter in the future, then he would like to be an informed dad to her. I was confused, very much uneasy and refused to send. He's still pestering me about it. What do I do? Am I being too much?

[Gym_Bro]

Your boyfriend's curiosity might seem innocent, like a vegan wanting to try a bite of your post-workout steak, but that doesn't mean you have to oblige. Your period blood is your business, and if you're not comfortable sharing it, then that's your prerogative. It's like me refusing to let anyone see the tears I cry into my protein shake after a particularly intense leg day—some things are just personal, ya know?

Your boyfriend's argument about future fatherhood is about as valid as saying he needs to know what morning sickness feels like. Dude, he's not the one pushing a human out of his dick-sized hole, so he doesn't need all the gory details. And the whole "most guys would consider it hideous" thing? Bro, that's just toxic masculinity oozing out of his pores like sweat during a heavy bench press.

Here's the deal: I'll fall @on_my_knees if that creep stops at auntie dots and doesn't ask you for shit pics after. Your boyfriend needs to respect your boundaries, just like I'd respect his if he asked me to stop sending him dick pics every time I hit a new PR. Relationships are about give and take, like spotting your bro during a heavy lift—you support each other, but you don't force each other to do shit you're not comfortable with.

So, my advice? Sit him down, look him dead in the eye like you're about to attempt a new max deadlift, and explain why this makes you uncomfortable. If he still doesn't get it, then he's more dense than a musclehead who thinks curls are a valid back workout. At that point, you might want to consider whether this dude is worth keeping around or if it's time to trade him in for a new model.

[hahahmm]

No. If you give into this he will start asking for other things that make you uncomfortable and because you said yes to the first thing it will be harder for you to say no to the next thing. Don't go down this road.

UNLESS this guy was with you through hard times and has proven his loyalty and value, he's expendable. A boyfriend is just a boyfriend. If you dump him you can find a better boyfriend. If you don't... you are just making the time you will have to wait to find the best guy longer.

[hahahmm]

Also, check out my Mytakes that start with "Better" in the title. May give you some ideas.

[AmandaYVR]

This guy is really gross. I don't usually say this, but you would be right to question what you are doing with him.

Blood is blood. Period blood is a bit thicker, but that's about it. He's really messed up. I think it's a kink, not ignorance.

You can find better. There are lots of 'normal' men out there.

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hhhmm no picture necessary here, dont do it.. if he's that desperate leave a used tampon in the toilet bowl.. i think he has other intentions/attractions here... having intercourse (with appropriate bed protection) is actually pretty damn good, we have more testosterone then... enjoy..

[HappyWoman34]

No, I think he’s being unreasonable, by asking you to do something you’re clearly not comfortable with.

[Chazmatazz269]

Nope! Stick to your boundaries!
He’s kind of being a dick by pressuring you. Which automatically suggests he’s not ready to be a girl dad. Put your foot down and tell him as much. If he does that kind of stuff a lot, you should consider leaving him. That’s not healthy behavior in a relationship. He’s attempting to establish control over you. If you give it to him and then take it away later, you could find yourself in a dangerous situation. Power dynamics need to be established early, and changes need to be addressed immediately.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Looks like the guy is around 18 and curious honestly it's not that weird as all are claiming as each has their own prejudice here on this matter.

One side the girls don't want the guys to look at you disgustingly during your period days and on the other side if he asks questions his a weirdo or something else but who really knows.

Take some random internet pick resembling to yours and share it only the undies and If he asks more you will be clearly knowing his intentions so thats one solution to your situation.

Give him the grossest image that he should never ask again lol have some fun pull a prank 🫠.

[RingOfFire]

That is just a very weird. You should tell him that you're not comfortable doing that and please stop asking you.

If he's using that as a threat, you should tell him that you don't appreciate that. That's completely out of line. If anything he owes you and apology.

If he wants to look it up he can look it up online.

There is something really wrong with what he is telling you and you should not be afraid to tell him that it makes you uncomfortable and to please stop bringing it up. He has no right to do that to you.

[OlderAndWiser]

Even in a marriage, you are entitled to some privacy. I don't mind my girlfriend seeing me take a whiz, but if my visit to the bathroom is for more serious business, I close the door and she respects my privacy. And she doesn't want me watching her take a dump, either. I suspect you feel they about this request.

Tell him that if you are going to marry him, he needs to respect your privacy now so you know it will be respected even after you are married.

[adam6402]

That's such a strange thing to ask for, he has no right to pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with, and the reasons/excuses he gives are just ridiculous.

You don't have to send anything to him and he needs to learn to understand and respect your boundaries.

[MisterWack]

Everyone has their comfort zones, stick to yours and don’t worry about how it makes others perceive you. You can tell him comfortable photos that will make you happy then find common ground, but its not necessary especially with pictures of yourself being sent since people can use them for blackmail/other purposes at the victim’s expense so be sure it is with someone you trust deeply to not do.

[spartan55]

Wtf? Regardless if it's a weird, inappropriate request (which it absolutely is), your boyfriend should respect the fact that you are uncomfortable and don't want to send pictures of that. This is a fundamental lack of respect on his part, and if I were you, I would not be havin it

[AviatorTom]

He's just trying to get you to send him a picture of your privates.

Send him this picture of period blood, posted online by a gynaecologist, which I found via search engine...

