Why do some people THINK they know everything about depression and bipolar, when they ACTUALLY doesn't know SHIT?

[Anonymous]

Like with my dad. He's basically the type to go: "Therapy is pointless. Meds are pointless. Just man up!"

In regards to depression, he literally says: "Just give yourself a lot of stuff to do! Work 2 jobs at once! Take several difficult courses at college at the same time, join multiple clubs! The more occupied and stressed out you are, the less time you have to think about your depression! And your depression will therefore be a thing of the past instantly!"

And in regards to bipolar, he literally says: "Just fucking control yourself! All because you don't feel good doesn't give you the right to go on a psychotic manic episode! Manic episodes can be prevented with a little bit of self control! It's all your fault, really!"

AND OH MY FUCKING GOD... JUST WRITING THIS IGNORANT SHIT FUCKING PAINS ME...

In general, I TRY to avoid people that are THIS stupid... BUT I'm unable to get a job or go to school for personal mental health reasons/mental disorders/illnesses, and I'm FORCED to stay with my dad and mom. So I literally CAN'T avoid his stupid speeches.

[Kaneki05]

Tbf "Just give yourself a lot of stuff to do" is accurate.
As there is tons of proven data to show that working and keeping active will reduce depression, in fact much of therapy like CBT to help is about creating a routine and giving yourself things to do.
Keep a diary to write in cause it keeps you busy another part of CBT.

It's also why gaming and writing, and all the things I do helps me. So I have my own self as proof to that as well.
I did find meds for myself useless and therapy tbh but that don't mean that applies to everyone.

His point on bipolar is dumb, and he does sound dumb. Just he is accidently I would imagine right about those in a way. In realty his responses are out of his own selfish wants. He probably wants you out of the house so that's for his own cause, rather than caring about you sadly. But he cares enough to not kick you out unlike my no longer mother so that's something.

Honestly it can even help your mental health just by not been around him. But then been kicked out is it's own problem of course.

[Phoenix98]

I don't wanna say your dad is right because that's not always the answer but that's basically how I beat extreme depression I just fought an up hill battle against it and beat it through will power.

But I don't recommend that path for everyone though I don't really think meds are the answer either since it's easy to become an addict that way and you then get to a point where you can't function without that medication.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

A lot of people assume their experience is the norm and there hasn’t been anything to challenge them. It’s not your responsibility to educate them, nor is it your obligation to interact with them if you feel it’s a pointless endeavor. A lot of these people are well-intentioned but are unaware of their ignorance, as most of us are when we learn something new. The burden of knowledge is often forgetting what it is to not know that piece of knowledge, and so we treat those who don’t know as somehow lesser for not knowing what we feel everyone should already know. These people can be frustrating, but your life is probably much more peaceful without their presence, if you feel so inclined to take such actions.

[MemeSupreme]

i mean they're kinda right but wrong at the same time bc they think it's normal mental health issues and not a mental disorder

like it's not straightforward as "just control it" or "stay so busy you forget about it" bc that's not how a mental disorder works. they just don't get it and don't want to either which is frustrating as hell but it is what it is... they're not gonna change about it

[Alex8736]

Oh I know how you feel when it comes to ignorance.. What people don't understand is it's a chemical imbalance of the frontal lobe and cerebral cortex. An analogy of ignorance for example would be going to an AA or NA meeting and the one chairing the meeting would say "I know how you feel" where they never had a drink or a drug in their life and telling someone to say "just stop"

[slatyb]

Are you getting treatment?

[jahaims]

They are ignorant obviously