What should I do about my boyfriend sending/receiving naked pics of other women?

Anonymous
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years
I have caught him several times sending and recieving nudes from other women. The latest was from a coworker ( by the way we work at the same place ) He has also cheated on me in the past. He knows how I feel about it, but he continues to do it. I find out every time by looking at his phone. I am aware that this is a breach of privacy, but he has a history and his past actions have kept me in a state of complete distrust and insecurity. So I look at his phone from time to time. Please explain to me the difference between privacy and secrets? I do feel awful for looking at his phone, I know it pisses him off, but his history makes me unable to help myself. And guess what? Every single time I break down and look, I find something. This time it was him sending and receiving nudes from a coworker. I confront him every time, and this time, it led to him almost hitting me. He feels like there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. "Everybody does it." I must be a prude, because I don't do it. But even if "everybody does it" if he knows that I am not ok with it, why does he continue to do it? Disrespect and total lack of care for my feelings for what? What should I do? I love him, but every time this happens I lose a little more respect for him and a lot more trust. I'm at a loss and really need some advice.
What should I do about my boyfriend sending/receiving naked pics of other women?
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