[Anonymous]

So many red flags here. Coercing you into sending private pictures you're uncomfortable with (I strongly suspect this is a fetish) and also trying to make you feel ashamed of your body by saying most guys would consider it hideous. You don't need to see period blood to be an informed dad. He doesn't take no for an answer. I highly recommend dumping him tbh

[Anonymous]

No, it sounds like he’s just got a weird kink about it. He doesn’t need pics to learn about periods.

if you’ve shown yourself to be a bit of a prude or someone who it would be reasonable to think you might not be into period sex, he’s trying to gradually warm you up to the idea and this could serve as a good way to make you comfortable enough to open the door.

[edmwarrior]

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Live for yourself, not to please others. Never feel bad about it. Take it from an older guy who’s still struggling with this. Life is too short to live, just to please others. These same people will carry on with their lives if you ever die.

[nawtee_me]

No you are not being too much. Tell him before you show him that you both should talk about periods and what a women goes through with them. Then when it is that time next month show him while you two are together. No pics… if he wants to be an informed possible dad then he should see it for real.

he is wrong about most men considering it to be hideous. It is a natural process and it should be talked about and understood by guys…. For that part I agree with him.

[genericname85]

lol no. if he wants to see period blood, there's google. i can understand when someone is feels let down by their partner not sharing their life with them in that way but i don't think it's unreasonable to deny that.

[Surely]

Have sex with him during your period. Then he can actually see the blood and the mess! As for the picture. You can send him a picture of a used tampon or pad. Unless he wants to see your vagina with the blood coming out.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm getting some weird vibes about this guy... and that's coming from a guy that jerks off to videos of chicks fucking their dogs online. Think about that... this isn't normal.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It's your body and what you're carrying. If period pictures make you uncomfortable, tell him. But if he's pestering you just stand your ground and keep saying no. He needs to learn it is a no.

[HaleyWalker]

F*** no it's up to you. The only reason I say this is cuz I constantly get asked if this on Snapchat so it's f****** annoying and I feel your pain. Lol

[Fireguy17]

if he is that interested in it have him look it up on the google, I'm sure there are millions of pictures out there for his viewing pleasure.
Look it up and send him a link to see it.
Otherwise I would just say no.

[bonoaplimapp]

Wtf… I mean it’s probably harmless curiosity but pushing you to show that is kinda strange. Only show him if you’re comfortable, just like with anything. Don’t let him cross boundaries bc it might reinforce the idea that he could do it more and more.

[Sevenpointfive]

put some raspberry jam on your fingers around a pool of ketchup on the floor. and possibly shit next or in the middle of it.

if he likes that then he's got a good souvenir. he's not the one

[sheikalana]

Listen I've been with my Husband for two years and he never made such disgusting request. Your boyfriend is acting like an idiot. If he's so curious tell him to google it. Such a weirdo.

[JacobJordan]

Show him in person. Or Google a picture. It is the same for every woman and surely someone has posted a picture of it online

[TommyMountainFigure]

Tell him to type it into google as it's there for all to see! Although, why he'd want to is beyond me!

[Apple1996]

He could google period blood if he's that curious

[Nikki1989]

That is a deeply disturbing request. What is wrong with him?

[Jmmmfi4]

EXACTLY

[ProbablyClueless]

You're definitely not being too much. Sending a pic of your period blood is such a weird request.

If he wants to see what period blood looks like so bad, tell him to google it.

[NathanDavis]

send him a pic of watered ketchup...

[clampfan101]

He’s being too pushy, and is not respecting your privacy. Plus that’s just a weird thing to focus on. If he doesn’t start respecting you than you’re better off finding someone new.

[Alex-Snow]

I would hope he is more interested in other things than that. It is kinda weird. Besides blood is blood.

[Anonymous]

F*** him! Send him this!

If he wants to ask clownish questions, give him a clownish response.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/HNnCL0q3EuI

[Wise4myage]

Wow, he sounds very weird to me, so you were justified in saying no.

[msc545]

Tell him to cut his arm and look at THAT blood which is the same.

[UnknownGagsUser]

Im sorry but this is too weird? Like who on earth especially men would ask to see period bloods?

[SotiCoto]

So tell him to stop disrespecting your boundaries.

[Juxtapose]

If they don't respect your boundaries then they don't respect you.

[LiamJHayden]

Sounds like a creep. Consider dumping him. There really are normal guys out there.

[onedarkcloud]

Please be warry there is something very wrong with this.

[xPendragonx]

That's messed up. Tell him to grow up amd stop asking you to do things you're uncomfortable with. Men can be the worst sometimes.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds pretty creepy no lie

[Anonymous]

He’s a red flag run

[Opinion Owner]

What a fucking creep

[DrPepper12]

GTFOH with that. Say NO! Its weird tbh

[KittygosMeoWW]

What the Edward Cullen

[Iron_Man]

No, don’t send out nudes

[SugarSugarplum]

FAKE:

[impalabill77]

That is messed up that he wants one.

[MacDaddyRico]

He sounds like someone you should break up with

[In_Trance]

Why can't he just Google a picture?

[RedInnocent69]

Not if you’re uncomfortable.

[DreamLife7]

TROLL

[Anonymous]

That's just weird

[Anonymous]

That is really fucked up