At what age did you feel like you found yourself?

Question

I think at 25 I finally started putting the pieces together and my life started getting better.

But there’s still a lot I want to work on. Some days are really rubbish (like today) but I just know it’s because I’m not where I want to be yet emotionally.

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say I've found myself yet. I've made a lot of the right choices though, I served 6 years in the military, I have 2 degrees (starting a third soon), I started investing at 17, I was/is very frugal, and I currently have a high paying job. All while I feel completely hollow and lost.

I don't know what I want to do. I feel like I know who I am but I don't really live a life I like currently. I'm both lonely and surrounded by people. I'm successful yet feel like I've achieved nothing. I'm constantly told by people they envy my position yet I feel like my position isn't good or that I've actually done anything.

I understand that this sounds like a lot of self pity but this time made me really wonder what's the point of it all?

The only thing I do know is I want to get married and raise a family.

I have a big change planned in my life upcoming and I hope that helps.

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

It's always one year older than whatever age I am right now.

When you stop learning and rediscovering yourself it means you've died.

At 18 I knew it all. Until I was 20 that is and I realized I knew nothing but was so relieved that I finally knew everything.

Until I was 25 that is when I realized I knew nothing and was so glad I finally figured it all out.

Until I was 30 that is when I realized that everything I thought I knew was almost completely wrong. But I was so glad to turn 30 and finally know everything.

Until I turned 40 that is...

And 50 ...

And 60

and...

I suppose the learning will finally end when I die. And the sad part is that all that knowledge will die with me and I know that the next generation will have to start the process all over again.

It's too bad that youth is wasted on the young.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I do a mini retreat to find/rediscover myself every year and to let go of toxic baggage. Life changes and it’s good to check that your goals/values are still intact at the end of each year.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Everything came together around the age of 21. It has been smooth sailing ever since.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Age 28, when I started law school.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

At 2 years old I had myself mostly figured out, at 5 I knew everything I wanted and was already adult minded.
I'm still the same in terms of what I like and don't like, anything new was just extensions of that baseline.
So some things changed/got added, but its more like knowing you enjoy video games early on, then much later a new game comes out that you never knew you needed until you saw it. So my core interests/personality/hobbies remained the same essentially.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Men don't have the luxury of "losing" ourselves in the first place. For women, "finding yourself" usually means riding the cock carousel from about 16 to 29.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Finding yourself is always an ongoing process. I felt the same at 25 but changed again as time when on.  It is really about  accepting  yourself.

EmmaMary · Answer

@lostandfound__x  I'm of the belief that we never, ever truly find ourselves... Sometimes when you think you have, something makes you doubt yourself.

Rei13 · Answer

Somewhere between 28-30, but honestly it is an ongoing process. I’m not the same as I was 10yrs ago and I probably won’t be the same in another 5-10

Unit1 · Answer

25 sounds about right to me too, although i must say it would have been so much sooner if I wasn't trapped with my toxic family, trapped in a horrendous country and financially devastated and feeling like i was in a forced labor camp. Literally the only outside views I could get from within was (1) the internet and (2) GAG.

Then with 27 I finally broke free, escaped and severed all ties, that held me down all along. There is no turning back.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think I had that realization around 26 or so. I had a career, a house and wanted a son or daughter in my life.

NathanDavis · Answer

around 16... a better, truer, more complete version of myself... let's say

BetaBucks · Answer

15 or 16. Everything else has just been fine tuning after that.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It began around 7 or 8 y/o when I learned to handle grandma. Afterwards, I just needed to polish up the details :)

lightbulb27 · Answer

Maybe late 40s. I continue to find myself… you will live several lives.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'm aware of who i am and what i need since i was 16

sheikalana · Answer

Late 20s that’s when I found my true purpose in life.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I’m still working on finding myself at the age of 27

paledreams · Answer

Very late and great at around 28-30. I'm 30 now. Most likely 28. 👀😋

DrPepper12 · Answer

25 was when I put the toys away and started demanding more of myself

BarryLiverstone · Answer

The work started around 19 and I’m pretty close. Ideally wanna keep improving into the future.

Anonymous · Answer

I say 30 comfortably in my skin ability to come out of the closet.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Life is a constant work in progress that never ends regardless of age. We find ourselves and adapt along the way hence why we act and possibly think a little differently as we age.

belle_kai · Answer

After a breakup in my late twenties. I'm still learning things but I'm more confident now then I ever have been

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I found myself the very first time I looked in the mirror!

Zlantur2 · Answer

Early 20s, middle 20s got even more serious and last couple of years I know where I stand, what I need to finalise and have plans for the future.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Hard to say. I’d have to guess around my late 20’s 28-29

katiesmuff · Answer

Probably sometime in my mid to late twenties.

LazerBean · Answer

I never really understood what that even means

exitseven · Answer

Maybe 45 or so.

Theodoricus · Answer

At 32, i guess.

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

It was 30 for me.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

I am still on that journey. lol

Celticwolf78 · Answer

25 because I hung out with grown ups my whole life

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t go by that it is what it is

bowenw · Answer

Still looking.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Like at 18 I think

RedInnocent69 · Answer

48 and still waiting. 🤔😂

Anonymous · Answer

I've never felt that way, and never will

jahaims · Answer

Around 10

4ngelic · Answer

maybe 15

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