How to minimize the power of mistakes?

[Anonymous]

For some reason i don’t know if it’s me trying to be perfect or 100% or being hard on myself. But whenever I make a mistake it’s feels like I’ll never get another shot. Like at work for example I make mistakes sometimes. But one day for instance I made a mistake the same one every one in my position has made and I don’t get put on that spot or job for a month. It’s just very frustrating being like this especially when life hasn’t gotten better or worse.

[prettygurlrock]

That was something I had to learn too, I was the type of person if I made a mistake the whole world was over. As I gotten older, I realized mistakes doesn’t make you, how you REACT AND RESPOND do. It’s been plenty of things I have failed or made mistakes but I don’t let that determine me as a person. You are going to make mistakes, you are going to fail not bc you’re perfect but that’s LIFE!! life is not perfect and you’re not either once you figure out life, I swear you’ll be okay with making mistakes! I hope this help, sending peace your way!

[TheRealPepperPotts]

What do you fear will happen if you make a mistake?

[Asker]

That I won’t get another chance to prove to others that I can accomplish whatever task they’re asking of me or anyone.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Please know that I am asking these questions as an exercise and to help process, not to put you on the spot or cause anxiety, OK? I have a couple more questions that might be helpful, and you can just answer them to yourself if you like. So, a couple things:

What evidence do you have for the idea that you won't get another chance?
Would you give someone another chance if the situation were reversed, and you had the power to make a decision about them?
Can you extend the same grace to yourself in your work that you would give to someone else? Can you critique yourself fairly, without expecting an unrealistic level of performance?

Just some things to ask to guide yourself toward your conscious mind, and out of your subconscious one.

[Sasquach]

Don't worry about making mistakes. Everyone makes them. The way you differentiate yourself is in the recovery. Get the blessing of a lesson and move on.

[normalice]

If you have made a mistake and are still alive then you definitely got another shot. A lot of people don't.