What’s something that happened in you’re past that still messes with you?

[MLGbreezy]

When I was young I was treated very differently I don't know if it was cause I was black but I was never really given the benefit of the doubt in many situations. I was sometimes a quiet kid when I was young especially in new situations I remember me and my parents had just moved and I was at a relatively new school, it was recess and the other were playing on this swing set and one kid asked me to push him so I did. He kept asking me to push him higher and at one point I told him we should stop any higher and you might fall. He said it was fine and to push him higher so I did and welp he falls and bursts into tears. Immediately the other kids started villainizing me the teacher comes over and when I tried to explain that it was just an accident the other kids called me a liar and said is purposefully did what I did to hurt the kid. Especially this one little white girl teacher took her side and started yelling at me I just walked away. The teacher said I was in the wrong even after I explained what happened they told the main class teacher and called my parents. The main class teacher also yelled at me and she was worse she’s one of those teachers who didn’t like me since day one she called me a bad person and a liar. After that I spent my time alone especially during recess the other kids would laugh some asking why I did what I did and when I’d say it want my fault they’d call me a liar and run away laughing. I became very well acquainted with being by myself that was in kindergarten and honestly things didn’t really get much better till the third grade if that. Mostly because I went mute till some kind teachers helped change my perspective and helped me express myself more. The ones who gave me the benefit of the doubt.

[midnightmoon05]

Thank you for sharing your story…makes me feel sad and if you were in my class, I would have gave you a hug… even though they said we are not allow to touch kids… stupid!! Sometimes a hug and a pair of ears are all that a kid needs.

I don’t often look back to negative things. Regardless of how bad things maybe。…I didn’t know that about my personality till met my second hubby..

he said most don’t think like me that’s why I am successful that I don’t let negativity get in my way…

I hope you have moved on from and in a better place. Don’t let life pull you down.

did I get teased? Sure, I can share that. but I moved on to better things in life. Did other bad things happen to be? Of course…

[MLGbreezy]

I used to be the same way o faced a lot of bullying growing up but I never really considered myself to be a kid who was bullied. But in recent years I can’t say the same I definitely struggle with a lot more now as an adult and it does effect me more then it used to

[MLGbreezy]

But I appreciate you’re kind words

[midnightmoon05]

What are somethings you are struggling with as an adult?

[MLGbreezy]

Dating it is not fun

[MLGbreezy]

That problem sounds so dumb lol but I don't know the feeling of being unwanted never feels good ig maybe that’s something that unknowingly stuck with me from when I was young from situations like this being alone

[midnightmoon05]

Have you check out YouTube how to date?
It wasn’t easy for me or many others…
Do you have confidence?

[MLGbreezy]

Trust me I’ve tried it all but I think it’s a bit different for guys and girls not to say that I haven’t had my fair share of success it I think I just need to get myself out there. More while also taking better care of myself. And choosing better girls to talk too.

[midnightmoon05]

Love the last 2 sentences … sets you apart from many others who are very negative! Good lucky.

[Bethany22]

Try to forgive yourself for going along with what someone dumber than you wanted to do and then getting in trouble for it. I think that's what stuck with you the most in that experience.

Something eye opening yet valuable that I learned really early on in kindergarten is that what matters most is who tells on who first, and not the severity of what the person was doing. Cause when someone tells on you, and you try and say it was in self defense, the teachers still take the one that told on you'd side.

[MLGbreezy]

That’s true that little girl had it out for me for no reason I think more then anything I just didn’t like how I was being mad out to do something purposefully when I didn’t that broke my heart as a kid and anytime someone now tries to do that it immediately ticks me off

[MLGbreezy]

The experience taught me a lot like life isn’t fair something I’m still learning to this day to be fair

[Anonymous]

Got in trouble for flirting back and forth with a girl in kindergarten.

[MLGbreezy]

Man sounds like kindergarten was just a shitty time for everyone

[ManOnFire]

Wow, I had a case like that too in 2nd grade. She was the one who first started the little notes and we passed them back and forth, then when the teacher saw and didn't like it, the girl blamed me and said she was going to tell my mom! LOL

[midnightmoon05]

Kindergarten? lol
My son came home with a behavior chart everyday… I just signed it and laughed off… because he was bored in class so he misbehaved… he was fine in 1st grade on.
I went to meet with the principal… I told her that he was bored in class and needed more challenging work that’s why he iis acting up… she said don’t give him extra work and gave no solutions…
So I told him… if kids hit you, you hit them back. He learned to defend himself since and was I called in to the principle … sure… at lease now my son knows how to defend himself and not get bullied.

[ManOnFire]

@midnightmoon05 My mom taught me the same thing too. Kids would bully me, I would fight back, and yet I was the one who would end up in the principle's office lol. The school system loves letting the bad kids off.

[douride2]

Yes. But I don't really talk about it.

[MLGbreezy]

That’s fine too